My friend always puts herself down?
You should tell her how annoying it is. I've learned that constantly trying to bring up someone's self-esteem when they put themself down doesn't work. But telling them that you don't like when they do it/tell them it's annoying is pretty effective.
My friend always puts me down.?
So earlier today me and my friend were hanging out and every time we hangout she always has something to criticize me about. And lately its my education. So she was in this online school and she thought it was Oh so great and convinced my mom to put me in it. And then Her parents couldnt afford to keep her in it and she made up an excuse that it was because of the school curriculum and that it was horrible and everytime we hangout she always puts me down by saying that im not learning anything. And then shes always rude about things like my mom took me and her to get our nails done and she made my mom pay an extra 60 bucks so she could get a design on her nails. And then Complained about it afterwards saying how she didnt like it. And another thing she does is anything that i take my time to do she always critasizes like she always is telling me im fake because i like to do my hair and makeup.. But she isn't always mean shes nice sometimes too but is there any advice you guys can give me to say the next time she criticize me? Im still going to talk to her and hangout with her . Obviously shes like my only friend now that im home schooled. So please hurry.
Why is my 'friend' always putting me down?
I have been in a similar situation myself. I believe she has very low-esteem and she's trying to bring you down with her it's not simply to feed her own ego (that's part of it certainly) but to keep your self-esteem low enough and your dependency on her high enough that you won't leave her. I know that sounds strange but she can have you believing after a while that you are not good enough, that other people won't accept you and it sounds like she is trying hard to turn others against you to make sure you have no way of escaping her grip. If you stick around she will continue you using you, berating you etc. and unfortunately she will very likely start to bring out negative parts of your own personality. She isn't going to change and certainly not if you keep teaching her that her behavior is okay by letting it slide. I know it's painful and she may be the person you spend the most time with but she's toxic and you deserve better. It's possible that you are inadvertently bringing out the worst in her, that she is just really jealous of you and can't resolve those feelings. It's not that you've done anything wrong it's just some people are incapable of having a healthy relationship with each other even if apart they are both generally reasonable and decent human beings. It's time to move on you don't have to be cruel when you end the relationship just be honest and firm. Make some new friends, take up some hobbies and whatever you do don't start gossiping about her behind her back and avoid speaking ill of her. Just think of it as a relationship that wasn't healthy and didn't work out.
What do you do if/when a friend puts you down?
There are friends who do not put you down. Lift up your eyes and go find the uplifting crowd. Yes, it is sad that many people use their close associations to drag each other down. You be the nurturing person that you desire others to be.We were sitting together. The young man was not only putting his girl down but also in a manner of most definitely comparison of girl less that me. i told him openly that it is not right to correct her before other people. It could be wise if he whispered to her privately about those neat things that he observed me doing. And take my word, i am not all that cute anyway. He further said some put downs of her. i informed him that i felt shamed when he does that to her before me.Sure enough then, husband girl and i were together. Husband began to tell me to shave hair from my chin. I looked at husband and told him those hair have been there all along and did not need shaving. i looked girl in her eye and said to her that i told (husband’s) nephew that he must not correct her before me. Girls acted so relieved and affirmed that “yes, you did”. See! If i gloated when the nephew was acting like Jerk then i would wilt in shame when husband took his turn. Or maybe just break out the great big domestic battle right on the spot.Do not permit others to put you do. Do not bow your heart to it. Refuse to interact that way with other people. Not allowed. Not acceptable.Yes, people are going to call you stand offish and aloof. i am still alive. You will too. As well as, that you do bring the entire environment up when you refuse to allow such interactions. A Rising Tide Lifts All Vessels. i have ALWAYS been an elevating force in ALL of my interactions. My mission in life. You be the judge.
Why does my "best friend" always put me down?
I have a friend who I've been close with for 3 years. Lately though, we haven't really gotten along. She always seems to put me down, by the comments she makes. I'm starting to think it might be because she's jealous of me, but I've always thought she was so much more beautiful than I am. Here are some examples. 1.) Today I wore a black shirt with lace on the back, jeans and flip flops and she looked me up and down, and said I looked like I was going to a funeral. 2.) I told her I was going to start eating healthier since summer was coming up, so for school lunch I got a sub sandwich, rather than pizza. She made the comment, "I wonder how many calories that has in it. Probably a lot, since theres all that bread and cheese." 3.) I don't play sports at school, but to keep healthy I do dance and workout at home. I told her I had a bruise on my back and I didn't know where I got it from. She said, "Well that doesn't make sense, since you don't even do any physical activity." (When she knows I'm trying to eat healthier and lose weight) There are a lot more than this but all this happened just this week. She gives me dirty looks all the time it seems like and always has smart alec comments like these to throw at me. I can't figure out WHY. I've always been one to keep to myself about my feelings, so she doesn't know that what she says hurts me. I have asked her to be nicer to me and she made a comment like, "Ooh, I was gonna say something but wouldn't want you to have an emotional breakdown!" So nothing I could say to her to stop would help. My main question is, why do you think she does this to me when we're supposable "best friends"?
My friend is always bringing me down?
i have this friend and she is one of my best friends. but for some reason she always says mean/rude things to me for no reason and i dont know why she does it. like one time, she was like wow your face os sooo red it looks like ur crying do u need to go to the nurse of something and i looked in the bathroom mirror and it wasnt red at all. and also one day i had a pimple and she was like whats that thing sticking out of your face when obviously knew what it was. also sometimes my face is kinda red and she was like ugh i have a pimple..your lucky pimples blend in with your face color so u cant even see them. =[ and lastly we both wieghed ourselves in gym for this fitness thing or whatever and i weighed more than her and she was like wow i feel like im so overweight..u weigh more than me right? and i said yeah and she said oh well i dont know about u but i need to drop a few pounds. (and also at the doctors the nure said i was underweight for my age). why does my friend do this it just makes me feel bad =[
Is my friend always putting me down from jealously?
What a coincidence, I happened to be jealous of my friend too, lately. I have never been jealous of my own friends, keep that in mind. So long story short, I am currently in a bad point in my life where I am lost in my options for university, my family’s tearing apart at home and my dad has been unemployed for about 3 years now. I used to have a luxurious lifestyle throughout my child and teen years because of my dad. Since he retired and became unemployed, he saves so much money and became ten times more stingy for everything. As a result, I have to ditch that shopaholic mindset of mine which was a shock for me. My friend, on the other hand, has been stable with her family relations and she has always been so close with her huge family. She has fun and share stories with them. I was never able to experience that ever with my huge family because of some problems that have existed for a long time. Lately her father has been doing well with his business and she enrolled in fashion design for university. As a result she now walks head-to-toe clean and stylish, which I envy as I was the one who used to do so. I kept thinking, why am I like this? What happened to me? Why can’t I be like I used to before?Despite having those envious feelings, I never told her a single thing (it was more because I am such a private person that I don’t want to share my personal matters with anyone) and I just remind myself that I have had my turn, and now she can enjoy her life. I can’t get anything from whining at her and blaming her for flaunting her assets in front of everyone. She deserved it because her father worked hard for it and went from low to high. This point in my life has taught me to appreciate the small things, be humble and see things in a different perspective than usual (i.e. take things too easy and careless). I really do feel like it has changed me into a better person.I say, that friend of yours is too focused on the good things that she doesn’t have in her life, that she’s unconsciously trying to make you feel guilty, which is an unhealthy relationship. You should try and explain to her that life goes on and things will get better as long as she works hard. And of course, never give up. She will understand that things happen for a reason and maybe she will learn something that will help her in the future to become successful.