Would You Get Hurt If Someone Is Called Better-looking Than You

What's it called when people think they are better than everyone else?

Ego.Please allow me to share with you about the ego because it can affect you and anyone of us.Left unrestrained, the ego can cause relationships to break down. It can affect your performance and results and eventually destroy your life.The ego is an over-consciousness of your being and an unhealthy attachment to it. It has a tendency to make you think and feel that you are bigger and better than who you really are and better than the others around you.In reality, it is a cover up of your fears, inadequacies, and insecurities. That's why, it tends to be critical and judgmental and is inclined to make others inferior to yourself.The ego seeks to own and dominate others. It wants to control every situation and outcome.While manifesting pride, arrogance and conceitedness on the surface, deep within, it desires to be accepted and approved.Paradoxically, it tends to hurt others while getting hurt easily.The ego is not your true self. It lives in a false reality and views the world from an ethnocentric perspective.It is self-conscious and self-centered. At every given opportunity, it is self-glorifying and seek it's self-interest.By doing that, it blinds you to your weaknesses. It makes you live in a world of your own make beliefs.Unfortunately, when you are so full of yourself, you shortchange yourself. You turn yourself into a smaller being, living in a world that has been shrunk by your self-absorbed mind.It shuts you from the truths and prevents you from seeking the correct path to a better future. It competes with your heart that wants to serve a higher calling and fulfil a worthwhile cause.The ego needs to be fed but it will never be satisfied. In fact, it will become hungrier and it will grow until it becomes bigger than you. Gradually, it will devour you.The paradoxical truth about the ego is that you cannot control it without being controlled by it. You cannot manage it unless you replace it with a far more compelling driver and purpose.You need to harness and channel the good in you and drive it in the right direction and towards the right aspiration.Obviously, you need to continue to discipline yourself from feeding the ego and allowing it to rear it's ugly head even for the slightest moment.You need to consciously detach yourself from whatever will lead you to self-indulgence, over-confidence, and vainglory

How does it feel to date a guy who's way better looking than yourself?

Demoralizing! In most of my relationships I have been the more attractive one or on equal footing with my partner. On two occasions I did date men who were Prince Charming, “soap opera” hot. I’m still not sure why they picked me at the time.This was my experience in both cases:Women would flirt with him right in front of me. Like I wasn’t even there. At parties, in the checkout line, in the queue at a theme park. There was nothing I could do or say without looking crazy and insecure. There’s a scene in the book Twilight where Bella and Edward are on a date and the waitress sizes up Bella and then proceeds to hit on Edward throughout their meal. Sorry to use this lame book as an example, but I relate to that scene.It was impossible not to notice other people’s confusion, and it stung. We’d walk into a room. They’d look at him. They’d look at me. They’d look at him. They’d try to do the math, and I could read the whole process on their face. If a man is with a prettier woman, people assume he’s funny or rich. When the inverse occurs, people don’t know what’s going on!Even friends would ask probing questions that betrayed their true feelings of bewilderment. “How did you meet him?” “Why was he single?” “I’m impressed that a guy like him wouldn’t just date models. He must be a really good guy.” “Wow, you must really trust him.” Women can be jealous and want to put you in your place by letting you know how good you’ve got it.I occasionally wondered if I was an experiment or a test of his character.I felt like I had no power in the relationship. If we had a fight, there were a million girls happy to replace me.I felt like I had to constantly be on my game. No leaving the house without makeup. No gaining 5 pounds.These guys weren’t talented or generous in bed. They never had to be.I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop. When it didn’t, I yanked it off and threw it. I broke up with both guys to head off what I felt was inevitable heartbreak.Maybe the problem was my own vanity, but dating a much hotter guy made me unhappy. I would rather have parity in a relationship.

What does it feel to be called ugly or to receive a message online from somebody saying you are ugly?

As someone who has spent more than half her life hearing the people around her call her ugly, I’m sure I am qualified to answer this question.Back in school, I was extremely under-confident about my looks. Even my closest friends used to comment -“Don’t wear eyeliner - it only looks good on pretty girls.”or “You should lose some weight. Maybe then you’d look better.”or make remarks about my crush like - “If he has to date someone, he would choose a girl who is good-looking, not you.”It used to hurt. A lot.I still remember those insulting remarks word for word. They used to play in my head all day long, making me hesitate before approaching a stranger. I was torn with the fear they wouldn’t listen to me because I wasn’t attractive.Every morning I used to wake up, look at my face in the mirror and wish my eyes were bigger, my nose smaller, my hair more lustrous, my lips fuller, my cheeks rounder, my forehead a little smaller… In fact, I used to curse every facial feature of mine - try and adjust them and see, if by some miracle, I could be beautiful some day.I was overwhelmed with insecurities to such an extent that I used to stutter even in matters of giving a presentation, or reading out text from a book - stuff that I was otherwise good at.Every activity I participated in was marred by the constant self-doubt that I wouldn’t make it to the top because I wasn’t pretty enough.This affected my grades and my ability to make friends - it almost turned me into a recluse who used to spend most of her time locked up in her room, wallowing in self-pity.Life as a teenager was tough.It took me several years to overcome my insecurities and make myself believe that no matter how I looked, I was worthy of respect.That I too, was worthy of love.And now, if anybody calls me ugly online (it doesn't happen in real life - adults aren't as cruel as teenagers), I'll simply block them and move on.If someone thinks my face isn't pretty, they are welcome to have that opinion. It won't affect me in any way.PS: In case you’re wondering, this answer has some more ‘then and now’ pictures of myself for reference.

My sister is prettier than me and it's killing my self-esteem. What should I do?

I should go ahead and say my sister is also prettier than me. And it used to give me a bitter taste in my mouth.I am the youngest one in my family, and as siblings, we look after each other. Well, normally the elder ones were in charge and had the responsibility to protect and provide the younger.So since I was a child, I was bitchy and demanding and I wanted things to go my way, including people’s affection.Everything went well my way for first couple years of my life, until I came to an age to realize who is the prettiest of all. I still tried to fool myself that I was still the best, and the most beautiful, and that’s why I am my mom’s favorite child. But that trick did not work so well with outsiders.My sister is astonishingly beautiful and everyone liked her. All the boys in schools and college. She had many male friends came to the house and hung out. Some of them were handsome too. And all of their attention went to my sister.I didn’t take that so well.I was jealous with her look. I tried to get people’s attention. I hoped my sister’s male friends liked me more than her. When they were trying to talk to my sister, I jumped into the conversation and started talking, trying to make them like me.I pretended that I didn’t care about her followers. I also acted mean to my sister. I hated the fact that I had no follower while she had a bunch of them. I hated the fact that she didn’t need to try so hard but people still liked her. I hated that she was a ball of joy, while I was grumpy the whole time.I wish I could tell you somehow I figured it out and I started to treat her well, but in fact I didn’t. Not until I grew up and I managed to nurture myself and my self-esteem.My sister is still breathtakingly beautiful, but she didn’t have a good marriage. She divorced and is a single mom while I am living happily with my husband. I feel sad for her.You see, if you love yourself enough, you will not need to worry about people’s affection. And you will not even care about the look. It is not about how pretty you are, but it is about how happy you are.Enjoy your time with your sister, feel happy for her pretty look while you still can. And DO NOT think about yourself as the uglier, which reduces your self-esteem as you are doing right now. Focus on what you have, build your confidence and knowledge.You are loved. You are pretty. And you know it.It starts with you.