What do you think of my extended family?
That's really rude and bad of them...I can relate...growing up, my dad's side of the family never had ANY interaction with us at all. As in, I have no idea what their names were, where they live, if they are dead or alive, if I have cousins on their side, etc.. I'm sorry, and I wonder why they dislike you so much...I hope you get a new car, because it sounds like you're driving a safety hazard on wheels. I think you should start off confronting your biologically related family, like you're maternal grandmother. Have you tried expressing your frustration in a way that would draw out her sympathy? (note: that is not meant to sound as underhanded as it may appear)
Are you closer to your mother or father side of the family?
Im closer to my father side of the family,since they live in the same state as I do.I might not get along with some of my father's family,but I grew up with them.Dont know much about my mothers side since they live in different part of the world.
How come my family's short and i'm the only tall one?
I'm not really tall, just tall compared to my family. My moms side of the family is around 5"1- 5-5". My dads side is 5"4-5"7. I'm currently 14 years old and weigh 121 pounds. I'm 5"8. How come I'm the tallest one? Theres literally only one more person taller than me and thats my uncle on my dads side of the family. I haven't grown in 3-4 months if that helps? My doctor said I would be 6"2 but thats total BS. She said my brother would be 6 feet, but hes only 5"6. Will I continue to grow, and is there anything I can do to grow more?
Do you think loving someone out side of your race is a sin? ?
First: You did nothing wrong!!! Second: I am sorry to hear of your miscarriage. :( It sounds like you followed your heart and that is what leads to Love. Third: What other race are you talking about? I have not seen any Martians around lately have you? We are all ONE RACE = The HUMAN Race. So what if your skin is a little darker than mine? Or my eyes are blue and yours are brown.. these are just HUMAN traits that have developed due to environment and genes. Being from Persia, I am guessing that you are of the Islamic faith? Religion and Culture have everything to do with how your parents are reacting.
Most of my family is against me but am i in the wrong?
Your father is threatened by you. You were able to make something of yourself in spite of him. I know it's easier said than done, but don't worry about what they say about you. Your father probably put his spin on the situation and they want to believe him, because they don't want to believe they could have raised a monster who would beat his children. You are a strong person who can take care of yourself and one day you will have a family of your own to focus on. My only worry would be for your sister. Do they abuse her the way you were. If so. Try to keep in contact with her so you can help her get free too. Or call child services if you think she may be in danger. I'm not in your shoes, so I can't tell you what to do, other than be there for her, but I would forget about the rest of them. They are a sad group of people that don't deserve the time you give them by wondering about them. The best revenge you can give them is exactly what you are doing. Living your life to the fullest and never looking back.
How does it feel to have a broken family?
It feels like forever walking on a crossroad. That every now and then, you would be in a dilemma.I have a good relationship with both of my parents even though they are separated. I am past the hate and blame stage. I have seen enough to realize that we are mortals whose life can be taken easily just as fast as it was given; spending it on useless selfish feelings would be a waste. But loving and caring amounts the same effort and energy as the opposite. To them, it may seem that I have adjusted well on the situation since I am an adult, however its a struggle in every way.Whatever I do, consistently there would be two choices. In every action, both sides must be considered. It’s tiring and stressful at the same time but family has always been and will always be my number one motivation.Its hard during holidays and other special occassions as birthdays or celebrations. Both sides are expecting us to spend it with them that you wish you can split yourself in half. Being stuck in the middle, your choices, whatever it may be will cause varying degrees of pain to the other. This is a cycle hence I worry endlessly.It’s harder when you ask for advice and they give different suggetions. No matter how long your explanations are as to why you chose one from the other, jealousy will always sneak its way in. That is why I rarely ask for advice from my parents and have made all decisions on my own since then. But this has a backlash. Nowadays, whenever I ask for their opinion they would constantly say the same thing. That it’s up to me and whatever I chose, they would support me all the way which doesn’t really help when you are in a serious quandary.The hardest would be when misunderstanding happens. When a fight broke, my role is the mediator. At times like this, I would always hear phrases like “you love them more, that’s why” and “why are you defending him/her you should be on my side”. You would think that they would be rational enough since they are older but sometimes they undergo regression and you’re left to deal with the situation.If worse comes to worst the whole family from both sides will get involved that will make you want to run away forever.Whatever the cause is, in a shattered home, the fragments are impaled the deepest and the burden is heaviest in children.
Whom should I choose, my family or my lover?
Why do you have to choose in the first place?I will answer the question assuming that family means mom and dad etc. and not husband and children (the second being waaaayyy more complicated).If you need to make a choice then obviously follow your heart- your family should be there no matter what- if they are asking you to leave your lover, then talk to them openly and basically ask them what is their problem. Make them realize that you know what you are doing and that after all it is your life and your choices.What if this lover is the best person for you and the only one who can truly make you happy? Wouldnt you feel silly leaving because your parents have a different opinion? Obviously talk to him as well and with some work and few compromises from each side, with time things will get better.I don’t think your parents (or anyone really) should make have that choice-’either with me or without me’. Do what makes you happy, talk with your parents and your lover and try to bring some balance. It is not easy but ultimately nothing in life is and the best satisfaction comes from those things anyway.A good approach and what I invite you to do is to write down the best scenario and the worst scenario of each situation. If you are willing to go through the worst scenario then go for it- you are then prepared for worst and anything else that happens is worth fighting for.Best of luck :o)