Should you forgive your father for hitting you when you were a child?
Ugh.. this is so freaking hard to even touch. Yes, because it's an expression of empowerment over his awful actions.No, because if he's an unrepentant a%^hole he will feel “off the hook” for what he did.Yes, because this is about YOUR feelings -and you deserve to be free from his crap.No, because if you heal it makes the impact of his abuse seem less important.Yes, because only you truly live with the aftermath of your experience and healing.No, because forgiveness is scary AF. We know what fear and resentment and pain and betrayal feel like. What's a post-forgiveness life going to look like?Yes, because you're stronger than scary things.No, because f$%k the people who never went through it who want to beat you over the head with God and being a “good person” expecting forgiveness from you.Yes, because you've proved your strength already. You survived, you've carried it around, you've wrestled with it. You've done your time. Now you can set it down and live the life YOU'VE built- not the crap that was handed to you.You deserve that freedom.Yes.
Should I forgive my dad for hitting me
My dad woke me up at 9 and asked me to do a favor. I said no, and I went back to sleep. He came back in a minute and I was still asleep so he went crazy. He picked up my pillows and kept pounding me from my head to my stomach so I started screaming and crying for help. My sister came and covered my body while my dad started beating her. I yelled "Get the f*ck out of my room" And he yelled I didnt even know what that meant and called me a b*tch. He left the room for a minute and I was shaking and crying and my sister shut and locked the room. He tried to come in again and started slamming the door but soon left. He hasn't been home all day except to get some food for my mom. He cut me fruit and offered it to me but I got up and left and cried. He's been really stressed because he's out of work and my mom says it's my fault for provoking him and that he needed to let out his anger. He's never hit me before but he slaps around my sister sometimes when she misses her curfew. Should I be more understanding or should I ignore him forever? Idk. Before this we were really really close.
How do I learn to forgive my Husband for hitting me and hurting me?
Before you thumbs-down me to death read the whole thing please..... You know what? I would be able to easily give an answer if you hadn't had this line in there: "i did dig my fingernails into his arm when I was mad" I mean, people can really hurt people doing that. I don't know how hard you did it. I make no excuses for anyone hitting anyone man or woman against man or woman - except in self-defence. Is it POSSIBLE he hit you to get you to let go of his arm? I am not trying to rationalize what he did. This is wrong. I just find it odd that after 16 years he hits you once. Typically abuse in relationships starts earlier than this. Perhaps I am giving the benefit of the doubt where it is not due (I don't know you guys at all), but I just wonder if it's really possible that someone can hit someone in one episode and it never happen again. I don't know. An example: my mother hit my father (smashed a jar on his head WAY back in the 70s) and my father clobbered her. This was, however, the only instance of violence. There was NEVER a repeat. SO: Although I am very reluctant in this, and I could be very wrong, but IF this might actually be the only time maybe this can be fixed. IF you decide to stay, 2 simple rules: 1. Never hit him in any way (including pinching, biting, digging nails etc). 2. If he hits you again that's it. Over. If you hit him first you sort of give him a LITTLE bit of an excuse. Again I only hear the details of his damage to you. If you cut him up with your nails, well, the courts might accept this as justification for him hitting you (although likely only once or until you let go). I'm gonna get raked over the coals for this I am sure. I am just trying to be fair.
I hit my father and now im so regret what should i do?
Apologize and ask forgiveness. Pray about it.
My boyfriend tried to beat me should I forgive him?
My boyfriend and I got into a really heated argument in his room because my phone woke him up. I didn't mean to leave my phone on to wake him up and as soon as it rang he punched me in my back and called me an asshole. He got up and went to the bathroom and while he was in there I decided to gather my things and leave his house. He comes back into the room and pushes me down on his bed and throws my bag across the room saying that I can't leave his house but, I had to get the f**k out of his room. I just kept saying please let me get my things and I'll leave and he just kept pushing me down and he even put his hands around my throat and twisted my arm back and said that he was going to break my arm if I tried to leave. I finally got my stuff and went into the living room and his mother was in there and I told her I was leaving because he tried to choke me. He told her that I was crazy and I was lying and they both stood there saying that I was a psycho. He told me that I was the worst person he's ever dated and his mother told him that he could do better than me. After all of this he still wants to date me and apologized for doing it but, a part of me feels like leaving but, another part feels like staying. I'm scared because I have never dated anyone like this before. What should I do? Can this be worked out?