How do you quit a job when your mother in law is your boss?
whoa thats a tough one. tell her you found a position that will advance your skills and experience and be challenging and rewarding work. surely, she should be happy for you. ask your hubby for advice. he probably knows her well and can help you soften the blow when you tell her. you could also consult her first, and seek advice from her (use reverse psychology) so she thinks she suggested you take the job. eheh. Good Luck.
What should I do if my wife and my mother don't get along well?
You have to live separately from your parents for the sake of peace and quiet. That doesn't mean you don't care for them financially, emotionally etc. You should continue to give them the consideration and support that they need. That also doesn't mean one side is more important than the other. It just means you value your quality of life.Your wife doesn't owe your parents anything. She will not feel the same about them just like you won't about her parents. Acknowledge that. If you are all getting baking then wonderful. But if you are not, atleast you can keep some dignity in the relationships.I can tell you by experience that wife and mil dont get along in most cases. No matter how much you try to be nice and understanding to both of them, most people don't share well. At some point, you have to just compromise and not force the issue with them. After all both are adults capable of knowing what they want.To my way of thinking, she may have married into your family. You and your family have the extra responsibility to make nice with her. She maybe a working woman with goals and amibitions and different priorities than your orthodox families would expect. She maybe a nice girl or a crazed person or your parents maybe decent folks or monsters in law. I don't know which combination you are facing. No matter who the crazy person is, the fact is they will stay crazed for life. Trying to mend broken fences again and again is like wasting years of your life chasing your own tail. You will never get anywhere. They are adults so let them figure it out. Keep them separate if things get nasty. Bring them near if they show signs of getting along.Life is never a straight line, there are many bends and turns. People loose sight of the important things that matter. Atleast you don't have to be miserable the entire time banging your head on rocks.
My mother is insisting I fight for this to me this not worth my time or energy.?
I held the same job for seven years. In October I left my job for another position. After a month and a half I was laid off. I was used to train the bosses niece and then laid off once she was trained. I should note it’s a family owned engineering business and I’m the only NON family member working for this company. As I was being let go my boss said to me sorry sweetie family comes first. I’ve applied for unemployment and I’ve been denied. My boss said that I was basically let go because I’m an idiot and couldn’t do my job. I’ve set up an appeal. I’m now being told I’m only eligible for one hundred fourteen dollars a week. Which seems insane considering I made close to sixty thousand a year. Not just that but I’m completing my Masters Degree in geotechnical engineering. I’ll be done in May. This semester is crucial for me. If all wasn’t bad enough my husband was laid off from his job YESTERDAY. They are closing his department. He is able to get the maximum benefits for unemployment we’ve already spoken to the office this morning. I feel like trying to argue for basically four hundred dollars a month is pointless and will cause myself more stress then it’s actually worth. I could make more then that working in Walmart. I should note I’m thirtyseven years old and I don’t think it’s my mothers place to dictate what I should and should not do. Any advice?
Wife Battle with Mother - I am sandwiched?
I love my wife as well as Mother. They both have their faults. I try to make a fair judgment on issues. However, It has been more than 4 years and I have been trying to explain to my wife to adjust to the nature of my family. There are things that she will will not like about my mother and so will my mother about my wife, that is just human, as no body's perfect. However, I have tried to convince either of them separately to be calm and respectful to each other. But it seems to work only for few days or weeks. Problem is that I get sandwiched in between. I love them both and It would make a paradise if they can get together at least for few hours in a day. They don't have to spend time with each other much, but just be respectful and do their duties. My wife will not even cook for me or my family even if i am dying, bcoz she does not like our kitchen. Her parents are rich, so she used to have a better life style than now. However, if the mistake of marrying someone in medium class has been performed, then she should learn to adjust. I have spent a lot of money on outings, there is not a single tourist place in USA that we have not been together after marriage. But still she disrespects me and my family. She does not want to accept her mistakes and in last 4 years have not shown a sign of improvement either. Is it failure on my part? or did i just picked the wrong girl? People recommend that I should buy a separate house and live nuclear. Is that solution to this problem? or is it just running away from it? How do I leave my mother for a woman whom i have known only for 4 years? Just bcoz I took some wows? So, my mother raised me was only a coincidence and i have no commitment to her when she grows old and helpless? There is no end to dilemma. I cannot even divorce my wife, as in India, the society creates a big issue on this, plus the family reputation goes down in the city. What can be done? I have tried all the possible methods and have no results. Any suggestions other than buying a separate house and living nuclear?
Telling my sister I don't want to go halves on gifts?
Okay...Christmas is over, but I have to start preparing for Mother's Day. My sister and I work at the same place. When there's a holiday or my Mom's birthday, she always picks out a card before I get to work and buys it and signs it for the both of us and my husband. Then she asks me what I'm getting Mom for whatever occasion. I know it's coming every time so I tell her I got her something already and had sent her a card. Then she says, oh, okay, how much was it, I'll give you half. Thoughtful...buuut, my husband and I want to give my Mom a gift, from the both of us. Something special and meaningful. She has never had a good relationship with my Mom so her cards are appropriate from her point of view, but not for me. I'm not saying I am a better child, but I have sat with my Mom for countless hours and listened to her and helped her since my Dad passed away 2 years ago (Feb.) She has sat down with me and helped me though some tough problems. We have really bonded. My sister thinks since I'm the youngest I must have the same or worse financial struggles as she does, so "Mom knows we're both broke so I'll split a $25 gift card with you, she'll understand." Ummm..I know my Mom would understand, IF THAT WERE THE CASE, but it's not. So anyway...the meaning of a gift and card that my husband and I thoughtfully pick out every holiday is totally over run by some thoughtless "hope you have the best anniversary ever" (when my Dad is gone and my Mom is lonely). My Mom is aware of this because I've had to apologize for bad judgment for certain occasions. She knows of my sisters butting in, and we've even come up with a solution of just taking her out to her favorite place to eat and if I have a card, give it to her then. (I love how Moms understand!! Thank goodness!) So I guess what I'm asking is for help in what to say to my sister. I don't want to hurt her feelings. She's just trying to be helpful.
I want to become a nudist but im 13 any advice.?
A clothing optional beach would be a place to start if there is one not too far away. Otherwise, you might have to be a closet nudist for awhile. You'll need to be l8 or bring your parents with you when visiting a nudist club.