How do I become a better person?
I've been stuck for years now. I feel like a terrible person. I've ruined several relationships in my life, to the point of no return for some of them. I've held back important people in my life and hurt them. I think about myself first and foremost. I start a new day and I start to act differently and really start to show good signs, then I revert to how I used to be. It's been over and over again. It's taking a toll on my girlfriend. She's tired of it because I don't know who I am. I'm tired of it because I keep hurting her. I want to fix things with her and I want to fix myself. What do I need to do? I don't have the money to go see someone about this, and around where I live the service is not the best. I know it's no better to ask strangers on the internet. I just feel stuck. I tried keeping a job to maybe help, but that made things worse with the stress of school. I'm stressed. I'm tired of being who I am and I make myself sick. I know who I want to be, but how do I keep from reverting back to who I am?
How can i become a better person?
You know, somebody once told me that there are two kinds of people that do "nice things" for other people in this world. The first kind of people do nice things because it is in their nature. They don't like being mean-spirited, and they just do nice things because that's how they are. The second kind of people do nice things, even though it is not in their nature to do nice things. They donate to charity, even though, in their heart, they don't care about poor people. Do you know the difference between these two kinds of people? The answer is six months. If a person does nice things for six months straight, they will transform into nice people. Of course, the point of being a kind person is that you shouldn't want anything in return for your contributions. In other words, if you act kindly, without asking for anything in return, for six months, you will become a kind person. That's the honest truth, though it might take more or less time, depending on the person. I hope that helped.
How can I become a better person?
Seek your meaning. Life throws you opportunities every single day, but we don't always recognize them. When we do recognize that we can make a choice, we don't always choose to because it might involve something that is outside of our comfort zone. So here is the problem, you wouldn't be seeking answers if the things that made you comfortable were helping you to become a better person. Without causing yourself any harm, make new choices when faced with familiar situations. Do the uncomfortable thing, the thing that takes more effort, the thing that pushs you into the spotlight.
Is it ever too late to become a better person?
A2A; TY, Ashley.No, never. It may be too late to really effect change in the world around but there might still be things you’ll do for yourself.I had a friend named Ted. Ted was a world-class alcoholic. It was rather impressive. He got into a ton of trouble because of this. He lost his marriage. He lost his home. He ended up having to testify that he saw a VERY scary biker dude he knew kill someone else with a tire iron (at subsequent risk to his own survival). And he kept drinking through all of it.Fast forward: Ted finally got sober. And we were pleased, even though most of us had very little contact with him at that point. But we were all happy that this happened because we knew how much Ted wanted it and what a struggle it was. But Ted was also a heavy cigarette smoker. Shortly after he sobered up, he was diagnosed Stage III or IV cancer. (I don’t recall where it started but it was a wildfire in Ted’s body.)Ted’s ex-wife would visit him in the hospice his last month or so. She said it was very bad. She said that during the course of a couple hours in a visit, she could actually see new eruptions of cancer forming: tumors/growths would start manifesting in his neck. It sounds about as bad as one could hope to avoid.Ted was in an incredible amount of pain. He knew he was terminal and painkillers weren’t very effective at that point. There was no reason for him not to drink; it really would’ve been an “Oh, what the hell, it won’t make a difference now!” kind of things. But despite everything, Ted chose to stay sober until he died. It was a strong statement about what he wanted for himself.Would he have been better off getting sober sooner? Sure. But it’s not like he didn’t try. At the end, the only person he could be better for was himself and that was a good enough reason to do it.You may not get to be a better person in time to get some of the things you want, but you can always be a better person for yourself. As we grow, there will always be regrets: why didn’t I do this sooner? why didn’t I see that I was being a jerk? how did I miss that one big opportunity? But we can be better people and there’s no telling what that might also do for us, too.
How can i become a better more productive person?
My life is not going the way i want it to i am struggling to graduate from high school i am going to get laid off and i feel like all i do is watch tv i need to find out how to motivate myself and to step away from the tv. honestly not being a morning person/not having a set schedule and watching tv has ruined me life so far can anyone help me with some advice tips support anything?