How to stop social anxiety around girls?
You need to learn to flirt. If you are shy you need to overcome this. Shy guys never get the girl ... ever. Why? Because self- confidence is very attractive to girls, even if they say it isn't. Even ugly guys can get a super model if they have loads of confidence. But you are shy. So what do you do? Firstly, check out body language and flirting techniques on the net. Secondly, if she is very pretty, imagine her as unattrative. Thirdly, channel someone who is confident. Preferably someone who is a nice person and confident, and approach her in the manner that this person would. You must find someone confident and attractive to girls - preferably someone that you can watch closely, but it could also be a celebrity on tv - and adopt their mannerisms, speech patterns, posture etc. do this all the time, and not just when speaking to the girl. Just as your body language will be influenced by your mentality, so your mentality and confidence will be affected by your body language, and especially your speech patterns, the words you use and your accent. Keep it up and the shyness will evaporate. Just be careful to select a role model who seems truly confident and comfortable with himself and who seems attractive to everyone, and then to emulate even the smallest mannerisms and speech modalities etc. you will be acting at first, but over time you will simply have improved yourself, and when you have confidence, and this has been reinforced in you, you will modify this personality to reflect the new you. You really don't need to be shy, but because you are shy, you need to pretend that you are someone else who is not shy, until you get used to not being shy. Good luck
How to being so anxious around women?
realizing your problem is the first step to change! There is NOTHING wrong with fear, unless we let it control us.. courage isn't the lack of fear, it is doing what you need to do, despite the fear! For myself, I was very shy, and when I was a teen, I realized that this wasn't helping me at all, so I just decided that I would TRY to change. Fear is just an emotion - don't let it control you. YOU CONTROL YOU! Talk back to that fear - just say to yourself something like, "I know this isn't easy, but it's what I need to do to be happy." And then be brave! Take baby steps - talk to one woman - it's easier if you have a topic.. so in the grocery store, you could say something like, "do you happen to know where they keep the ?" Smile, say thanks.. Or at school, just ask what the assignment is etc.. just FORCE yourself to introduce yourself.. just do it, and you will soon find that facing your fears takes them away.
How do i stop being so socially awkward?
So if I'm reading the situation right, before you go to parties, you start to worry that you'll look lame or not be able to make good conversation, etc. It sounds like you're suffering from the spotlight effect, a common psychological phenomenon that causes people to think that other people are looking at them and judging them when they're really not. The truth is that most people don't notice or care about whether or not you sound a little nervous when you speak, occasional awkward pauses in conversation, etc., so you should just relax and be yourself. Once you relax, your conversations will be a lot smoother because you won't constantly be second-guessing yourself and asking yourself if a new subject is too boring, personal, etc. The formula for parties and group social situations is pretty simple. Do what everyone else is doing. If everyone is, I don't know, standing around the barbecue grill making small talk, go to the grill and make small talk too. If everyone is doing karaoke, get up and do a song too. It's hard at first, but once you join in, you'll start to ease up and have fun. And it's not like anyone will make fun of you for doing what they're doing. And with stuff like video games, dancing, etc. you're probably as good as most other people. I don't think it's lame at all, actually. Everyone gets nervous sometimes. At least you're "manning up" so to speak and facing your problems instead of resigning yourself to hiding at home forever. Good for you! Enjoy your next party.
To the people who suffer or suffered from social anxiety, how did you overcome your fears of being social?
I got myself a therapist, cut toxic friends out of my life and started taking meds. Now I’m off the meds and suddenly I have a confidence better than any other time in my life. Five months ago I would literally rather die than talk in front of my class, for example. Now I raise my hand without a second thought. It’s possible, but it takes work and you need to face your fears. Me and my therapist started by evaluating what was most and least scary, starting with the least (i.e asking strangers for directions or making a phone call) and going to a ”higher difficulty” once that was easy. I’d say the most important thing is making sure you go at your own pace; don’t push yourself too hard.