Why are people so rude about pregnant women getting medicaid?
I'm sorry, but I would like some answers. Why do some people JUDGE and put women down for getting medicaid while they are pregnant? You lump us all together and say that we are having babies and not able to take care of them. Are you racist too? That kind of generalization makes me wonder? Factly, I am an educated woman. I have my degree. I unfortunately was let go from my job (in which I was making 80k/yr) because I was in the mortgage industry, therefore have NO benefits. Now, only after me explaining myself to you do you now retract your statements? I understand people milk that system. I have paid taxes too!!!! Am I not entitled to it? Why must everyone be generalized? Does anyone agree? Or does everyone what to be critical and harsh?
I'm 16 with a 20 year old, and I'm pregnant?
Please don't be rude or criticize.... My boyfriend just turned 20 and I'll be turning 17 really soon and I recently found out that I'm a little over 2 weeks pregnant. We met when he was 17, and when I was 14 and we've been dating for almost 2 years. I'm planning to keep my baby because I just can't bare to kill my baby or give it up for adoption... He'll help me on whatever decision I make and support me all the way as well as my family. I know it will be hard but I'll do it for my baby... but there is one problem, will he get in trouble even if my parents are okay with it? (He looks awfully young like as if he's 17.) He's living with his mom because his parents separated and he has 3 other siblings younger than him and 2 are younger than I am... but his mom isn't willing to help us neither are his grandparents... his mom is threatening to kick him out because of this and he just started going back to college so he's not making much from work only about 1grand a month... but still, most importantly will he get in trouble? and is there any other programs other than WIC that can help us and the baby? We live in NYC if that helps >
If I am 13 and pregnant, should I consider adoption?
Yes, you should!Adoption these days is alot different than it was a few decades ago. There is far less shame associated with teen pregnancies and adoptions. These days you can choose an open adoption (if you wish) and still play a significant role in your child's life.You will be free to search through profiles that describe potential parents/families and choose a “dream family” for your child.I went through the adoption process with my daughter Olivia in 2011. Despite the difficulty of my decision, I have never experienced a moment of true regret.Olivia's parents have invited me to share in important moments of her life (such as her baptism in their church at age 3) and they send me a hardcover book of captioned pictures detailing the highlights of her year every Christmas.I haven't played as big of a role in my daughter's live as I could have due to my own personal issues. I really wish I had been more involved, but I had trouble reconciling the guilt and shame that plagued me due to the circumstances of her conception.I think adoption would be an ideal choice for you.What greater act of love exists than giving your child the gift of a life you could only dream of offering and blessing an adoptive family with the child they've been dreaming of for years?!?I often browse through pictures of my daughter. While I do feel a twinge of sadness, I'm so incredibly proud of how far my daughter has come as a result of my decision.Olivia is 6yrs old and she plays the violin, takes dance classes and cooking classes, and excells at nearly every new activity she has the opportunity to try.My daughter lives in a beautiful neighborhood on the North side of Chicago and attends a prestigious selective-enrollment school. Her family has a beachfront vacation home for summer weekends and they take many trips, often with family (including Olivia's many young cousins.)These are all opportunities my daughter never would have had if I hadn't decided on adoption.Above all, I feel JOY in knowing I have given the ultimate gift to my daughter and to her mom and dad.I wouldn't trade that for anything!Best wishes to you. You should fully explore all of your options, then follow your heart and your intuition.I trust you will make the right decision. Hugs!
Why don't you want another child?
For me, I don’t want another child because having my 4th child could have been deadly for me. I had to have all c-sections, because my body would not allow me to have children “naturally.”With my first I tried to go natural, but after 40 hours and at 9cm my dilation started to reverse, 4 hours later I was at 7 cm and the call was made for a c-section.My second Child was born via c-section and my uterus inverted, turned inside out. The doctor was able to fix it and all was good.My third Child had to be a c-section because in my state they did not do VBA2Cs. That one went flawlessly. The issue was my baby, she was born not breathing or moving. 11–12 hours after she was born I finally got to hold her. She is the happiest kid on the planet now!My fourth child was completely unplanned. I was not going to put myself through another pregnancy(this was my 5th pregnancy) or c-section and my husband was done and happy with our three girls. Around 36 weeks along I felt something “unzip” inside me and went to the hospital where the doctor on call told me I was fine it was all in my head and to go see a shrink on Monday. No ultrasound or anything to see what had happened. When I went to deliver 3 weeks later I found out that the feeling I had had was my uterus starting to tear. If I had gone any longer in my pregnancy I would have had a full on uterine rupture that could have cost my life as well as the life of my son.Needless to say my husband went and got a vasectomy. No more babies for us.
I don't want to be pregnant?
I'm 10wks and every time I think about the fact that I'm pregnant I get angry and depressed and stressed out. I don't want to have an abortion - mostly because I can't afford it but also because I think it's morally wrong. for me anyway (I'm pro-choice for others). I won't be a good mother, I don't want to be a mother right now. I got denied medicaid because I make "too much" even though I'm broke as anything and all my money goes to bills and paying off debt. So I haven't seen a doctor. I don't know what to do, I keep hoping for a miscarriage I know that sounds sick, because there are so many women who would kill to conceive. But this stuff isn't for me.. i just want to die right now.. please advise
I am eighteen and preganet.?
Marry. That's the BEST advice I can give you for the baby and for yourself. It gives you both legal protections under the law that you just don't have right now. Right now, you are in a doubly perilous position in holding a mortgage with a "boyfriend". Please, please protect yourself and your child. (I am, of course, assuming that you love him.) Some people will tell you it doesn't matter to the child whether you are married or not. My 22 year old did the the "math" when she was 17 and found out I had been pregnant before marriage (1 month). She was devastated for ages and angry at her father and I for a long time. It still bothers her a bit. Okay...pregnancy tips. Relax and enjoy. Get a good book like "What to Expect When You Are Expecting" to answer all your questions (and there will be tons.) Don't go to the hospital when you first go into labor. Wait a bit. For relaxation --- try yoga. There is a set of dvds out there called "Yoga for the Round Body". Try that! After the baby comes. Rely on your instincts more than books. There are a million experts who will tell you a million different ways to go about things. Your instincts will usually be right. Provide fair boundaries for your child and be consistent and fair with discipline. Start young and you won't have a teenager who is in trouble with the law in a few years. Good luck and Best Wishes.
Gave resignation at work...can I "take it back" 6 weeks before what wouldve been my last day?
I'm in Pennsylvania, and am 26 years old. I gave notice back in January I would be leaving in August to go back to college. Naturally, the DAY my work hired someone else to begin training for my position, my fiancee and I learned we were expecting. My work and I are not on super-good terms - they're a small business aand management is pretty poor, and every employee there is unhappy and it shows in their work (including mine). I want to have my baby, but I will lose my job and insurance around 4 months pregnant (how far along I'll be in August). I sort of doubt they would keep me even if I asked (especially because 2 other girls at my job are also due within weeks of when I will be due!), but I was curious if I could say to them, either my resignation is not valid anymore due to my pregnancy (I would be giving them notice of that 6.5 weeks before what would have been my last day), or if they cannot keep me I am going to file for unemployment (which I'm not even sure legally if I could get). If I absolutely have to, I will apply for welfare, but I heard there is a long waiting period and I don't want to be without medical care for my baby. I also won't really be able to apply until I officially am no longer working there and officially have "no" income at all. Can anyone give me any advice at all? I just want to be able to keep my baby and have my pregnancy and delivery covered.