My boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him, but I'm not comfortable. How do I make him stop pushing me?
Dirty talk is all relative - there are probably things that you could say that are "naughty" that would turn him on that you could be comfortable with. You could just have him talk dirty to you... he should be able to show you what he wants. repeat some of the phrases back to him... I am a little shy at first, but sometimes if you just throw them a bone they are happy enough. But if this truly makes you uncomfortable and its something that he can't let go of - you guys may just not be all that sexually compatible :(. Sorry. I've had to let my exes go because we weren't compatible on some level that was very important to me. It hurts - but the advice I was given is that you learn more about yourself every time and each time it gets better and better until you finally hit on the right one... I still believe that's true. So if you guys can't reach a compromise and he is being too pushy its only going to get more uncomfortable for you...
Is it bad to make your boyfriend stop talking to another girl?
I'm sorry but I've been cheated on, and hindsight is always 20/20. I'm seeing a few red flags here. Your boyfriend is without a doubt, showing her he's at least SOMEWHAT interested. He's flirting with her, and he's making it a point to see her. (Regardless if it's in the hospital). Secondly, did you SEE your boyfriend tell her to stop flirting because he was taken? Or did he TELL you that's what he did? Honestly, if he told this girl to stop, she would have stopped, or at least backed off for a little while. Neither happened. She's continuing to act exactly the same. And he continues to reciprocate. I question as to whether he actually said something to her. Thirdly, your boyfriend KNOWS that you are not comfortable with their conversations, and how they flirt in plain sight. Instead of him cutting the contact, deleting her and making YOU feel secure in the relationship, he continues to talk to her, flirt to her, and see her. As I said, hindsight is 20/20 and you need to be aware of the slight warning signs. Please do not put all your eggs in your trust basket. I had THE PERFECT boyfriend, in every way possible. He never did a thing wrong to me. A few weeks ago he came to me, confessing that he had a one night stand very early on in our relationship. I had trusted him COMPLETELY, and now I see how easily that trust can be betrayed, and shattered. Another warning sign is the fact that he SAID he would stop talking to her... and hasn't. *ding ding ding* Those are your warning bells. Girls are VICIOUS. It absolutely sounds like she likes him as more than a friend, and if she's not your friend, doesn't know, has never met you... she has no obligation to you and she's only looking out for herself, and what SHE wants... which would be your boyfriend. She's playing all her cards correctly, acting all "sweet and innocent." I think the biggest thing right now, is that your boyfriend won't quit talking to her. If he didn't care about her at all, he would have no trouble going no contact. YOU should be the most important thing in his life. He shouldn't be saying one thing, and doing the complete opposite. Please be aware and keep your eyes open. He's proving to be slightly untrustworthy. He's hooked on to her for some reason or another. Another issue you have is the distance. She's there with him. YOU are not.
Should I stop talking to my ex boyfriend for my boyfriend?
Me and my boyfriend were together for 3 years but we took a little bit of a break to deal with some issues and are in the process of getting back together. While we were on the break, we were allowed to be with other people. I started talking to my ex who I stopped talking to when I got current boyfriend. We had already broken up a year before that but it made current boyfriend uncomfortable so we kind of drifted apart. So now that we reconnected I've realized that my ex is actually a really good friend and I feel like since there is nothing emotional or intimate with him I shouldn't have to drop him. Anyway, current boyfriend is very jealous, and doesn't believe that me and my ex could be just friends and that he is only my friend because he wants me. Am I naive to think otherwise? What should I do?
When a couple starts seriously dating, should they delete their Facebook photos of past boyfriends or girlfriends? Would you mind if your date asked you to? Would you expect your date to?
I have recently witnessed my friend's conversation with his new boyfriend on this. My friend is uncomfortable with him having his pictures with his ex up on Facebook.Him: "This was a part of my life, even if I delete the pictures it won't erase that part of history in my memory. I love you, not her, those pictures are just old."My friend: "It won't erase your memories if you delete the pictures but it will not put it right into my eyes you being in love with someone else. I think it's disrespectful for me."Honestly I think they are both right and I can see where they are coming from. I have pictures with my ex on Facebook, some of them are funny, some of them bring back really good memories that don't even really involve my ex (e.g. Our trip to Paris makes me miss Paris, not him, and I like thinking of my days in Paris when I look at our picture taken in Paris.) I can also see my friend's side. I would be uncomfortable with my boyfriend having his ex's pictures up, especially if the pictures involve displaying affection.I know some couples who have their pics with their ex, that doesn't make them love their current partner any less. BUT, if your new partner gets upset about this, I think it's a good idea to delete the pictures indeed. And if you still have feelings for your ex at any level, it's definitely a good idea to delete the pictures whether you have have a new girlfriend/boyfriend or not.
Would you stop talking to a guy friend if your boyfriend asked you to do it?
I stopped talking to anyone that made him feel u comfortable. Truelly, boys and girls can’t be friends ( most of the time). They befriend in hopes of a relationship or sex.I had a really good friend that was a boy. But he never valued the friendship, he was using it to get with me. After pretending to be my Friend for a while he told me he liked me. After he finally realized I only ever wanted his friendship, he tried to grope me in his car then a week later blocked me on everything. All that friendship we built meant so little to him.I think if a guy shows interest in being friends suddenly it’s for a different reason ( sex or a relationship). NOT a friendship. They don’t value that at all. they can be friends with ANY girl, it’s easy. With guys it’s usually never just friendship.
How do you ask your girlfriend to stop talking to her ex boyfriend?
I've been dating my girlfriend for over 5 months and since we started dating her ex boyfriend has been one of the reassons we fight the most. I've read her text messages a couple of times and found some really innaproriate convos between them talking about when they were together. She made it sound like text wasnt a big deal because it didnt mean anything. I compelitely stopped texting girls when we started dating but the fact that she did that made me thing that i could just keep doing it if it didnt mean anything. Then she got really mad at me because of that so it was all a mess. The point is that she keeps commenting on her ex boyfriend statusses in facebook and stuff like that and it really bothers me. I've addressed it a couple of times but she wont stop talking to him because she thinks his friendship is worth it. should i keep bringing it on?
Should I be OK with my girlfriend talking to her ex?
My gf and I have been dating for about 8 months now and I've never been happier, but I get really uncomfortable when she talks to her ex bf. They talk on aim sometimes and sometimes he messages her first, sometimes she messages him first. She assures me that I have nothing to worry about but many times during their talks he's hit on her and she knows for a fact that he still has feelings for her. Should I be more trusting or is this something most people would not be OK with?
Why is talking to my ex a mistake, If I enjoyed spending time with Her/Him?
They are an EX for a reason. Sometimes EX’s can be friends only if neither harbors a fantasy about one day getting back together. Also, your new paramour may be uncomfortable with you talking to your EX. How would you like if your new love interest was chatty with their EX?I was friends with an EX for awhile. We always had fun together but there was no “chemistry”. We stopped dating because neither of us saw the relationship really going anywhere but it got real draining because he’d call me all-the-time to discuss his relationship problems with new girls he was dating. After a while I realized that we really weren’t friends (I was more like a therapist) and that my relationship with him made my husband uncomfortable. I stopped taking his calls and haven’t spoken to him in several years. I don’t miss it.