“Why do people bully fat people?”You’ve actually read the reasons in the answers of good people. These are the people that are trying to be helpful. They see fat people as having a condition that is self-inflicted. They’ve brought it upon themselves. One person went on to advise them not to eat so much junk food. Thanks, we didn’t know.The fact is, everyone is damaged. We fat people wear our damage so that others can easily judge us wanting, even the good ones. It is a weakness, unlike drinking, drug abuse, satyriasis/nymphomania, cutting, and more acceptable eating disorders like bulimia, it is fun to make fun of fat people. There are other conditions that are taboo to attack the victim, obesity isn’t even close to being on that list, because, come on, you can just stop eating so much and exercise. Just like people suffering from depression need to cheer up. Plus they’re really doing it for their own good, right? Even the bullies can rationalize their behavior that way. If you don’t belittle and dehumanize those that are already struggling with obesity, well, they might think it is okay to be fat.Popular culture condemns obesity. It is a big deal if a “Plus Sized” woman gets on the cover of a magazine, a bold statement, she might be a size 12. Which of course perpetuates eating disorders.Why do bullies do it? That’s an easy one. Bullies are horrible people. I can’t figure out why the nice people do it.
I'm ugly, fat and useless what should I do?
First, stop feeling sorry for yourself. You aren't alone in feeling this way. There are millions who feel and have felt "ugly, fat and useless." Make it a lie. Make yourself useful and the ugly fades into obscurity. Second, ugly is behavior first, health second and attitude third. Don't behave towards others in a way that you'd not like others to behave toward you. Start walking every day. Burn the fat. Stop with the negative self-talk and the habit of putting yourself down. You have adopted a personal story that is tragic, change it to something more realistic, less dramatic. The only universe that you're the center of is your own universe. Mine gets along fine whether you are happy or not. So does the universe of the other four billion people on earth. I cannot emphasize enough that self pity is the eighth deadly sin. Look less at your troubles and more at others' troubles and you'll see why your's are not as bad as all that. Get over the "poor, poor, pitiful me" stage and get on with making your own way. The body, mind and attitude are interdependent. Take care of your body's need for work, rest and nourishment and your mind won't be looking for and seizing on every little disappointment as a rational reason why you feel terrible. Watch your thoughts. When you start to get into that old squirrel-cage reasoning, that same cycle of questions and conclusions that leads to "I'm ugly, fat and useless", notice it and consciously put your attention on someting else, something outside the mind, either the body or the exterior world or the like. Zen students watch the breath. (Don't watch TV, don't listen to music that plays on your "sad" or "lonely" emotions.) Work! In school? Do homework. Or clean your bedroom, the bathroom, the kitchen. Do your laundry. When you see good behavior, learn to behave that way. . When you see bad behavior, learn not to behave that way. Notice others. Think about where they may be coming from. What would make you behave in the way they're behaving. Understand them as you understand yourself. Then, love them in addition to loving yourself.
I hate myself?? I feel so fat and ugly and I'm so embarrassed with my pathetic self? PLEASE READ ALL?
EVERYONE, regardless of their age, is their own worst critic. At your age, you are in school, and that's a HORRIBLE place to find someone, even friends. Teens and kids are generally evil creatures, it was Hell for me too. I can tell from your description of yourself, that you are falsely seeing yourself worse than you really are. You sound like a very nice girl, and you are probably very pretty too. But, I promise you that physical looks are not that important anyway. If a woman was literally model hot, but she was a b*tch, I wouldn't want anything to do with her, I wouldn't even be comfortable having casual sex with her. And I'm a 21 year old male virgin, not by choice even, I have a lot of the problems you have. I know a girl like you, she thinks of herself HORRIBLY, but she's SO beautiful and wonderful and lovely. People can not trust their own judgement of theirself, and it's even been scientifically proven that people judge is softer than we judge ourselves!
...A lot more than I like to admit, to be honest. High school was a complicated period of my life. I will share one story!Backstory: My grandmother wanted me to study English, my mom wasn't into the idea because she couldn't really afford it at the time, so my grandmother offered to pay my studies at an English course very near to where I live. My mom accepted.I am not entirely sure, but, I do believe this happened during my first week in the English course. My mom told me to go talk to one the employees there, because pretty much a week had passed and I had not received my books. I went to talk to the lady who could help me, I explained my situation, and she had to leave the room for like five minutes to find a document she needed.Then, two girls entered the room.(I will call them Girl A and Girl B).We did not talk to each other, the girls were chatting between themselves and I was just waiting for the good lady there.30 seconds after they entered, (She didn't even try to lower her voice) I hear:Girl A: You know, I am disappointed. I always hope to see a cute boy around here, but all we have are beings like that one.I mean, maybe I'm crazy, but I was the only person from the opposite gender in that room. I stared at them for like a second, Girl B blushed really heavily, and I could hear Girl B telling Girl A to not be so loud.For a somewhat emo teenager with a lot of self-esteem issues, hearing that from a girl, was like a punch to the stomach. This was such an awkward situation that I never really forgot, haha.It was not direct, but, I think it is fair to say that it was a circumstance where someone called me ugly. This period of my life was tough lol=)
How do ugly fat women get so many children?
simplle! like u said their fat dont have the confidence n have always been fat.....which makes em weak. dumb at times cuz like every other girl they wanna be loved needed they wanna have a guy who wants then as much as they want other girls...so whn a guy comes around trying to get some easy pu***. theirthe first targets!. the guy is desperate n the girl wants a guy so bad that their oblivious to the fact that their in it for something other than the fact that they see something good in her. so with a couple of lil lines kisses n made up bull talk they fall for it then they get laid n next thing u no they prego n then they guy is stuck to a kid he didnt evn wantin the first place n a girl he was never interested on in the first place! Now does that answer ur question!
In your opinion, what's "ugly"? (on a person).?
I'll control myself, promise :) To me, AR is someone who is to the extreme about any position. Someone who thinks that ALL breeders are bad, that NO dog should be euthanized for aggressive behavior, that corrections should NEVER be given and bad behavior ignored, etc. I don't, honestly, think it has anything to do with placing animals and people on the same level, because I do place them on the same level. However, I think that the entire world and all it's creatures have a certain role and sometimes. Humans and dogs work together in many different avenues, animals eat animals, we're in this neat little circle that needs each and every part to 'fit' properly in order for it to work. I don't consider that supporting AR, I think it's just acknowledging the importance that everything holds in our world. No one being is more important than another. I'll try to explain it so it makes more sense...say there is a dog who is human aggressive. It just simply can't be around humans. I think that dog should be euthanized, NOT because I don't 'value' their life, but because it's not fair to the dog or the humans in it's life to sustain them. The dog would be isolated and not cared for. The humans would risk hurting themselves by trying to help the dog. It's a lose-lose scenario keeping the dog around. I think some people think more along the lines of 'it's just a dog it doesn't matter'. But then on the same hand, I think that true AR people feel that the dog is somehow being punished for it's behavior when that's far from the truth. However, I feel the same way about a person who couldn't be around people, but I can be a little extreme in that view point :-p I just try to think more about the big picture, I guess. I do think that the "AR" term is thrown about a little too casually in this forum though. I think it's an easy way to target someone who feels a little more of a sympathetic position than you (not you specifically, just 'you' as anyone) might hold. Like oh, don't listen to them they're just an AR extremist. I don't know if scapegoating would be the correct term to use in this case, but it's the closest I can come to what I mean. I totally just babbled...and I don't know if you understood any of that because it's a very confusing thought process I have.
Melissa McCarthy has no trouble getting a boyfriend. That woman on “The Real” has no trouble getting a bf. I am not saying those women are ugly and I doubt if you are, too. There is no such thing as ugly. There is only women and men that do not know how to fix themselves.Got to stop feeling sorry for yourselves and make some major changes and I am not, not, not talking about loosing weight. Loosing weight is certainly fine but not needed if you don’t want to or cannot. Some folks have a very hard time loosing weight for a lot of reasons both psychological and emotional and physical. I wish more folks got that one.You can have a boyfriend and be over weight. There are lots of movie stars both male and female that have no trouble getting a bf or gf. You say oh but they are rich… well that plays a part…. but only a small part. Look, these folks do not want to be taken advantage of anymore than you or me. So get that thought out of your head.You a want bf. Dress better (that applies to all folks skinny, thin, overweight, tall, short, medium and anywhere in between). Stop wearing black all the time. It does not make you look skinny. That is ridiculous. Get some clothes that fit you. Stop trying to squeeze into clothes that are too small. That is ridiculous too. Don’t buy those awful flowing things that make you look like a tent. That is awful for you. We used to call them Moo moos. They were awful then and they are awful now. Except to sleep in when you out with your girlfriends overnighters. They are not for you.Now you show me one girl on here that does not look absolutely adorable. Everyone of these women look hot and hotter. Woah.If you need to grow out your hair then grow it out. Duh. If you need to have your nails and toes done and you cannot do them then learn to do them yourself. Go to Bloomingdale’s and have a makeover and make sure you buy some thing that you can use. If you don’t learn it the first time, go back ten times until you get it.You can sit around feeling sorry for yourself or not. It is up to you. Taking action then the feelings and thinking will follow if you want them to do so.I dressed 100s of full figured girls including getting their wedding gowns.Tricia