Why is my brother being such a jerk to me?
Two words sibling rivalry and brothers while they ARE family can be total jerks for possibly NO reason at all. If he’s annoying you ignore him if he doesn’t back off tell your parents unless you think a confrontation would be in your favor. Were it me I’d smack him just to let him know how I felt but then again I HAVE smacked my brother around for pissing me off it works with him because I’m simply not going to tolerate his crap. BUT, however err on the side of caution for your own sake if need be. Either that or ask him why he’s being such a jerk to you brothers unfortunately WILL pull that nonsense simply because they feel they’re able to.
Why is my older brother such a jerk to me?
Ever since I can remember, my older brother has been jealous of me. I think it had to do with my mother loving on him, and then I came along, resulting in my mother paying attention to both of us. Growing up my brother and I never got along- ever. He's never physically attacked me, yet he harms me with words. I'm the most sensitive, yet headstrong thirteen year old out there. Trust me. My brother is the most lost, confused fifteen year old out there. My mother passed away at the age of thirty-five from Stage Four Lung Cancer (non-smoker). It's been hard on us. My dad and my brother argue, and every time I try to settle it I get yelled at. I try to be nice to my brother, to make up for all the times I've been rude to him as I was younger. (I tended, and sometimes still do, tattle tale.) But all he does is push me away, making me angry at him. It seems everything I do isn't enough. His self esteem is very low. But he has way too much pride. My dad even admitted he's selfish, which is a understatement. Anyway, back to the point, he always chews me out and brings me down. My dad tends to side with him a lot. I don't seem very smart, but I'm not stupid. I'm mature for my age. Without my mother around to keep peace and to help me grow up, I'm in a real rough spot. I don't know what to do. For any of you who have had sibling rivaries, or still have some, please. Give me some advice. How do I make him finally see I'm not trying to cause trouble? I just want someone to look up to. I want my brother to be nice with me, at the very least. He thinks I'm a little kid who, and I quote, "Know's nothing." How do I make him see I'm mature? I'm tired of being the bad guy in his eyes.
My brother is such a prude, why?
Leave the loud alone honey give your brain time to develop. Find you some more hoobies; get to know yourself and stop breaking under peer pressure. There is an inner spirit telling you not to smoke, but you do it anyway. Been there..done that we are all human. It seems your brother doesn't see himself worthy of fitting in or socializing with his peers. Him making the decision to not try drugs is definately the right choice. He is actually a strong willed person to not follow his peers and be his own individual. But, the violence against you is his way of cooping with whatever is making him angry. Your entire family should have a serious talk with each other. The only way to solve any conflict is through communication. Get a relationship with God throught Jesus Christ, pray and things will surely turn around.
Why is my Brother such a jerk?
I'm 13in 8th grade and my brother is 14, almost 15, an in 9th. He is a jerk. I have friends who have older brothers and they fight too, but they love each other. Like they'll just sit and talk, play video games together, joke around and stuff. Last year when we went to school with our brothers, whenever they'd see them they'd run and hug them. Or their brothers would come up to them and be like hey squirt and just joke around with them. Well my brother isn't like that. To be honest, my whole life I've wished I actually had a brother or sister I could talk to, joke around with, etc. But no. My brother mostly is in his room playing COD or at soccer or gym. I don't talk or play video games with him or joke around with him. If I walk into his room this is what I get: what do you want?!?! Me: i wanted to tell you something. Him: I dont care. Leave. During dinner or something If I tell him something, this is him: does it look like I care? Just shut up. So to be honest we rarely ever talk. Instead of me trying, since I was 11, I've just given up. Rarely talk to him. I love how if my cousins come and are my age, boy or girls, he plays video games with them, talks, jokes around. I go in, him: leave. I've never done anything to him and I honestly don't know why he hates me so much. It just isn't fair. I see my friend and how they're so close with their sisters or brothers, and How even if they fight, theyre always there for them. My friends find it so annoying how their boyfriends have to meet their older brother first, but too be honest I wish my brother did that but he just doesn't care about me. I remember in elementary school on the bus, I used to get picked on...and he never did anything. Never asked if I was ok. Nothing. My friends look upset, their brothers ask if theyre ok. If i'm upset or cry. My bro: shut up your annoying. Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
Are all older brothers jerks?
Some of them are, I’ve heard stories, but not all.(This is my first Quora answer, bear with me…)I have 3 older brothers and two younger brothers, and my older brothers and I are super close. Me still being in school and them only a bit older than me, we can talk about virtually anything.I will say that brothers have their jerk moments, for example my oldest brother super-glued my book shut once when I was younger. That was my favorite book and I reacted by going ballistic at him, looking back on the memory I laugh every time. He was just a kid who’d gotten his hands on a tube of super glue. Doesn’t mean he’s a jerk.Then again, depending on your definition of “jerk,” there are stories about older brothers sexually harassing their sisters, about them bullying their siblings, and just being a generally bad person. Sometimes it’ll become water under the bridge. Sometimes it won’t. It doesn’t always work out, but keep in mind these are select few cases.I can just say that no one’s perfect. Especially when you’re a sibling, life’s not going to be all good with your brothers and/or sisters. Don’t expect it to be all rainbows and unicorns all of the time. The fact that it’s not all utopia makes the sweet moments even sweeter.I’ll say that my brothers and I have a better relationship now than we did when we were younger. But the moments that they were jerks are moments that we now look back on and laugh at. Because, let’s be real, kids will be jerks. It’s just how most of them are.Cheers <3
My brother's being a prude about my masturbation?
When both my parents aren't home, Jacob loves to smoke weed in the house. I sometimes like to roll on E while they're gone too. But when I tried to walk around the house, getting some daily tasks done while masturbating, suddenly he has a problem with it. You figure, we're both guys, we both know we do it, why be closed about it? Our sister's in Rhode Island, what's the big deal? What's the difference between me walking around the house masturbating or me watching TV while masturbating and him walking around the house taking hits off a bong or watching TV and taking hits off of a pipe? We're both engaging in activities that make us extremely happy. Who's with me on this?
Why is my older brother such a douche?
The advice I have is really hard to use but may be affective, as it sounds like he has an anger management problem. When he gets mad at you dont take it personally and get mad right back. He has a problem and he's trying to make it yours, but dont let him! Instead acknowledge that he is angery and then ask why he's angery. So with the sun burn incedent you could try saying something like "I understand that you're angery, but i'm not sure why." I realize from my own fights with my brothers that you likely have your own deep-seated feelings of anger, resentment, hurt, frustration... i could go on. Your feelings are valid and justified, but if you want to fix this problem you may need to set them aside for a time. When thing have calmed down and you can both speak rationally try stating how you feel with this formula: I feel _____ (angery, hurt, sad, whatever) when you ______(yell at me). I need/I would like/could you instead please _____? If this doesn't work or you're too angery to give it a good go then see if you can get counselling. Obviously it would be best if you both went but if he wont then atleast you should. That isnt to say that there is anything wrong with you (it sounds like there isnt) but these situations can be verystressful and a counselor will have more and better ideas for you than anyone here can give you.
Why is my big brother such an asshole?
I have a big brother who (unfortunetly) still lives in the same house I live in. (He's 21 and out of college) We never really got along for a long time and I thought after college he would FINALLY move out and get a job. ...It's been 2 months and all he's been doing is going on youtube and chat with friends on Yahoo. The problem is that he's always has and continues being an asshole to me no matter what. For instance; There's only 1 computer in the house and whenever i'm on it he literally throws me off a few minutes after I just started using it to use it for "finding jobs" when in reality, he just goes to chatrooms and stuff and chills on the computer for pretty much the whole day. I'll ask him nicely to get off and he'll either yell at me, or tell me "Too bad life is tough, i'll use it as long as I want to". (He tries to act tough just because he's bigger than me.) I try to get my parents into these situations but they always take his side. How do I deal with him?
How do I stop my brother from being a jerk?
I have experienced exactly the same with my younger brother. I confess that he not only was a jerk like yours, when 16 years old, but that he is still now in his 30's, although for the opposite reasons. He is still the smartest "ass" i know, but he hasn't been capable to deal with the effects of the infamous Murphy's law. Life always presents you the bill sooner or later. It will happen to your brother too. He will experience events where his alleged superiority won't be of much help to overcome them. He will need external support, ironically and possibly by those same people that he is despising right now; and it will not be easy for him to accept it. My brother didn't and he took a downhill path. Maybe i could have helped him, if i only wasn't living 6,000 miles away from him. I certainly didn't have the chance to try.My suggestion is to stay close to him. He is 16 and some angles of his character might get smoothed naturally in time. But the important thing, in my opinion, is that you and his beloved ones will be there when he will experience the first disappointments with himself. It is important that he will not start surrounding himself with bad companies, because when you feel superior, you look for challenges and bad people seem to be the closest thing to someone matching your superiority because they do things and behave in a way that contemplates submission of others.Try to find something he might be interested in, encourage him with the help of his friends to develop this interest and challenge him on the fact that he is not that superior on those fields; let him realize that he has to work hard to get to the level of others in those fields and if he feels bad about it, gently remind him that that's exactly the way his friends feel at school towards him. Try and let him understand that working your way up is more rewarding than sitting and waiting for your talent and your genes to work the magic for you.Best of luck.