Girlfriend wants me to drop my ex as a friend?
To keep the story short, dated my ex for a little over a year, that relationship had its ups and downs, but ended pretty dramatically. We didn't talk for about 6 months, then began talking again just as friends and have ever since with no romantics attached. Relationship with my current girlfriend....we dated for about 3 months, got engaged for about 2-3 months, she broke it off and wanted nothing to do with me for a month, then we got back together and it's been about 2-3 months since then. At first, she didn't want me talking to my ex, so i limited my contact with her, then my ex and her talked and seemed to be okay with each other. Now my current girlfriend wants me to 'choose between her and my ex'. If i choose to continue talking to my ex, she says she'll end things with me. If i choose my current girlfriend, I need to completely drop my ex as a friend. She says she doesn't feel like i'm putting her as 1st priority cuz i talk to my ex occasionally (only through texts). I dont see very many options of what i can do at this point, if its gonna be pick one and ditch the other. I'd of course want to choose my girlfriend, but completely dropping my ex as a friend seems kinda harsh and unreasonable. Any advice? I'm really looking to see this from both perspectives, I'd like to understand where my girlfriend's coming from too.
My best friend and his girlfriend are annoying me?
Ok, I'm probably going to sound like some jealous little pr*ck but please try to put yourself in my shoes and feel how I'm feeling. My best friend has a girlfriend - whom I have nothing against my the way, she's a nice girl and I do like her - and he's annoying the hell out of me. Us, and a bunch of our other friends spent lunch in a classroom at school. He and this girl spend it kissing. It's not even minor kissing, they're properly making out. I mean, they actually do it where we eat. And they refuse to go somewhere else. Also, whenever she texts him, texting her back suddenly becomes his main priority. He'll just stop whatever he's doing and text her. Even in band practice. I've asked if he could just say to her "Hey, I've got band practice at the moment, so I'll text you afterwards, ok?", which I don't see as unreasonable, but he still refuses, which really p*isses me off because if it was the other way around, if he was doing something important with her and I was texting him, he would gladly tell me to stop texting him. He actually gets really annoyed if I try to talk to him about it. I don't have a girlfriend, but I know that you need to find a balance between girlfriend and friends. You need to spend seperate time with both of them, and I don't think my friend agrees with that. Any suggestions as to what I should do? It annoys my friends, and my lunch room as well.
My girlfriend wants me to drop all my female friends and have only guy friends. What should I do?
Do you think she's got what it takes to let her turn your world upside down, not in a “butterflies in my stomach” kind of way, but in a “she is worth it”, “great personality, lots of character” kind of way?How long have you been together? Do you see commitment consistently through time? I'd give the relationship at least a year of serious test driving before making lifechanging decisions (not marrying, but letting go of some friendships). Because crippling your social life is a life changing decision.Do you think this request comes from a healthy mindset? Could be jealousy, could be some past trauma. Talk it through. Try to figure that out.Anyhow, a serious relationship requires burning the black phonebook and severing some ties that might feel threatening to your significant other. Is this a serious relationship? THAT IS THE MAIN QUESTION. You've got to talk this through. This is about making a possibly successful (til death do us apart) relationship thrive.She will have to make some changes as well. It is a two way investment.There is a percentage of opposite sex friends on both sides that will detach from you guys as the relationship gains momentum anyway.Best of luck.
My ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend?
Its normal to feel jealous. I saw my ex with a girl and I got really jealous, I just told myself to get over it...we were no longer together- and i also told myself to realise what Ive got now...my current partner and think of all his great qualities and the fact he makes me happy. and that really helped.
Is her friend dropping hints?
I have known this girl for about 1.5 years. We talk on the phone or IM a few times a week. I have only seen her 2 times in the last 2 months. Last week she asked me to goto the bar with her and her friends. While there she had her friends take a picture of the 2 of us. When one of her friends showed up later she immediately showed her the picture of the 2 of us. Her friend said that we looked cute and made a cute couple. And later she made the comment that us 2 lovebirds should go dance. Do you think this girl likes me and her friend is trying to drop hints. This is a friend that she talks to all the time and knows we aren't dating. Another of her friends a few months ago told me that she talks about me all the time and I shoud be dating her.
Should I drop my close male friend? He has a girlfriend but confides/depends on me like a girlfriend. I'm attracted to him. He says he sees me as a sister but the vibe feels romantic. When I leave him alone he gets upset. The situation is painful.
There's nothing wrong distancing yourself from someone you're attracted to when the attraction isn't mutual.HOWEVERThe only thing that I'd find objectionable is if taking distance is done without proper communication. If you just go cold on someone you've been friends with, it can make you end up feeling disconnected and alienated more than from just the person or people you deliberately wanted to take distance from, and annoyed at yourself for shooting yourself in the foot.Instead have a talk. Say you're starting to get attracted more than just platonically, and that you will keep distance until these feelings have blown over.No matter how much that conversation may be uncomfortable to engage in, or suck in the moment that you're having it, you will notice that the same day you have that talk, it will provide a sense of relief for both parties. Relief that things have been made explicit. That way, afterwards nobody is left second guessing about any why's or what if's.
My friend is ditching all his friends, and only hanging out with his girlfriend. How can I tell him I miss him without hurting his girlfriend?
After several years of disastrous friendships with people, I finally learned one highly fundamental concept about friendships: You are not meant to have control over your friend.What does it mean?It means that you should not be drawing boundaries for your friend. It means that you should not be asking your friend to choose between two options. And it basically means that you not bind him into any kind of obligation. Which translates to a state where your friend is free to pursue his choices. When you understand this concept; when you respect his personal space and allow him to navigate within it, you are being his true friend.Your friend's girlfriend might be his potential life-partner. She might be the one he spends his whole life with. There's a reason why he is spending more time with her. Realize the difference between the concept of a relationship and a friendship. You're being a little selfish when you only consider your side of the equation. Consider your own self in place of your friend and imagine how it is for him. He has to give time to his girlfriend. That too, along with balancing his studies and his personal life. It could be challenging for him to handle everything.In such a situation, you need to understand that he is free to pursue his options, even if that involves him choosing his girlfriend over you when it comes to priorities. I'm saying this because you have high expectations and a feeling of 'he ought to' in your question. Understand his free will and give him some space. Keep in touch with him as much as you can, but don't force him to hang out with you. That will make things worse. Instead, tell him that you're there for him. Tell him that you understand and appreciate how he is handling everything. Tell him that you would like to spend some time with him whenever he is free. That's it. Your job as a good friend is done.If he doesn't reply, then you should not do anything more. You have done your part. He needs to do his. If he chooses to distance himself from you over time, it's his choice. Maybe someday, he will come back to you when he feels like he should be with you or when he needs you. It's his choice. And you need to respect it if you're a good friend of his.