I miss my dead father, help?
It has been around 5 months since he died, I'm only 18. It was a roller coaster ride ever since. Many horrible memories of having to face losing him. Having to see him laying in a f*cking coffin, having to choose the right urn for your dad, the funeral home smelled like crap. I'm afraid to go near the street it was located. The songs I listened to at that time I hate listening to it now. And I am never going back to the cemetery. I was always a happy person, after he died I can't call myself that anymore. Its not that I'm sad all the time, I just feel distant towards everybody. My main feeling is this emptiness, I'm somewhat an idealist and I feel like a family has to be perfect (a mom, a dad, and child), now my life will never be complete always missing that one piece. I can't shake this feeling away since its just me and my mom now, to me two people hardly seems a number called family. I feel like this situation is so strange, like its a dream, but I know its not, I will never wake up from it. Sometimes I think I deserve all this, I never appreciated him, I never missed him when he was away when he was alive. I want to talk to him so bad, tell him how I miss him, ask him how he is, but I wont get a response. If you lost your mom or dad tell me what you do when you're feeling the way I do. If you want,share your story with me as I did mine.
Should a Dad who lost their only child should still get a Father's Day gift?
My guy friend and his wife lost their only child 4 years ago from SIDS at 7 months old and I still get him a Father's Day card and he gets other gifts and is still wished Happy Father's Day from friends and family, but on his Facebook status he talked about how much he missed his son and this guy (one of his friends) told him that he's not a dad anymore because his son is deceased and his wife should get no Mother's Day wishes either. How cruel is that? I think that if a parent who lost a child should be still wished a Happy Mother's/Father's Day no matter if it their only child or not, what do you think?
Boyfriend's deceased father's birthday?
Don't mention it unless he does. I don't know if he was close to his dad or not so you should not say anything. Personally, I only met my biological mother three times in my life and she passed away when I was 23. I didn't care when I heard and I don't even know when her birthday is. My grandmother on the other hand died when I was 20 and I remember hers was August 8th. I celebrate it every year and don't tell anyone. If he cry's then you can say, "he sounds like a wonderful man and I wish I could have met him." Believe me, that will make him feel a whole lot better. But if he doesn't cry, you should still acknowledge the man as someone good, and someone you would have liked to have met. I know these are great tips and since I helped you, its time to return the favor. I want you to go out and research what are lives are without god. Personally, I call god Jehovah, but that is just me. Its your choice. It will only take a few minutes of your time and it won't hurt you. After that, then we can call it even. I hope this helps but I'm sure it will.
When a child dies and the father is on child support, will the child support stop?
I don’t know how other people who have not been caught up in the child support hustle can answer this question like I have seen the real estate person answer but the truth of the matter is if the family court system can still hold you responsible for a child to be proven not yours after a DNA test do you really think they gonna let you off the hook because of a lil thing like death? The system is not set up for the benefit of the child! The system is set up for the match of dollar for dollar from the Fed Gov. it’s like getting caught up in the criminal system. Once you in you in it for life. They can come at you anytime with they BS and instead of color it’s a war on fathers situation. You a male you get fvcked plain and simple. Take you’re four days a month and just be happy with what they are giving you in the first place. So if the child dies you still on the hook for the remainder of the payout period. Look it up in the Fathers Lives Matter groups if you question what I have just revealed too you.
I Think My Daughter Sees Her Dead Dad !?
.Okay im 21 and my daughter is 4. Her Dad Died When she was 3 years old and im still hurt about our loss . .but lately i feel that she can see him . .one night I had her sitting on my lap when she said "i wanna go by daddy" and got up and set on the cough across the room , i was sooo spooked ! . .and another day I heard her giggling and playing in her room . .at first i thought it was her 4 year old imagination but then i heard "daddy ! wanna play dolly next" ? I then went to her room as fast as i can to find her on the floor with her dolls. .i asked what she was doing and she said "playing with daddy" the look on her face was soo happy . .I know that she was her father's prize and he loved her to death, when he was alive he wanted to spend every moment he had with her . .can someone tell me whats going on pleasee!
How do we tell my grandmother that my father, her son, has died?
So without knowing more of the circumstances I have to assume that your grandmother is probably in her eighties as you say “ given her age” and that makes me then think that your Dad was probably in his 60’s which is young.First let me say I am very sorry for your loss. I too lost my Dad too early and there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about him or that he is still giving me guidance.What a know about working with seniors is that they are pretty matter of fact, we must respect their age and their wishes, they are tougher than we give them credit for but most of all they NEED the love and support from family and friends. They need to be included in life in order to remain living in whatever capacity that is. So just you being sensitive to this situation makes me think that your grandmother is well loved and not sitting idly some where.The conversation might have these things included in it . I am sure when you go sit with her , look her in the eyes, hold her hands , you will know exactly what to say.Tell her you love her and that you have some very difficult news to tell her.Then just be present for her reaction . Whatever it is. She may break down, she may cry softly , she may be stoic. Any reaction is the right reaction because it is her reaction. Don't tell her everything will be okay because you don't know that. Just tell her the truth , tell her that you love her, the family will be there for her ( only if they will) , that you are sorry for her loss, that you hurt too, etcDon't be afraid to answer ALL her questions. This was her son and she has the right to know. If you don't know something , tell her you will find out and follow thru.Being honest with integrity and respect about death is something special you can give a person. The only thing that helps and the greatest gift you can give a person who is experiencing grief and loss is simply being their with the ability to listen.
How can I enjoy my life after the death of my father?
My father died very suddenly when I was 19 (of a massive heart attack). I'm an only child and I was closer to him then to my mother.It was absolutely devastating to me and I couldn't think of anything else, just that he was gone. I would wake up and the first thought I had was "my father is dead". I couldn't take pleasure in anything and I thought, for the first time, how short life is, how pointless it can seem.I also thought of all the bad things I had done and said, things that had hurt him or upset him. I told him I was sorry again and again in my head. I also asked him all the things I never got around to when he was alive - questions about his boyhood and what life was like for him before I was born.I couldn't even talk about him without crying.Yes, I know he would have wanted me to be happy, I know he didn't hold the bad things I had done against me but it didn't help - I had enough regret for an army.And then slowly, slowly, over months, I became able to think about other things, after years I was able to talk about him without crying. I didn't try - it just happened. But you know, every night before I go to sleep I still tell him goodnight. Whenever something good or bad happens to me I still let him know and I often let him know that I haven't forgotten him, that I'll always remember.My father died 35 years ago.
What does it mean when you see your dead father in your dream happy?
I get that seeing someone who has passed may be disconcerting but this is more about the way your mind is working than about their living self. Dreams are often emotion-based so try to understand how you are feeling when it happens. It is important not to ignore this or dismiss it as an impossibility because the dream isn't your waking life, and there is probably something you can learn from the experience, whether it be about learning to let go of someone or something, or if it is to remind you of the way you felt in the past, or to show you how you are feeling now about some aspect of your life. This leaves me with a problem since nobody can tell you how you feel, only you know that... so only you have the power to see this for what it truly is...Whatever the case congratulations for having a Lucid Dream.I hope this helps in some way and I wish you good luck along with many future… Sweet Dreams!