Can you go to parties in college without being in a fraternity?
Yes! There are tons of parties in college; not all parties involve a frat or you being a frat member. The sororities and fraternities often invite non-Greek people to their events. They do this to raise money and get different perspectives; outside people add a different dynamic. So don't worry about parties and Greek life; there will be plenty of opportunities to engage in college. Make sure studies come first!
Girlfriend & Sorority Parties?
To be honest, the image you have in your head of wild frat parties and sorority parties are a lot more wild and raunchy than the reality. She's probably just wearing this dress because she wants to fit in with the other girls and wear similar clothing, if the other girls in the sorority are dressing provocatively, she will have to as well to fit in with them and be accepted, it doesn't mean she's going out because she wants to hook up with someone. And I can understand why she isn't inviting you also if these parties are only for members of the sorority and frat party - why should she be allowed special treatment to bring a guest? If she is allowed to bring guests but chooses not to bring you, then you two should be comfortable enough in your relationship and trust each other enough to have separate social lives at times. ADD: Totally understand you points and concerns. Remember as well though that although your girlfriend is in a comitted relationship, many of the people going to this party will be single looking to possibly hook up, it's probably been organised by people wanting to hook up! So she has to play by their rules and dress codes, if all the other girls are dressing a certain way, she's going to want to fit in (hopefully won't behave the same way, however!). I think the problem here is asking yourself WHY you want to go to these events with her? Is it because you want to spend time with her OR because you don't trust her? If it's the latter, then that's a serious issue that will need to be sorted out sooner rather than later, because if she is accepted to the sorority, parties will be more often for her. If it's purely because you want to spend more time with her, tell her how you feel and compromise - accept you can't be there holding her hand at every party, but you'd like invited to some.
I'm not in a sorority but can I still go to sorority parties?
No, it is not weird if you are an invited guest. Your friend invited you so go. The same is true for frat parties. For the most part any sorority girl is automatically invited to a frat party and she is also allowed to invite more ladies (they like that). The thing to remember is that you were invited, not your boyfriend, not your sister, not your mom (jk) they will not appreciate your extra baggage. Also be a good guest and chip in a few dollars to cover beer, food, and decorations and don't make and *** of yourself by getting sloppy drunk and belligerent. You may also notice that you are treated a little differently than the sorority girls at some parties. When I was a sorority girls no one ever asked us to chip in for beer or pay a cover charge but it was common for our guest to be asked to pay (I always chipped in anyway). And I am sorry to say that our bad behaviour was also frequently overlooked. Stay out of the private areas for your safety and to maintain the respect of the sorority/frat. Frat houses do not have the same rules as sorority houses and the bedrooms are often used as an extension to the party space. Use the buddy system and stay with another lady if you venture into a guys room. The bedrooms of a sorority house are off limits to guys and non-members. There may be rare occasions that you are invited into the room of a sister. Lastly, there will be some more formal parties that are for members only. Anything that requires advance tickets or a printed inviation is a good indicator.
How to pick up sorority girls at a frat party?
alright, i just joined a pretty popular fraternity and i begin pledging in 2 days so i want to make the best of my last 2 days and get some girls! this frat pairs with hot sororities, but the girls seem stuck up and uninterested in me. I am NOT used to this, i dont know what it is, i have never had trouble picking up girls at house parties or other non greek events. I'm a good looking guy 6'2" 185 good sense of style. I dont know what it is but ive been on a real cold streak at this frat! please shed some light on this, i know confidence is key and im pretty confident. Im looking for some techniques or tips to make my last 2 days memorable. thanks!
Do you have to be pretty/popular to join a sorority?
No, a sorority is about sisterhood not about money, popularity and looks. It's about finding friends for life so you need to have a good personality, grades. extra curricular involvement, volunteer work, present yourself well and recommendations (if they are common on your campus). You can't coast by on just being pretty and being cocky isn't attractive. It's about finding the right fit, which is someone you can be friends with. Depending on your campus it may not matter when you rush. Freshmen are always preferred as a general rule. If formal rush is over only the chapters that aren't at campus total can continue to recruit, Contact your greek life office to find out who that is and how you find out about any recruitment events. You may have to wait until the next formal recruitment if all chapters are at total.