Would You Stop Being Friends With Him Too

Should I stop being friends with him if I still have feelings?

Are you strong enough to handle the friendship, despite the negative things that might arise, due to your unrequited love?Pain of rejection? Jealousy?Is this friend so important and irreplaceable, or you are just sub-conciously just using this label “friend” to be close to this person?It’s not a bad thing per se, unless it backfires and you get hurt in the end. Just be honest with yourself, nothing more and nothing less.Keep in mind also that just having feelings for somebody will never hurt you, only your own expectations will.In all frankness, it’s a very thin line to walk. I tried it once and the mental pressure can be hard to deal with.Using rationality to keep yourself grounded from doing something that feels very natural, such as dreaming and fantasizing about this person. Stopping yourself from making plans for the future, how you would do things together, in a very different way than you are doing now. More intimate and deeper developments that you must be craving for, that are bottled up inside you.Your imagination is creating the expectations, nobody else.On the other hand, this person could be totally unaware of your feelings and both of you could end up being hurt, for different reasons.Reflect all of these questions in front of the mirror. Be completely honest, ask yourself the hard questions, before making a decison.You might also find bravery in yourself to confess how you really feel to this person. Which could be the best option, in a way.If they don’t feel the same (this is also a potential scenario), the worst thing that can happen is you get your response. Maybe they don’t want you like you want them.Then, after some time passes, you’ll be able to move on.Only then, somebody else that will feel the same for you as you for them, can land in your orbit.That’s wouldn’t be such a bad thing, I would say.As you’d get to keep your friend and have a more suitable partner in another person.

Is it okay to stop being friends with someone because of their political opinion?

This question reminds me of this old joke:Once I saw this guy on a bridge about to jump. I said, "Don't do it!"He said, "Nobody loves me."I said, "God loves you. Do you believe in God?"He said, "Yes." I said, "Are you a Christian or a Jew?" He said, "A Christian." I said, "Me, too! Protestant or Catholic?" He said, "Protestant." I said, "Me, too! What franchise?" He said, "Baptist." I said, "Me, too! Northern Baptist or Southern Baptist?" He said, "Northern Baptist." I said, "Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist or Northern Liberal Baptist?"He said, "Northern Conservative Baptist." I said, "Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region, or Northern Conservative Baptist Eastern Region?" He said, "Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region." I said, "Me, too!"Northern Conservative†Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1879, or Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912?" He said, "Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912." I said, "Die, heretic!" And I pushed him over.To me, to end an existing friendship solely based a difference of political opinion is both foolish and unwise.I would like to point out in this so-called hyper-partisan time that (within the extremely large main stream of political thought) I as a liberal and a democrat have far more agreement with a conservative and a republican than I have disagreement.We both want what is best for this country. We both believe in the American political system. We both believe in the rule of the law. We both believe in the Constitution.I think, if you were to look at your friend, you too would find you agree more than you disagree.Secondly, I think I am right. For me to forsake a friendship over political opinion is to also forsake influence.Here is an example.My friend, Gary, did not like black people in general. “Those people” he would say and trot out some stereotype or another.But, he did like individual black people. Marvin was his co-worker, hunting sidekick, fishing buddy, bowling teammate, and card partner. Marvin was black.I suppose you could have labelled him a racist. I did not.When President Obama first ran for the presidency, Gary was initially upset with “those people” taking over.On the golf course one day in late summer, I said gently, “I know you think of Obama as ‘those people,’ but I think you should think of him as Marvin.”He voted for Obama twice.And Trump.Win some, lose some..

When should you stop being a friend with someone?

When it feels like a one-sided friendship, and you're the one giving all the support, and making all the effort when there's nothing in their life that's preventing you from putting some effort into your friendship.And when I say nothing, I of course include tricky health situations, serious problems with their family, impending bankruptcy and total lack of control of how they are behaving.And even when they have serious problems with their life, there's no reason they can't let you in, or simply allow you to be there.But people react differently. So watch out what goes in their life. Having found a new partner, job, other friends isn't a good-enough excuse to cast you aside completely.And this is the more subtle one.Obviously you should stop being friends with people that have betrayed you, continuously let you down, failed to show up when you needed them, people who can't share the joy (some love to help during disaster, but they should be available for the good days too!), people who can't share the bad (the opposite end of the spectrum), and people you don't care about anymore.Sometimes people grow apart. They no longer share anything. If you're forcing yourself to be friends, you shouldn't.There's got to be mutual love, respect and preferably, at least a few things in common.If not, it's time to let go. It's a favor to you and your soon-to-be-former friend.

When do I know when I should stop being friends with someone?

My general rule of thumb: friends are supposed to make you feel good. In every friendship, particularly in close friendships, there will be arguments and you will hurt one another. What makes a friendship worth hanging onto is that, most of the time, you both feel happy and content with your relationship. One or two arguments or upsets does not warrant the end of a friendship, particularly a long-standing one, but if they become so frequent that you feel exhausted or upset nearly every time you get home after spending time with that person, it's time to end things. I can't tell you what to do in your specific situation, but I will share my two cents. It sounds to me as though you've already made up your mind about your friendship with Bob. He has hurt you and people you care for on numerous occasions, and the language you've used to speak about him make it clear to me that you don't want to continue this relationship. If you're merely looking for someone to tell you that it's okay to end this relationship, then let me say this: it's okay to end your relationship with Bob, even if doing so may hurt him.Now, your relationship with Luke seems a little more complex, because although you've indicated that you are friends, it seems as though all your grievances are on a more professional plane, rather than personal. If that's the case, you can stay friends with this person if you want to, but I would recommend against continually engaging with him on professional projects. Again, it's not my place to tell you how to live your life, but I suspect you have an answer you're hoping to hear, so it's probably best to simply follow your gut. If you feel validated by any of the answers you've received here, do what was indicated there.Most importantly, surround yourself with people who you genuinely enjoy spending time with. Cut those other people out of your life, if possible.