How can I start caring about school again?
My whole life I've been a straight A student, but lately, I just don't really care. I used to be really diligent about homework and studying, but now I could care less. For instance, I have a major biology lab report and three papers due tomorrow, and I haven't started any of them, but I'm not even worried at all. What is wrong with me? I don't know why this change occurred. How can I fix it? I have to apply for colleges next year and I really don't want to screw up my chances, but I just can't seem to find any motivation to succeed anymore.
How do I start caring about things again?
I am 15 years old. I am really smart and learn things instantly most of the time but I don't try at school at all. I am failing every single class right now one is so bad that it is a zero the others in the 30 or 40 range and I just don't care. I am not depressed I am really happy in life but for some reason I don't care about anything at all. I've been like this for a while. Its getting worse though because its affecting my actions now I have a "**** everything" attitude and will do anything even if its stupid or crazy. Even if it could get me in jail I just don't care for some reason. Anyone have any ideas to start caring again. Or actually I guess technically you can say I care because I am writing this but when it comes to doing mental work or being worried about consequences I just do not give any shits.
How do I start caring about my appearance again?
Gosh some one who feels the same way I do. I am a stay at home mom of two girls, plus I live on a farm, so I don't see many people - except my hubby. I don't dress up anymore, haven’t worn perfume for a long time - have several very nice brands, hope they don't get stail with age! I do find that simple/casual & comfortable suits my situation in life, when you have to go work in the barn who needs a ton of make up on, and the animals certainly don't care if you did your hair or not. I would hate to ruin a good pair of town jeans so I wear my old ones, or my yoga pants under my coveralls. I think I have one pair of high heels which I wear with one outfit to funerals, but I certainly use to have a whole closet full of them dreadful things when I was in the work world. I would have to say that doing what you do, you probably don't need to be dressy - it may be nice to have a few fun outfits to put on on the weekend so your fiancée will compliment you again, go out and find a couple things that will be fun...you'll feel better about it too! Don't be too hard on your self, we are just fine the way we are! Maybe go and get a pedicure, or your hair highlighted - it is still nice to do things for ourselves and nothing is better than a pedicure/hair color. Even if you wear socks and steel toed work boots (like me) all the time and pony tails under caps or toques! Great question!
I want to start over...in life?
No, don't do it. You're only 20 years old, and you have life to live (hopefully) and starting over won't help because you've already built a foundation you just need to learn from your mistakes. Starting over to make your life perfect or 'better' just isn't right. The best way to make your life better is to learn from previous mistakes and keep trying, because if you start over and you make another mistake when you start over you'll keep wanting to start over. Life is in just and hard, why not try taking confidence classes, reconnecting with friends spend time with them or your family. Or maybe just start trying a day routine where you go in front of the mirror and just stare at yourself and think about the things you love about yourself, it won't make you over confident it'll make you perfectly confident. Accepting yourself is the first stage to what lies ahead. You will not be gifted with confidence like other people, or organization skills. But there is a difference between someone who is gifted and another who is not gifted but tries. You'll go far, and sometimes learning the hard way is the best way ~ You're not a failure, stop comparing yourself to other people, because of course that will make you naturally just more self conscious. You are on your own level, work with it. And why would you want to get married when you're 20 ? I don't mean to sound cliche but that only makes a miserable life. Take care of your dreams before you make an unbreakable vow towards marriage. You are yourself and get over it, you won't be like your friends who maybe more mature, or faster than you at finding independence, but who cares ? Going at someone else paste will give you real misery. It's high time you stop wining and actually start doing. To talk the talk you gotta walk the walk, if you want to be successful then work with yourself. Study, live with somebody if that's what makes you comfortable, dating it's not you, in fact you just seem wise about who you date. Darling, you're blaming yourself and whining way too much. Stop self pitying and start trying more, you're not going to get somewhere by crying about what a failure you are. Appreciate yourself and get over the fact you're not like other people, embrace it, work with it to make yourself better, this is the time where you need to start finding yourself and only you can do it Advice is only 1 % the 99 % is all you and when you're ready.
How to stop caring about people's opinions?
It is not possible to stop caring. Some people are sensitive and other people are not. People who do not care usually do not care about other people in general. They usually only care about themselves. If anything, other people are just used to boost their own ego. They feed off of other people's attention. Sensitive people, people who care about others, and have a sense of injustice, seek to please other people. That is the main difference. Additionally, people who are sensitive are able to empathize with others. If they see another person being treated cruelly they are able to see it in the other person's shoes and in a sense are sharing the effect. I am sure that you cannot or do not want to stop caring about people in general; therefore, the only solution is to try and avoid people like this. Try not to hang around crowds where these kinds of people are present. Try not to watch movies or shows that are going to upset you or make you angry. Try to avoid music and cultures that attract negative lifestyles and opinions. It would be best for you to surround yourself with other people who are sensitive and careful of others. There are people out there who are against bad mouthing others and are about helping others. They are hard to find but they are out there. In the mean time, make sure to get plenty of rest and exercise. Put time aside to relax and enjoy some peaceful surroundings. In the end, the best solution is to avoid environments that upset you. I know many people who are like this and wonder what they can do about it, yet they hang out with people or groups that usually have negative opinions or attitudes. Or they associate with people like this. Many people complain about how all the people they meet cause drama, yet they actively seek out these crowds. Listening to degrading or aggressive music can also alter a person's mood. Try to listen to peaceful music that does not have lyrics. For example, listen to some classical music or jazz. Last, try not to hang around people who just want to vent about life when you hang out with them or talk down about others. This can bring you down. Try to hang out with people who just want to enjoy the moment and not gossip. People who talk trash about others on a usual basis normally attract drama.
How do I learn to care again,love again,have the want to live again,the desire to better myself again how?
I know right now you may not believe anyone can feel the same pain you have been though and are going though. And it may not be exactly the same but may of us have had to dig out of that hole where our heart/soul has been so deeply hurt/broken that we just don’t understand how we can ever get dig out of it. And sometimes we have to take it one day at a time to keep going … sometimes even one hour at a time. I could give you a lot of biblical and psychological reasons for why we feel this way but while it might give some rational/logical/mental answers it doesn’t help the pain. And it doesn’t answer the why did such a thing happen. It’s said Our Creator always finds a way to create something good from the most horrible of tragedies, I know right now you probably are having trouble wondering how such a thing could happen or why would it be allowed to happen. That unfortunately is the nasty side of humans having free will. A free will that often doesn’t consider how our choices & actions will effect others. Just as our actions when we are very depresses effect everyone around us though we might not realize it. Right now if I was to guess I would say there are two areas you need to soul search for, the ability to forgive (not forget, forgive there is a difference) the person that caused your hurt. But more importantly the ability to forgive yourself, for there was nothing you could have done to change the outcome. I really wish I could say something to make you feel better. Unfortunately, much like a broken leg or arm, the heart also takes time to heal. I know it hurts, but just take it one day at a time. And much like with a broken arm, or leg, try to find constructive things to keep your mind thinking about something else. And not always focusing on the hurt. (I know trying to doing that is often a like trying to hold the ocean tied back with a broomstick.) I wish I could give you a magic cure to loose the hurt other than time, but there just isn’t one. All I can say is: May Our Creator bless and watch over you