What have female feminists done to liberate men?
I speak up when someone perpetuates stereotypical ideas of masculinity. I don't stay silent when someone mocks a dude for liking nursing or cooking or pink or being bad at sports. I speak up when someone frames conversations about domestic violence and sexual assault as things that are done solely by men, to women. I advocate for male contraception. Men should have access to safe, effective contraception that is solely under their control. No one should have to rely on their partner's contraception. I challenge my feminist friends when they say things that are hurtful to men and not productive (with the understanding that it often is productive to talk about men as a group and how their privilege affects us). I ask men out on dates and then I pay for them. Most of them don't actually like this but I do it anyway and then stop dating them if they object to it. I do all the fixing of mechanical things on my house because my boyfriend is shit at it (but he does all the cooking because I'm shit at that). With that it mind, it's important to remember that none of that stuff hurts women and none of the pro-women stuff I do hurts men. That's the whole point. There's this idea that if you're helping one "side", you must be hurting the other. That's a load of crap. Cats and dogs are often thought of as a dichotomy where you have to like one or the other. I like both (as do many people) and the amount of affection I have is not limited! I don't have to give out 100 affection points between these two animals. Liking a cat 60 points doesn't mean I'm depriving the dog of 10 points. I can like both cats and dogs in an unlimited capacity as long as I'm not doing something dumb like beating dogs with crowbars to prove that cats are better. Guess what else I can do that with?Gender advocacy. But as always, it's important to notice that equal dedication of my time is not the way to treat the two genders equally. The causes are separate from one another. If I have a cat and a dog and I want to treat them equally, it's not enough to spend the same amount of time with each one. A dog requires more time. I need to walk the dog and play with the dog. The cat generally doesn't need that much attention. The cat will be just fine if I cuddle with him for an hour but I walk the dog for an hour and also cuddle her for an hour. They have different needs.
I support equality, but why do Radical Feminists exist?
Radical feminists exist because they are allowed to have a voice. Radical feminists truly believe there is a patriarchy oppressing women for fun and profit. Their lives are consumed by their belief in this conspiracy. They're fed up and they're not going to take it any more! Down with men who needs 'em? The mere presence of a man in their vacinity is enough to offend them and any trace of masculinity must be stomped out, particularly if it involves the objectification of women. The male gaze is enough to incite a frenzy of virulent attacks and 911 calls. The gaze doesn't have to fall on their form either - they will protect that poor centerfold with their dying breath. The centerfold can pose nude all she wants btw, they love to protest with bared breasts, women should be allowed to dress or undress as they like without some pig figuratively slobbering all over them. Disgusting creatures. Gendered pronouns must be eliminated. Children should not be called boys and girls at school, how about oranges for girls and apples for boys, or vice versa? I don't like it but hey I'm old! Gendered jobs? Women can fight fires, arrest bad guys, and fight on the front line! Hey I didn't say it was all bad! They support LGBT rights, abortion, and birth control too. Radical feminists are loud and proud! They do not tolerate dissent of any kind and are not open to new ideas, especially if they are from a man. They have their own language and some of it is kind of catchy. Mansplaining, manspreading, and manslamming come to mind. Basically anything a man does can be offensive and tacking man onto the front of the action points out the error of men's ways. How else will society know how fucked up men are? These are the feminists Rush Limbaugh (I read it online) calls feminazi's. He is wrong to use this term but it is one of many I won't use. I don't agree with radical feminists and I don't call myself a feminist either. I accept my own gender equality - I pretty much did what I wanted in life - restricted only by time, money, and motivation. I never tolerated sexual harrassment or an abusive partner, so it was never a problem. I worked with abused women and did rape exams - the solution is where the work needs to be done. Radical feminists have something in common with Rush - if either of them had anything valuable to say I wouldn't hear it. As soon as I hear that raving, ranting, accusatory voice I stop listening.
Is Valentines day just for women??
I personnally don't believe that there should be a day called "Valentines day". Women feel like this means " men have to buy them a gift, give them flowers, a card, a special day to say I love you." Why do the women NOT think that they too should buy him a gift also? Isn't this his Valentines day too? I believe I don't have to wait for a special day to tell my wife " I love you just because your you." And I can give a card anytime I want to..I can write her love letters, and a flower every now and then is a special thing for just another day.....
Do you think that women who classify themselves as feminists are very hypocritical when it comes to intimate relationships with men?
Yes, I do.While I do believe that everyone should have the right to preferences in their own relationships I do think on a large scale many feminists have double standards.For instance, feminists will often acknowledge that men should feel free to express their emotions and show vulnerability. But then many men are still seen as less desirable, including by feminists, when they are vulnerable. If they cry, if they are going to counseling, have a mental health disorder, etc they tend to be seen as less attractive and less suitable dating partners. Many feminists still live with the ingrained notion that men should be strong and stoic and that influences their dating criteria, even if they will consciously say that men should be free to express themselves.There are some feminists who still hold onto double standards. They want to be treated as equals but then will hold it against a man if he won’t pay for them on a first date. The notion of course, that men should pay is left over from a time where women rarely worked and the man was the only one who could afford the bill. But now that women are earning enough, many still expect that men will foot the bill for their food. In fact, many men describe being looked down on for wanting to split the bill.Another fact is that divorce is much more likely to happen in relationships where the woman makes more money than her husband. A study by Harvard explicitly found that women who make more than their male partner believe that they have lost status by being with a lower-earning men. It’s likely that many of these women also considered themselves of the belief that women should be equal.Wife the breadwinner? You’re more likely to get divorced unless husbands do thisIn general it seems that many feminists will openly say the right things but not very much has changed since the 1950s in terms of what women expect from their male partners. He must pay the bill, be chivalrous, be the main provider and remain strong and stoic while she should be free from any gender roles.