Why is my friend depressed she has the perfect life!?
She is a white middle class girl who attends private school. Her family has no problems and they share everything with ech other. She is liked by every one and has many friends. She ven has a really nice, repsectful boyfriend. She is also quite talented in sports and music. She alos gets good grades. Yet she is depressed all the time. She puts on a happy face so no one realizes but I can tell that she has become mor bitter over the years. Why?
I'm always sad everyday?
no one can love me because i'm a lesbian i'm sad everyday i don't know what i can do i think i'm so unlucky because i want to be a guy but i'll become a woman i'm so sad in my life i feel sadness in my heart i'm always thinking if have someone loves me i think i lose my hope i wish sometimes in my life someone loves me too but i don know if someone loves me:(i'm so unhappy everyday i'm always feeling bad i don't know what can i do? sometimes i'm trying to kill my self because i'm so tired in my life and my life is full of sadness i wish someday someone can love me too
Why do we say life is beautiful when in reality, for most of us, life is mostly very difficult and full of hardship?
Let's get this out of the way, first and foremost: life is not beautiful. For some, specifically those who are optimistic, it may be. However, life is nothing but a collection of chemicals that randomly formed a conscious being. We don't know why, nor do we completely know how, but it happened. There is no inherent beauty in it. There is no inherent struggle in it either. Although everybody suffers to an extent, all of our hardships are quite different.We ask ourselves what the meaning of our existence is while we also face the fact that nothing is of any true (or intrinsic) value in this universe. It just simply exists. But the mind won't stand for that answer. It insists that we must go on, even in the most dire and soul breaking situations. We survive excruciating odds and to what avail? We all die. Everything in this universe “dies” one day.By this point, you probably think I'm the biggest pessimist alive. You aren't completely wrong, but consider this: why does anything or anybody else have to value your life? Value your own life and the people in it. Once we're thrown into this universe, we're promised the embrace of death to claim us one day, and that's it. Everything else was randomly generated to produce a human being (you). Since nobody or nothing else may pay you any mind, then it's up to you to accomplish that on your own.We may have no prime objective, but we also have one ability that hardly any other being in the known universe does: we have the ability to choose. Although our intellect may betray us by bothering us with such monumentally existential questions, we can rely off of our perceptions and our own subjective experience in this world to accomplish something, and that “something” can be anything. It may be to make ourselves or somebody else happy, but it's the only thing that we can do when given such seemingly hopeless conditions. Value your life and the beauty that can come out of it, as well as the struggles, because you've been given the opportunity to do so. Regardless of whether or not there is simply nothingness or eternity after this short life of ours, we have the choice to do something with it. So instead of deconstructing it relentlessly, use it to construct something, regardless of whether or not it matters in the grand scheme of things.
Why are some parents so cheap? I feel bad because my kid has alot of nice, expensive toys and?
Well, first you asked why are some parents so cheap.... then you said they're less fortunate (which is a nice way of saying they're poor). So, I don't think they're being cheap if they don't have the $$ to do differently. Sounds to me like you're proud of the fact that you can afford nice stuff. I never feel bad for having nicer things than some of my friends. Why should I? I don't think I'm better than them!
Serious question...?
Forgive him but leave him. Once a man no matter is faith or how much he believes in God hits you he will continue to hit you. Each time he will ask God and you for forgiveness. It is easy to forgive but one should never forget. Personally I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years before I got out. Each time he would hit me he would say he was sorry. After being thrown into ways, being kicked in the back, punched, slapped, and had my thumb dislocated I finally had enough when he hit me while I was pregnant in front of our 3 year old son. It would take him 2 years in court till he would finally sign the divorce papers, as his final form of control. It is now 5 years later and I am happier than I have ever been. I am married to a wonderful man that treats me like a queen. Do what you know is best for you. I would tell you that he may stop being abusive but not with you but for the next woman. BE strong and God will guide you.
I'm always told that i'm too innocent and nice, as if they are negative things. Am I supposed to change?
All my life, i've been told by others that I am too nice. I have met people who have told me within 5 minutes that i'm the nicest person they've ever met. However, i've never once heard this as a positive thing. People always say it in a negative manner, mistaking my kindness for weakness and assuming I am some type of push over. This couldn't be farther from the truth though, because I never let people mess around with me. I am kind as can be to all those I encounter, unless they give me a reason not to be. I come from a very dysfunctional home. Growing up I used to call the police night after night, because my parents would severely beat one another. I was also abused, physically, sexually, and verbally. From all this, I have grown into a strong, smart young woman, who recognizes the importance of love, and that is what I try to shower upon everyone I encounter. No one knows that about me, because I am a private person. However, i'm starting to feel as though I shouldn't appear so friendly. For example, there is a guy I really like right now. And so far, he has been wonderful to me. But he too is always saying i'm too nice and innocent, as if it means I can be easily taken advantage of.. I feel like that is the persona I give, when i'm actually a very wise girl who doesn't let anyone cross her boundaries, yet doesn't see why she shouldn't be as kind as possible to those who haven't given her a reason to be otherwise. I just hate how people judge and criticize my personality. I almost feel like if I was some kinda rude beotch, i'd be more respected by my peers. It's like my "niceness" turns guys off, which sucks because i'm a good girl and take pride in that. But I can't change who I am, and frankly, I don't truly wish too. I guess i'm just ranting, but would really appreciate any advice/suggestions/thoughts. Thank you :)
I can't live up to my older sister.?
My older sister is literally perfect. not even joking you. she graduated high school last year, and got into an amazing college. In high school, everyone loved her. she wasn't popular or snobby. she was just one of those people that everyone loved, because she was so kind, caring, outgoing and sweet to everyone. She was student council president, volunteerred all the time, had the in will all the teachers, got amazing grades, and was loved by everyone. There has never been anyone that has not liked her, because everyone things she is just soo nice. I am a junior this year and have always known everyone loved my sister. but when she went to college, it suddenly seemed like she was there. still to this day, people call me "kimberly" or ask "hows kimberly?" random people in my grade who i don't even talk to say "your sister really had it all. is it hard living up to her?" i am about to blow, and don't know if i can take it anymore. i get good grades, and am a sweet girl, just not as nearly outgoing. i rarely talked to ppl i am not friends with. i don't know what to do. seriously depressed all the time. i feel like my life will go down the tubes, because i will never be good enough for anyone.