I want to live with my mom full-time?
Okay so my parents got divorced when I was 7 years old and I am 13 now. I'm not sure why my parents got divorced because they both don't like to talk about it. My dad was a professor and recently married one of his students that he's been with for a while. She's 11 years younger than him. She has a daughter that is just a couple days older than me. They are both okay, but they aren't particularly nice. My step-mother makes barely any money at all and she completely relies on her parents (her mom pays for her iPhone, paid for her house, car, an plane tickets). This really ticks me off because my mom's family has tons of money yet m mom still works hard and earns everything for herself. I have to share a tiny room with my step- sister and my dad expects us to be best friends. We aren't anything alike at all! My dad's family is from Philidelphia and we go every other year. We have already seen the liberty bell and betsy Ross' house but my step mom wants to see all that stuff and I told my dad I didn't want to go back there just for her and he got super mad! I want to live with my mom full time and she is okay with it, it's just that I don't know ow to tell my dad and come about changing the schedule legally! Please help! I don't know what to do! Ps she just got a ring and she brags about it and talks about it all the time even though the setting her mom gave her and the diamond is half the size that my Mom's was. She's 35 and my dad is 46.
13 year old not living with his mom?
Recently my boyfriend and I moved out of his mothers home, along with 2 of his sisters. Their mother is a 48 yr old acting like she's still 21. She has 10 kids and doesn't act like their mother. When we moved his mother dropped off her 13 yr old son here to live with us. This 13 yr is also suppose to be home-schooled. Now he thinks he doesn't have to go to his home-school classes doesn't have to do chores and talks back. I think he needs to leave here and go back with his mom. His sisters have no legal guardianship of him but they want him to stay here with us. They are on the lease as well as I am. But they say I have no say in the matter. How can I get him out of the house and back where he belongs, with his mother.
My mom is making me go live with my dad...?
From what you wrote, you are right. You are NOT the problem here. Your mom may not be telling you all of the reasons she has for needing/wanting to be alone. It could be safer for you elsewhere for some reason that you don't know--nothing to do with how much of a problem you are. Your dad may have caused her some legal problems that precipitated this. What I am saying is that you don't need to blame yourself. As far as what you might do... Since you don't want to live with your dad, look around as some of your girl friends and see if maybe they could take you in for a couple of months--or however long your mom thinks she might need to have that alone time. Sometimes there are people that can and will help. You can also talk with your school counselor. He/she might know of government programs to help. In my community, there is a womens' shelter that sometimes can provide temporary accommodations. You can also talk with your local religious leader (pastor, bishop, priest, rabbi...). He (or she) will know community members and may surprise you with a helpful suggestion. At 16, I'm sure this is difficult for you. Remember that friends don't always have the resources to help. So asking trusted adults for help is often a good idea. Adults often have the resources and legal wherewithal to actually do something. You also might want to talk with your dad. He may have a thought, or maybe money, that might help. Go easy on telling him off. Just stick with your needs and see what he comes up with. Good luck.
My mom won't let me live my life. What should I do?
Your mother is one of the mothers who believes she owns you. Simply leave.You are your own person, not her pet or lifetime companion. So act like it.By complying with her demands you are being used, exploited, manipulated by someone who has to grow up herself and learn what life is like after her child has left home.Sure she's scared of life without you. But it's a fact of life that she has to grow up, be an adult and move on herself.Of course you can choose to stay at home and continue as you are. You know how that future is going to be and what will it give you.If necessary simply move to another place altogether and change your SIM card etc until you are settled and feeling that contact with your mother will not derail you.The fact you were not ‘permitted’ to go to your college of choice is evidence she doesn't have your best interests at heart: like a mother ought to.
I want to live with my Dad! But I don't want to make my Mom sad!?
When parents separate, it can just as tough on the children, as you're finding out. I'm at least assuming this is what's happened, and that you've been asked to choose who you'd rather live with? I can't imagine what a horrible situation that is to be placed in. It's natural not to want to hurt anyone's feelings, but you must not feel guilty! You haven't done anything wrong, and this situation is not your fault. Whatever you decide to do is ok. Your mum will understand and she will not blame you. She loves you - both your parents do, and both of them would want you to be happy. But you must not stay where you will be unhappy, just to make your mum feel better. She is there to protect you, not the other way around, and she will be just fine. You must do what is right for you. Talk to your mum and tell her how you feel. Explain your reasons for your decision and reassure her that you love her.
What do I do if my wife doesnt want to live with my mom?
This is difficult to answer as I don't know the whole situation. Mothers and mother in laws have broken up tons of marriages. I was talking to an ex sister in law of mine and she told me how much my aunt had interfered in her marriage. They didn't live together, but lived next door. My aunt had constantly criticized her parenting and their marriage. I had no idea but wasn't surprised. In the Western world as well as in other cultures, there is kind of an unsaid rule. One woman in a house is okay, two can be HELL. Women tend to take dominion over their environment and paint it, rearrange it and want to control it. When two women try to do this, they clash.Now if your mom and wife have a good relationship, this can be such an asset. They could also have such a good relationship that you feel like the odd man out OR it could work out beautifully and be a rich and supportive family experience. It all depends on y'all and how you get along and you rindividual personalities and quirks.I'm sure there are other options and if I knew the details, could help you work through them.
I want to live with my dad, but my mom wont let me?
Im 15 and my parents divorced when i was 7. ive lived with my mom all my life but we just dont get along very good... we get into fights about EVERYTHING! she also jokes about not being able to wait till i move out and when we fight she always tells me to go move with my dad. One night we got into a big fight n she told me to move with my dad and i told him i was moving there. days later she told me i wasnt n when i fought back she said we would discuss it later.. then she decided i wasnt moving n if i did shed sue my dad. my dad said they had joint custody and she couldnt do anything but my mom said she could because he doesnt pay child support or anything (but she has never told him to or said anything about it to him.) shes really controlling and thinks she can have whatever she wants now my dad says that ill just come down before school and tell her im not coming back but that sounds like a bad idea too me also my dad only lives like an hour away and my mom goes there almost every weekend.. and i think it would be better for me to live there because its a bigger town with more to do, i could get a job there and have more friends and wouldnt be so bored all the time. so how do i handle this. Any Advise???
I hate living with my mom and don't know what to do about it?
Since you said that you hate living with your mom and not that you hate your mom, I think it’s simply something you can arrange to fix through changing your situation.How difficult will it be for you to save some money, or move in with a friend, relative, or just rent a room somewhere?You definitely do not need to confront your mother or discuss any of this with her, it may be best to move out, telling her you wish to try living on your own, before you attempt to resolve any of the issues with your mother.Speaking from my own experience, so much of what I felt was horrible about my relationship with my mother got better for several decades after I moved out at age 18. Although to be fair, problems did return much later, they weren’t the same problems.Until you have lived on your own, it will be hard to tell how you really feel about your Mother, because you have yet to learn about yourself by getting out there.I made the assumption that you have not lived on your own before. Perhaps that is incorrect. Either way, best of luck.
See i only live with my mom and its hard for my mom to trust boys?
The fact that this boy would like to meet your mom, is a really good thing! He is willing to be man enough to step up and do the right thing. In a lot of cases (not all) young guys put meeting the mom last on their list. If this boy wants to meet your mother, than he most likely has good intentions to be with you. :) It's hard for your mother, she has been through a lot more than you have. She knows how it feels to get your heart broken, or be in a bad relationship. So it's natural for her to want to protect you. Although the truth is, you have to live and learn all on your own. The key to getting your mother's trust is communication. I know it's hard. Just keep trying. Explain to her that you want her advice on things, and show her that you really care to listen. Then let her know that you have to experience things, and learn on your own. But you promise to listen to all of her advice. :) On the other hand explain to this boy that your mom has had a bad relationship, and that she needs to time before she can trust again. So warming up to her may take a while, but let him know you respect him wanting to meet her. I really think you need to go for it, and let them meet. Communication is the key... Good luck hun! :)