16 year old attracted(sexually) to a 13 year old girl? Is there anything bad about it? What is your opinion?
When you are older, age doesn't mean much. But at that age it means everything. 3 years could mean the difference between being "ready" and not being "ready for sex and pregnancy which is techincally what guys look for in a girl. Basically meaning she has boobs and looks developed. I wouldn't say there is anything bad about it as guys are supposed to be attracted to girl, you don't consider a 30 year old guy a paedophile if he looks at a 14 year old as long as he doesn't try anything. Guys are supposed to look at girl and are supposed to be attracted to them, instinctively we should even care about their age but because we have morals we don't do it. I'm 17 and I'd date anyone that is older than 15. When I turn 18 ill move it up to 16, 19 to 17 and when I turn 20 it wouldn't really matter because then it will be 18 onwards and 18 is the time we are considered adults. But it doesn't mean I don't look at girls younger and thing "Mmmmm" or whatever, I just wouldn't try anything because its not right. If I were you I'd wait a year, 14 is ok for a 16 year old (assuming she turns 14 before you turn 17) but even the its not exactly really bad. :P Hope I helped! :)
Is it normal for a 20 year old woman to be attracted to teen boys?
I don’t think you are a bad person at all. You are trying to do the right thing. My concern is that as a 20 year old woman time is going to start flying very quickly and before you know it you will be 25 or 30 years old. If you have an unhealthy attraction to a type of male then you can waste a lot of time in dysfunction. Your attraction to the wrong sort of boys is going to keep you from falling in love and developing a relationship with someone more appropriate.There are reasons why you would be attracted to boys in their early teens and those reasons all point to a dysfunction. Good news is, you are only 20 and you have plenty of time to get this corrected and go on and live a full life with a great romance and all that.I would recommend a bit of time in Therapy, not years and years more like months to maybe a year. I would choose a therapist wisely someone who believes in your ability to overcome this dysfunction. There is a school of thought that once you develop a sexual attraction it does not change - I believe these things can change.No, you are not a “creep”. You are a brave young woman willing to look at a unhealthy pattern in her life and make changes - that is the opposite of creep.
Why are you a paedophile for being attracted to 17-year-old girls?
13, yes, 16, it's a judgement call, but 17, or 18, huh? And there are those who say if a grown man's attracted to any girl under 20 he's a paedophile. I know a guy who's 29 and has a 17 year-old girlfriend, and I think nothing of it. The thing is most people who who condemn people for that are being hypocritical in a sense, because they were having sex at 17. The girl's father most likely was having sex with 17 year-old girls at one point, but then will want to hang a guy (especially an older guy) for being with his daughter. I know for a fact that many guys who go for younger girls do so because they didn't have the chance when they were younger. They were from the wrong side of town, didn't have the right kind of car or a car at all, maybe had some sort of social impairment, what have you, and are trying to have something that was denied them when they were that age. I can't help but think of Jerry Seinfeld, who was dating a 17-year-old when he was 35. Do you think when he was 17 and nerdy (and not rich), girls gave him the time of day? Probably not. I know a guy who's 41 and is engaged to a 19-year-old. This guy has worked his @zz off his entire life--he put himself through school (before the days of generous student loans), works 55-60 hour weeks regularly, and had done so for years. I'm sure he would've loved to have found his soulmate two decades ago, but life doesn't always go according to schedule.
Why am I attracted to bad boys, thugs nd criminals? Im a 19 year old girl and im considered pretty ?
And attractive, I have a big bum which I think draws the attention. Iv only slept with 4 guys. Im studying to be an actress why am I attracted only to these type of men?
Why am I attracted to older men?
I am 13 years old and find men in their 30's very attractive. Guys in their 30's just seem to have their lives together more than guys my age and guys in their 20's. Every celebrity crush I've ever had, has been on guys in their 30's. My dad has been verbally abusive and once I turned 11 I told my dad I wanted nothing to do with him anymore. So we no longer speak. I was just wondering if anyone else feels this way. Thanks for reading!
Why do people think dating a 19-year-old is bad? I’m only 13 and he respects me and has never mentioned sex to me.
In this day and age, no normal, healthy, well-adjusted 19 year old would be remotely interested in a romantic relationship with a 13 year old girl.People think it's bad, because it sets off alarm bells to the rest of us that something is off. At the very least, it isn't a balanced relationship no matter what. He is an adult, and you are a child. Period. Anything he is doing to win you over is a lie. You're being manipulated.Men like him wouldn't just mention sex unless they thought it was what you wanted to hear. He is likely grooming you-- cajoling you into a situation where he will eventually get what he wants, and in a way that he can try to get away with it. Heck, you would probably end up thinking that it was your idea (you love him so much… and, and people your age used to get married and start families…and you're ready…and Juliet was only 12, she “had not yet reached her thirteenth birthday”, and she and Romeo were so in love…!!.!! *Gag* —have you even read that play yet? God, you're so young.)Has anyone (anyone! Doesn't matter “who”) ever (ever! At any point in your life) sexually, or in any way, abused you (touched you, hit you, emotionally abused you…? Anyone? Ever?) Is your dad around…? like, in the same house? Do you get positive attention from him? If you've been abused, or you don't have a normal, healthy relationship with your dad, that could be why you are in this situation. You may benefit from some therapy to help you work through your issues, and avoid unhealthy relationships in the future.This guy is a CREEP. You may think he respects you, but I would bet money that he is playing you like a cheap fiddle. Like it or not, that is just how “relationships” like this work. There are no exceptions.I'm an atheist, but, girl, you need to find Jesus. Or Loveline. Listen to episodes of Loveline with Adam Carolla and Dr. Drew on YouTube (…syndicated call-in radio show from the late 90s-2000s, but it is entertaining, and a lot of their celebrity guests/co-hosts are still relevant). Trust me. It will help you with questions you will have throughout your teen years about relationships, dating, and sex.
I'm a 15 year old girl and I'm only attracted to older men in the range of 23-39 is that's bad?
It's normal and natural for you to be attracted to them AND for them to be attracted to you. I'm an actual expert in the field of attraction. I'm 30 years old and have dated women 18-55. And I've been good friends with girls 13-18 who I have absolutely adored but never spent time alone with them or had physical contact with them. My family and friends know that I absolutely adore girls 13-18 and the only reason why I'm allowed around those wonderful girls is because their families permit it and actually encourage it because I'm a good person with great work ethic and high intelligence. Teen girls love to talk and I love to listen. I've done dishes with a very chatty 13 year old that everyone else would normally get tired of listening to after 10 minutes but I could hear her for hours non-stop and love it. There was a time when I was 24 and this lady wanted me to spend time with her 15 year old daughter but I was too scared to do so, but recently I've learned more about the laws and have been a lot more open about spending time with teen girls as long as we're not alone. I think it's good to be friends with who you like, just don't have sex if you don't want to get pregnant or get your lover a long prison sentence. In many places the age for legal sex is 16+ and most men would love to have a 16 year old girlfriend, they just don't want to be socially ridiculed. Me, I have asperger's syndrome so I really don't care about stuff like that. Lol.
Im only attracted to straight anal sex.... Im a a bad person? Can i ever find a woman to stay?
This issue has complicated every relationship ive ever had. Im a smart and handsome man ive dated many women and can charm them with ease, but once its time for sex and i cant stay hard in the vagina; i really enjoy foreplay in both areas but ......it complicates things. Especially when and if they find out my secret. Ive been this way since the first time i was ever attracted to women and have never been attracted to men. Its generally taken very negatively and it makes me extreamely depressed. Is there like a way to get rid of it? Can conseling help me change? I know it sounds stupid and i should accept myself but thats not working for me and i want to live a normal lovelife just like a normal human being would. Its ruining me and has been for a long time; it makes me not want to live anymore sometimes.
Can a 12 or 13 year old be a pedophile?
The formal definition of pedophilia generally requires the person to be 16 or above, but that’s not what you’re asking. You want to know if someone can realize they have a sexual attraction to prepubescent kids from a young age.Yes, I knew I was attracted to kids when I was about 13 or 14 years old. It was obvious that I was going through puberty and the people I was attracted to hadn’t yet. By the formal definition, I was not a pedophile, but c’mon… I obviously was one.Now, I know others who thought they were pedophiles but turned out otherwise. Human sexuality is weird. Don’t jump to conclusions. Sexual desires change a lot as you grow older, and people discover a lot about their attractions over time. I’m still discovering things about mine.I think a 12- or 13-year-old can have good reason to suspect being a pedophile, but it’s far from certain. Humans are weird, and so are our desires, and look at any romantic comedy to see how terrible we are at understanding our own desires even when they’re perfectly normal and accepted by society!If you think you might be or think you know someone who might be, just remember that these things are complicated, and remember that our desires don’t determine who we are or our morality. There’s a lot more to us than that.