I have an obsessed fear its ruining my life help?
Since your saying you can't really do anything about it then the last resort would be going on anxiety medications.Talk to your doctor about it and tell him that its taking over your life.But you should just live every moment and be around more positive things and people and then you'll start to think more positively.And think about it,your not the only one out there like that.I used to be scared of dying too.It got so bad that before i couldn't sleep and developed severe insomnia and paranoia.I didn't go on any meds though because one day i was just like "you know life is too short to worry about when its going to end."And also think about it this way,if you believe in God or an afterlife,when we die we're still us.Think of it as driving a car,your inside the vehicle but you are not the vehicle.Our physical bodies are cars and we are only inside of it.I know that sounds cheesy but it works for me."Death" is only us stepping out of that car and into something better.I guess you can say we are living an eternal life.Sorry if this was too long.You and you gf will be fine.If you want to talk more you can email me. :)
I'm am so obsessed with my looks it's ruining my life what do I do?
First of all: you aren't ugly. Trust me, you are a beautiful person who just lost her way. You need to rediscover and find the You that exists apart from what you see in the mirror. Turn off the computer, put away the magazines and stay away from the mirror. Forget about your appearance for a while and get out and do things for people who are less fortunate than you, volunteer to read stories to kids and the library, spend an hour a week helping others. Turn your focus away from yourself for a while and focus on other people. Do something with your time that doesn't involve your make-up or hair: join a sport, take up bowling, try sky diving, zip-lining, motorcycle racing, wilderness hiking whatever! Focus on things outside yourself and try to improve the inside. The better you feel inside the better you will feel about the outside. Once you feel better about your insides the outside will also feel better and by extension look better. I actually work in fashion and I find getting away from clothes and make-up helps me stay centered and reminds me that there's more to life than myself. You need balance in your life and focusing so much on yourself has thrown you off balance.
I'm obsessed about my looks and it's ruining my life?
Have you ever heard of body dysmorphic disorder? It is something that anorexics have as well as other people that just obsess over flaws. It may or may not be your problem but I figured I'd post a link to info on this disorder. You could be in the beginning stages of it. You also sound like you have OCD. That is what causes you to check so often. But that is common with body dysmorphic disorder. Whatever is wrong, if it is causing you a lot of distress, you might want to try therapy or anxiety medication. Best of luck, hope this helps :-) http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/mental-health-body-dysmorphic-disorder
Did philosophy ruin my life?
“There is but one truly serious philosophical problem, and that is suicide. Judging whether life is or is not worth living amounts to answering the fundamental question of philosophy. All the rest -- whether or not the world has three dimensions, whether the mind has nine or twelve categories -- comes afterward. These are games; one must first answer.”ALBERT CAMUS______________________________________________________________________________________I understand completely where you are coming from… I have seemingly been exiled to the mire of an existentialist swamp self-created within the confines of my own mind. After having spent years studying the work of great philosophers from Aristotle, Plato, and beyond to supposed mystics like GI Gurdjieff—I still have yet to find any definitive answer as to why sentient life is doomed to a lifetime of suffering with only the briefest respites of pleasure and happiness throughout our lives.I struggle to find relevance in the modern world, a place where I feel I belogn, or the entire “human experience” in general.I’m not even certain I feel for anything or anyone at this point in my life. Everything feels like an uphill battle at this point. Call me Sisyphus.I had a few chances to become wealthy via internet marketing in my 20’s, get married, raise children, live the “American Dream”, and instead turned to heavy drug use and promiscuous sex like many of the famous existentialists resorted to in an attempt to fill this void that has always existed inside of me.There really isn’t an easy answer that I, or anyone else for that matter, can give you.You have to find your own raison d’tre.I can only leave you with my favorite quote by Camus…“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger — something better, pushing right back.”You have to dig deep to find something inside of you that still wants to live and accept all the absurdity that comes with it.
Im obsessed im going to ruin my life and happiness?
We all have power to decide what we will think about and what we won't think about. If you find yourself thinking these things that you don't want to think about then you will have to literally say to yourself, "No I won't go there. I will think about something that is positive and happy." No one else can control your thoughts. But you can. You know when you are getting into those thoughts too deep. That is when you make the decision to think of something else. You know life is going to bring enough lemons on its own. Things you won't have any control over. So why waste precious good times now? There is no one ever in the history of our civilization that changed one thing by worrying about it. So you are wasting time dwelling on things you have no control over. I used to be a compulsive worrier. But when I was in group therapy with my teenage daughter the instructor pointed this same fact out. Although it sounds very simple it is amazing how we can't see it. So give it a try. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
How to get over obsession with weight? It's ruined my life.?
Ever since I was 12, how much I weigh and how skinny I should look has occupied about 80% of my thoughts. I'm nearly 23 now. There have only been rare times when I wasn't utterly repulsed being in my skin and I'm always gaining weight and sometimes losing it. I'm a size 16 right now, the big kind. One time I dieted down to a size 10 I was getting so many compliments and people treated me differently despite being the same person and I was loving it. But then I just fell back into old habits. I hate my fat thighs which rub against my jeans, and it was so bad it worse out and i got huge holes in them. When this happened I was so embarrassed and disgusted with myself I wouldn't go outside for almost a week, skipping classes and making excuses that I was feeling ill. I can't look at a mirror, especially ones with bright lights, because they show all my stretch marks, acne and general fatness and I want to puke. It doesn't help my mom is always critical of my weight, telling me essentially how fat and ugly I've gotten, and that I looked my best thinner. I never get compliments for anything else in my life, only if I lose weight. So that has basically caused a rift and I hardly talk to her. I've been on healthy lifestyle changes, sometimes being successful for a few months and dropping a decent amount of weight, but I always go back to the junk food. I also almost always make excuses not to go out with people in class because I usually I get secretly pissed off and how much thinner the others girls are and all the nice clothes they can fit into. So basically, I have no real friends to speak of. As you can see this has turned me into a sad kind of person and I'm tired of it. I hate myself more everyday and want to end everything. The only thing keeping me going is a long distance relationship, which I find incredibly sad. What do I do? Has anyone ever gotten out of something like this?
Is it okay to be obsessed with Kpop? Or is this ruining my life?
I saw a similar question like this, and I'm getting a bit scared. Is it okay to be obsessed Kpop, or obsessed with one boy band for a long time? Is this getting out of hand? I'm a very dedicated Super Junior fan for 3 years and continuing. It started when I listened to Lies by Big Bang, and I got very hooked with Kpop. I started liking Big Bang for a while, until Super Junior came into my life. I write fan mails to give to Suju, have posters of Suju covering my WHOLE ENTIRE room. (I'm not kidding). I have pictures of Suju printed on every binder I have which is 4, front and back whole for school. I have stickers and magazines of them which is hidden away from my siblings, because they're obsessed with Kpop too (My brother is obsessed with Tara while my sister is obsessed Ukiss.). I even got myself private singing lessons so that I could audition for S.M and meet Super Junior. I have a really bad temper when someone bashes on Suju, and I will literally cut their throats if they say that Suju is gay, has bad singing, or have weird funky music. And I will seriously get angry if someone says Heechul is gay. I actually punched a girl hard on the face when a girl next to me started saying Heechul was gay at a Super Junior concert. I think I'll die if I don't get to listen to Kpop at least once a day. I don't watch Korean drama though, unless they have Super Junior. I watched all shows with Super Junior that I know of, and I collected a lot of cute Suju key chains. I dream about Super Junior, and I will beg my parents to go to a Super Junior concert, whether it's in Malaysia or China (With my own money, of course.) I have t-shirts of Super Junior, and I have friends that I talk about Kpop and Suju everyday. Well, we always argue because my friends like B2ST and Boyfriend better, and we have Kpop dance battles. Every time we have a talent show, my friends and I perform a Kpop song (We do rock paper scissors on which song we get to dance to lol). I have all B+'s in all my class, and I have a lot of other friends besides my Kpop buddies. Is this ruining my life, or is okay to be obsessed with them because I'm 14? Also, I'm Korean and I know my own language.
I'm obsessed with a celebrity and it is ruining my life. It's all I think about. I care about this person more than myself. How can I get over them?
Do you know why you feel this way?If not, try to spend some time with your own thoughts and think about why do you care about someone who is not a part of your life better than yourself. (Are you unhappy? Have low self confidence? Low self esteem? Do you lack something in your relationships? Are you lonely? Feel worthless?)I'm not saying you are weird or unusual. I'm sure you know it's very common.If you are young and still developing (under 25) I'd advise you to try to discontinue seeking new info about this person and stop watching or listening to their stuff. Completely. For some significant time. A month or two. Or more. However much you feel you'll need. Go completely cold. And replace all the pleasant highs you get from thinking about them and admiring their work with something that's focused on you.Cook great meals for yourself. Go running. Join a gym. Go for a swim. Read. Watch new things. Try something new, painting or poetry or photography.Focus on one of these new things anytime you have the urge to go back and 'spend time' with your chosen celebrity.I'm sure they are a great person and you'd get along splendidly, but it's not going to happen.However you will be spending time with yourself until you die. So make yourself into someone you are proud of. And you won't get there by looking at someone else and neglecting your own needs.If you are older than 25 or so, you might benefit from talking to a therapist as it's possible you didn't have a chance to develop your own self worth in a healthy way. And can struggle. That's ok. We all could probably benefit from a good talk with someone who knows how feelings and relationships and everything connected to self works. Rarely we get taught these things. Some people apparently catch on well, some could do with a guidance (which really should be done at school) but there's little of it out there.But you can try the above things as well. And see how you get on.Later on, you can of course come back to admiring your chosen person.It's good to have people to look up to. There are lots of great, admirable people around. Find more of them and think about what they've done to get where they are. It's very probably lots and lots of work and a little bit of luck.Work and learn and enjoy being you. If you ever get to meet them, you can be proud of who you are and can tell them they've helped you become who you've achieved to be.
How to stop being so superstitious, its ruining my life!?
Hey listen whenever someone speaks strongly about something or gives you an advice, look at them,What have they accomplished? what is that person backround, how great is that person in that wise 1.So go an asked this person that tells you about, How is going with your life, if they could be able to understand the type fo things you mentioned they probably live a great, DO THEY? 2.All the advices in the world, including mine off course, are mere opinions, the only opninon that matters is your! 3.How about go into the world like you didnţt these things, just for the sake of playing a game, when you pretend you are not knowing, like when you were young when you could play with dolls and believe in your mind that they are real, but knowing so strongly that after the time playing they became mere dolls, play so strongly like you don't know the things they tell you, and see what happens. 4.Try, cause if you never tried you never lived. Good Luck, I wish you would choose to live the life you like to live, and them about they boy that they tolled you he was right and wasn't, why were they wrong? if what you say is true, So good luck, and remember that always your choises will always fallow your believes.
Why is jealousy ruining my life?
Jealousy is a very negative emotion. It is ruining your life because of the shift in focus. Rather than being happy and grateful about the good things in your life, now the mind is more focused on feeling miserable by seeing better things in others. Let's assume you are jealous of Mr. X. Jealousy makes your thoughts a slave, as you are constantly thinking about X. You might get into this competition where you want to prove to yourself and others that you are better and superior than X. It impacts your concentration and focus on the right things.Eventually, it starts impacting your mood and actions to such an extent that rather than focusing on good that is around you, you are preoccupied with the negative emotions. It may make you uncomfortable infront of Mr.X. Jealousy is a demon that can make life hell.Is it possible to overcome jealousy?Hard but YES. You need to constantly remind yourself that everyone is born with different resources( income level, family status, looks, intelligence levels, opportunities, luck). Identify the reason you are jealous for. Remembe ‘You are what you are and you are proud of it!!’If you are jealous of X because he is going better, work hard to get there. Meditate. It is all in your mind and only you can fix it. Rather than looking at someone who you think is better than you and feeling jealous; look at the one that is at level lower than you. Be courteous and helpful to them.You don't want to look back and regret that you wasted all your life being jealous rather than enjoying it.Try to be forgiving and look positive in others. Find positive activities, contribute to the community, help the less fortunate and let the jealousy go. It will take time. Tell yourself that you are competing only with yourself and no one else. Smile more often. It will do wonders.