How can i stop my friend from cutting herself?
i was talking to her about it and she doesnt care that she cuts herself she said its an addiction and she cant stop i really want her to stop but she wont listen to me
My best friend is cutting herself.?
The thing with cutting is, you can seem to have everything, the whole world at your feet and have the best life, but you can still be hurting inside. I've known people who do it for attention and I've known people who have just hoped that one cut, at least one, would be too deep and kill them. It is a problem either way and it needs to be fixed. She needs help, sit her down, tell her how great she is and how much you care for her and then express your feeling towards this. tell her that no matter how bad she thinks it doesn't look or how many times she wants to send you pictures and say "it's not so bad" it IS bad and it's hurtful to herself and the ones who care about her. It's like an addiction and she won't just STOP! She needs HELP! You need to tell her that if she won't listen to you and have your help, you WILL tell someone else and the can help her. She may not like it, but in the long run, you could very well be saving her life. Also, you should know that by her cutting herself on her legs and not her wrist, is a way of "hiding" them, which means it's getting worse and she probably has cuts all over her body that you don't even know about. They become very visible on your wrsit and people start on the legs and upper arms, sometimes the stomach even.
My best friend is cutting herself?
I'm in high school and I've struggled with cutting for a long time. What you need to do, above all things, is remind her each and every day that you love her for what she is. Let her know that you care about her, and that you will do everything in your power to help her. Don't freak out, or accuse her of being suicidal. Although cutting and suicidal thoughts often go hand in hand, there are still times when people just get relief out of cutting. Accusing her of having suicidal thoughts might make her worse. It's her way of coping. Don't try to get answers out of her, and above all things make sure she knows that you love her and that you want her to stop because she's perfect the way she is. Also, try giving her these sites: www.givesmehope.com www.operationbeautiful.com www.lovegivesmehope.com http://www.myspace.com/saveyourselfrescueothers Maybe have her listen to The Last Night by Skillet It's a very powerful song. I hope that you can help her, and feel free to send me a message on here, and I will try to help you to understand/get more ideas of ways to help her. <3
My friend just told me she has been cutting herself. What should I do to help?
First of all never tell her that you cant believe that shes doing this or how can she sink too low, that will only upset her. And dont bring it up out of the blue. Always ask her how her day is and if there is anything you can help with. Most importantly always let her know that your here for her and wont judge her, its important that she has someone to talk to about it so she isnt just keeping it locked inside. I really hope this helps, Good luck to you and her!
How do I help my friend who cuts herself? I’m the only person who knows.
I wish i knew. Even ex self-harmers like me don't really know. Just be a friend. Tell her if she goes, you’ll miss her. I saved 1 online friend by telling her that. She wasn't a cutter though. She was just going through a rough time in her life.Tell her you are really worried about her. Tell her it hurts you when she cuts. She should get the message it's not cool and it hurts you when she cuts.Tell her to draw butterflies on where she would cut and give them names of her friends. So when she doesYou could tell her to disinfect her wounds with betadine. It stings. But it will help her remember not to cut and it will prevent infection. My mom loved betadine. She was a vet (animal doctor).How far away from you is she? Ask her to please see a psychologist or doctor and her parents.Out of curiosity ask what time does she cut? Is it always at 3 am? Google search “Chinese Meridians and wake up times.” She may have pent up anger issues.Is there a specific reason she cuts? Ask a psychologist.Sometimes you can help. Sometimes you can't. Sometimes you can only postpone the inevitable and that just prolongs their emotional pain.I saved another friend just by listening to her on the phone. i had known for 7 years in real life and saved her life twice that way. But it was in vain. My friend was going through bipolar disorder depression downward spiral. She never called a 3rd time. That was rough.(。>д<)Poor girl. Forever 27. Rest in Peace, Kaori. You are missed.m(。_。)m
Am I a hypocrite if I tell my best friend to stop cutting herself when I have cut myself in the past?
As person who did this in their teen years, I can tell you that it's not about being hypocrite, it's about understanding. As a person who went trough that you already know the whys and the how's. That makes you a better candidate to talk to that person, but only if you have overcome this problem.I'll tell you a little story, one day after work hours, I was using the public transport service,(big bus) it had been years since I stopped doing that, and trough self analysis and some therapy ( the cutting thing was not the reason for me to attend therapy) I overcame this. I understood the nature of my problem. So back again to that day, I was in the bus and I saw this girl grabbing the supports inside the bus and saw her wrist and the whole arm, it was full of scars. Immediately after that I felt a sudden and really deep pain, I was feeling so sad to see other people having to go trough that kind of situation. Nobody should have to go trough that, that is inhumane. I wasn't able to speak to her for obvious reasons but now I regret I didnt. Who knows? Maybe she needed some help.. think about it, and if you choose to talk to that person about this problem, first think about what are you going to tell to that person. Words are scary sometimes and we need to choose them properly.
How can I help my friend who I think is cutting herself for attention?
As a person who is currently dealing with self-harm issues myself, I hope this is helpful.First: Is your friend willing to talk to a therapist? This is one of the best first steps I think your friend should make. I’m currently in therapy and it definitely helps. Your friend might be reluctant but be persistent, my friend was and I’m glad he convinced me to go. Therapists’ study self harm behaviors as it is different in every person and can be complex. Self harm is often a response to a larger issue that your friend is dealing with. If your friend is comfortable try figuring that out with them.Second: Is your friend in serious danger, some forms of self-harm are far more dangerous or potentially life-threatening than others, try and find out what she’s doing. If you honestly think she is in life-threatening danger. Call the Police, call 911 (if your in the US), your friend can be hospitalized involuntarily for their safety. This can also kick-start the process for your friend to get help.Lastly: Be there for her, try and find what causing all this and be there when she needs you. Hang out, take her mind off of it. But more importantly get outside help. My best friend has helped immensely to be there for me, but a lot of it is way over his head in terms of how to help. So seek help, that’s the best you can do. I did not want to get help myself, that’s what a good friend is for.I hope your friend gets the help she needs, and the two of you can get through is safely. Continuing being a great friend!
My best friend cuts herself.. I want to give her help? Advice?
Unfortunately, giving advice is pretty hard. Just hang out with her and do fun things :) Show her that you value her friendship. Tell her she's beautiful and fun and say it again and again. Convince her through repetition. If you start to pry or call her out on cutting, she might close up to you and it's possible that she might deny cutting. Confronting her about it might make her feel worse. When the time for a confrontation comes, you'll know. You'll feel it. You can't change whatever is going on in her life, but you can DEFINITELY help her ignore it.