Why am I not attracted to 'nice guys'?
It's usually like this girls who have been hurt and treated badly in the past tend to go for the nice guys as it's safer plus they crave the attention and love they never got in there previous relationships. Girls who start with the nice guys get bored of them and tend to go for the bad boy/ guy who's more unpredictable and fun this phase will pass eventually and you will go crawling back to the nice ones so worry not all you nice guys.
Are guys attracted to nice girls?
first off, stop calling your friends slutty. I bet if they were guys, you wouldn't say that. you're just adding to the double standards. Your friends have the right to do whatever they want to with their sexual lives. It's completely ignorant to label someone a "slut" based off of their sexual experiences. Because everybody loves sex, regardless of how much they do it. Second, you'll eventually find a nice guy. It's smart of you to be secure with yourself. Nice girls are hard to find and nice guys are hard to find as well. The reason why you probably haven't found a guy is because allot of them are probably not your type. Could you see yourself with a "bad boy"? Not a clear picture, right? So just enjoy life for now and eventually you will find a guy that appreciates you for who you are btw most kids in college aren't looking for serious relationships and are the types to just want to have fun
For guys: Women are not ATTRACTED to nice guys?
Women likes men with some "bad" in them. I'm not talking about killing, stealing, or any of those "bad" business, I'm talking about how they act. Sometimes a little "bad" makes a women turned on because it's very masculine to them. For example, when guys make the decision (not all the time, but sometimes) like going to eat or what movie to watch (making sure that she may be into it too, but demand it). Don't disrespect a woman, but some 'badness" can help. To sum it up, women like men who can be sweet, caring and NICE, but at the same time can be a LITTLE bit demanding, and setting his feet down. (:
Why aren't women attracted to nice guys?
Yes, some women prefer bad boys out of the adrenalin rush such fellows provide. They are outlaws, ultimate protectors, sexually charged, normally tough and more exciting than the rest of us, and have plenty to fix. There approach to life is balls-out, and they live for the moment. Please note the prior paragraph's last thought. There will be plenty for them to fix, but it may not be on the exact schedule a young female anticipates. But despair not my faithful compadre. There is an old Chinese saying: "Be careful what you ask for, because you might get it". These females may ultimately tire of Mr. Bad Boy's routine. You see, after she has to bail him out of jail, he loses his job (AGAIN), gets her AND her best friend pregnant, spends her rent money on dope, cracks her skull wide open, and drives off with her worst enemy will having a "bad boy" lose its charm. But then again, afterward she'll just claim that ALL men are alike and no good.
Do ladies actually feel attracted to the nice guy?
I have been struggling with this one for a while now. You see I don't have the greatest deal of success with women but often when I get chatting to one they often consider to me be very nice and have a good sense of humour (they laugh at my jokes etc...). Women are always going on about how they just want to meet a nice guy who makes them laugh for a relationship but I never detect signs of attraction when I'm chatting, even if it’s going well. I don't think I'm a bad looking guy (although I have ginger hair which is sometimes ridiculed) so I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. Either I'm nowhere near as nice and funny as I think I am (or as I'm lead to believe by the woman I'm talking to) or the whole 'nice guy' thing is a load of s**t (which possibly explains why the *** holes are more successful with women). Please someone tell me if women actually desire the nice and funny guy before I become an *** hole!
Why are the ladies never attracted to nice guys?
One possibility: You keep going for unavailable women. Not unavailable to anyone. Unavailable to you. And you pick them out because of this. You have issues with intimacy and rejection. You like to be the great guy contrasted to the jerks your female friends are going out with. You can keep the dream alive of how great your relationship will be one day when you can finally connect. This is preferable to trying a real relationship and finding out some things about yourself that you don't want to see. You are just as good a guy as any one out there. But no better and no worse. You want to be better but a part of you believes you're worse. And going into a real relationship and finding this out is too terrifying. So this is the solution. Have relationships with girls that are, on the surface, not romantic. You can get some of your intimacy needs filled by hanging out with these women and you can't get rejected because your not dating. But the problem is you get rejected all the time. You just don't admitt it. You hang out, you get hopefull, and then you're painfully reminded that she's sexual with someone else. But that doesn't matter right? Because you're just friends. It's a terrible thing to do to yourself over and over again. The idea that girls don't go for you becuase you treat them well is just not true. There are plenty of girls out there who value themselves enough to be comfortable with guys who treat them with respect. You just don't seem to be attracted to any of those girls. You need to find out why. I would recommend therapy to start dealing with your intimacy issues. This is what I did. I'm not making the stuff up that I just told you. I lived it. It takes a long time to heal these things but it's better than just being stuck where you're at.
Are the majority of women attracted to nice guys?
Nice Guy vs Bad Boy who attracts more females, Nice females vs Bad girls who attracts more men? Short answer is yes more nice woman are attracted to nice guys. The relationships everyone hears about are the relationships between bad boys and nice girls, or nice boys and bad girls. The nice people go off quietly and live their lives.I don't know of any studies that would have a statical answer for this question.I am also older, so I am not aware of what is going on amongst young people today. From my own experiences with my children, and grandchildren, I would say, my grandchildrens generation knows more about the psychology of behavior, they no more about, signs and symptoms of mental disorders, than their parents. They know more about bullying, stranger danger, anger management, tolerance for sexual preference differences, equality between races, and genders, and kindness, and social responsibilities toward poor and disadvantaged, birth control, STD protection, substance abuse, and dependence. They know more about the effects on children and adults of abuse, poverty, dicrimination in sex, race,social status, because all these subjects are talked about in various classes. These subjects are incorporated in history, science, social studies, geography, physical education, music, art. Maybe this will make them more aware of emotional health and the need to care for theirs.This is also the generation with the most children with diagnosed learning disabilities, and prescribed medication. So amongst this generation will there be more bad boy and girls than nice guys and girls?If there are nice guys and bad boys is that not the same for girls? Do opposites attract? I ‘'ve wondered are there more bad people than nice people, for me that meant, emotionally impaired people vs emotionally healthy people. I have decided everyone has some amount of emotional dysfunction to a greater or lesser degree. We seem to me to be attracted to people with a dysfunction we can relate to. Example if you have fears of abandonment, you would be attracted to a person that has co dependent issues. Hopefully the issues are complimentary and both have developed emotionally enough to have and end a relationship that doesn't fit them.
How do I get better at attracting women?
If you aren’t a good looking guy, be the nicest dude in the world. If you are overweight, try your best to lose weight (not just for the girls but for your own health). Physical attractiveness is very important in a relationship, many people say it doesn’t matter, as long as you love them. But if you had a scrunched up piece of paper, and you saw a smooth, freshly made piece of paper, which one would you want?Work out, it’ll take a while but girls absolutely LOVE abs.Approach girls, don’t wait for them to approach you. If you aren’t a chick magnet then go and pursue a girl. Become friends with them first, wait a very long time, get closer and closer. Become best friends or really good friends. Then go deep, not relationship wise but conversation wise. Talk about your problems to her, ask her for advice, tell her about your happy moments. Ask her how she’s doing and be there for her.You can’t get better at attracting women, they aren’t scrap metal waiting for a magnet to come along. You need to try. You must at least try to find a girl. Loneliness is easier than being with someone, but it isn’t as nice. Having a girlfriend will have its ups and downs but it’s worth it.Hope this helps! :)
When will girls begin to notice the nice guys?
Girls already do notice nice guys.There is however a distinct difference between a nice guy and a stage 5 clinger who openly invites you to walk all over him in the hopes for future romantic (read: sexual) reward.A nice guy is a guy who is nice for the sake of being nice. He has zero ulterior motives and if he has romantic feelings for a woman he will make them known. If those feelings are not reciprocated he will be disappointed, but will ultimately get over it as a nice guy understands that nobody is obligated to return affection just because he has been nice.A good example of this is a couple of my old friends, Thomas and Yauri. Thomas and Yauri had been friends for a couple of years and we were all good friends who knew each other relatively well. Thomas had developed feelings for Yauri and told her how he felt. Yauri on the other hand did not have romantic inclinations towards Thomas and explained to him that she did not feel the same way. Thomas understood and we all went about our business like nothing had changed and we are all still good friends to this day.A neckbeard is not a nice guy. A neckbeard is a guy who states that he is a nice guy often and loudly, without realizing that a really nice guy doesn't have to declare it.A neckbeard will be clingy, whiney, and more often than not just straight up creepy. None of those is an attractive attribute to have. Not to mention the fact that they are only “nice” in the hopes that reciprocation will feel like an obligation to their victim. And yes I mean victim because this type of behaviour is manipulative abuse.Kindness is attractive.Poorly hidden motives is not.Affection is attractive.Smothering someone and putting them on glorified pedestals is not.Girls are human beings too and are perfectly capable of deciding who they do and don't feel attracted to all on their own. Girls do notice nice guys. Girls notice nice guys all the time. Girls also notice when they've been targeted by a stage 5 clinger.