Would You Stay Married If .

Are you more likely to stay married if your parents had a happy marriage?

Are you more likely to stay married if your parents had a happy marriage?Well.. it didn’t work for me. My parents were very happily married for 40 years, until my father died. Mom never remarried and died 27 years later.My sister was also married 40 years, until her husband died. It’s only been a couple years, but she has no plans to remarry.Then there’s me and my two brothers.One brother has never married. He lived with Mom from birth until she died 5 years ago. He’s been living on the street for the last 3 years.My older brother was married twice. The first only lasted a year or two. The second lasted almost 30 years.And me? First marriage lasted 7 years. Second lasted… well… technically 15 years, but we were separated for the last five years of the marriage. I have no plans to ever remarry, either.

Should you stay married to someone you no longer love because of the kids?

I have been in this position, and I will tell you what I did and the aftermath 14 years later.I was in a marriage with 2 children about 6 and 9, when my husband started sleeping with our close friends' 20-something daughter who lived next door, with her own boy, about 5. I was on disability, he was a carpenter, we had two kids, and….I could not afford to leave. Yes, there are services for battered and abused women, but for the rest of us, the reality is, you are going to be poor, unless you have a great job with benefits for your kids. Are the kids going to be better off poor and fatherless? In my case, I just took it, and did my best. In actuality, the kids were in hell, and I was in hell. When a small inheritence came my way, I jumped at the chance to leave when I could, and tried to get the kids, now 17 and 14, to come with me. My daughter begged me to stay, at least through until her graduation from high school, eight months away. She really begged.I thought hard on it, weighing the consequences. The plain facts were that I suffered from bipolar disorder, and had tried to commit suicide three times in the past 5 years. My daughter remembers the ambulances, and being mocked at school the next day, and from then on.My husband could manipulate me easily, had done so many times before. He could and did the same to the kids. So, given even a small window of time, my opportunity could vanish. I could feel myself dying, and in a perverse turn of action, I no longer wanted to die, but to really live. To experience and learn, to become the real me…etc, etc.The final decision was made a couple of days later, after an event staged by my husband that left me so debased and demeaned that I started packing right away. The kids declined to come along, and I left, buying a place three hours away, and starting over. The first year, they called and visited, my son came to stay with me but returned home a few months later.Now, my kids are grown, but I don't really have any relationship with either one. I have a granddaughter but never get to speak with her, she's eight now. She knows of me, and my daughter accepts my letters, but I hardly ever get a response.I really want to be a grandma. But it isn't my call.Would I have stayed, if I could do it over?I would have died, I truly think. That would have been much worse for the kids, IMO.This way, they have someone to be the brunt of their anger, much as it pains me.That's my story. I hope it helps.

Would you stay married to your husband if you found out he was bisexual (for wives)?

This is completely wrong based on the Bible. God made Adam and Eve….not Adam and ‘Eves'. In my view, I would have first pray and ask God to make him come to realisation what he is doing is not what we believe to be right. Or in another case I'd talk to him repeatedly about that matter and if he chooses not to change and listen I'd definitely separate and if time goes by and he still haven't shown to me any change I'd opt for a divorce. This is my view!!!!

Why would a cheating spouse want to stay married?

Why wouldn’t they want to stay married?If they didn’t want to be married, they wouldn’t have had an affair, they would have said “I want a divorce so I can go with someone else.” The whole point of having an affair is to stay married while being with someone else behind your spouses back.A bigger question is “why did they have an affair?”If they tend to fall in love with multiple people, but were afraid to talk with your openly about their feelings and desire to be in multiple relationships, they may have still loved you but had an affair because of their desire for multiple relationships.If they are a user, they may have had an affair because they really don’t care about you and wanted to get sex elsewhere, but don’t want to end the marriage because they don’t want to lose whatever it is they get from you—a paycheck, a home, maid service, etc.If they are someone who is compelled to break the rules, they may have had an affair for the thrill of it, but don’t to deal with the consequences of their misbehavior. Or maybe they have a kind of Catholic guilt thing going on where they want to be punished, but didn’t expect the price to be so high.If they were going through a “rough patch,” depression, mid life crisis, etc, they may have fallen into the affair not because they wanted to be in one but because it made them feel better at the time and they lacked the self control to stop themselves, but they know they were wrong and don’t want their loving marriage with you to be destroyed by their failure.Obviously, if cheating is a deal breaker for you, you should go ahead and get that divorce. But if you are getting the divorce because you think your spouse obviously doesn’t want to be married to you any more, you might want to learn why they cheated first, and use that information to decide if your marriage is worth trying to save.