Is it wrong of me to hate my mom for being a psychopath?
I am guessing that your mom has some sort of behavior that has brought you to the conclusion that she is psychopathic. Unless she has been actually diagnosed, you are almost certainly incorrect.However, that doesn’t matter, and here’s why.Whatever lead you to think that she’s psychopathic likely was pretty awful toxic behavior. This is what leads people to the incorrect understanding of psychopathy. They find these lists that detail the behavior of a toxic person that someone has slapped the label of psychopath onto.Instead of thinking that she is a psychopath, let’s go instead with toxic. After all, if her behavior wasn’t toxic, you wouldn’t be asking this. If your mother behaved in a way that is abusive, or dehumanizing, there is not reason for you to involve yourself with her.Someone being your mother does not give her carte blanche to treat you however she wishes. Your life should be enhanced by the people in it, not made more difficult. If that is what you are dealing with in her, don’t engage with her. I know that for a lot of people that this is really difficult. Family bonds, even in abusive families can be really strong.What you need in your life is peace. Hating someone doesn’t bring you peace. Regardless of what causes her to act and be how she is, hating her won’t change it. Instead indifference might be a better route for your mental state. This way you aren’t locked in an emotional bond with her that is going to cause you problems.I understand when someone hurts you that it’s easy to lash back at that person, and hatred seems like a logical conclusion. It is a short term fix for how you feel. It will just end up rotting you in the end. Disengage if you can, and work on you. She doesn’t deserve your hatred, she doesn’t deserve anything from you at all. Live a good life, and leave those memories behind if you can. You’ll be happier for it.
Why is my step mom so mean to me?
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Help my mother in law is a serial bully!!!!?
My mother in law is a Jekkyl and Hyde.....she is sneaky, competitive, criticizing, controlling. Both I and my husband have stuck up for ourselves with her but then she goes crying to other people About how mean we are. We avoid family functions because we can't stand her but then we are missing out on seeing the other relatives thT we do like. My kids don't like her either and try to avoid her so she buys them tickets to events and lessons as gifts so she can MAKE them spend time with her. When she is alone with them she tries to get info from them about our personal lives plus she points out their faults. All of this is causing a lot of distress to my life so we have all been avoiding her. She sees what we are doing and has been leaving endless phone and email messages which we don't return and when she shows up at my house I don't Answer the door. She keeps buying us stuff which I have asked her not to.......she will leave the stuff outside my door.......this is only done so I feel obliged to call and say thank you.....which I don't now. She only wants to talk to me so she can pry and put me down. If I don't say thank you she will tell everyone how rude I am. I would love to move out of the city but my kids have a lot of friends here. What else can I do I feel like I am in an impossible situation
Why does everything my mom says and does annoy me?
LOL. I honestly think it’s a combination of confirmation bias, familiarity, hormones, evolution and nature.You see it a lot with kids going through their teens and parents. It’s like, nature is preparing you (and them) for the separation that’s about to happen, so you can embrace the freedom develop your own life, and have a family of your own, and they can give you that freedom without their hearts completely breaking.So, what happens on your side, is that you get super-annoyed by everything your mom says and does, so you start looking forward to being independent.What happens on your parents’ side, is this incredibly adorable, loving child, who they love more than life itself, is now acting like a porcupine, ready to spew porcupine quills at them, whenever they say or do anything.So, your parents start looking forward enough to a cease-fire, that they don’t try to stop you when you decide it’s time to fly from the nest. Although they’ll always be there to catch you if you fall instead of fly.Basically, if you thought they were super-cool always and they were utterly besotted with you always, there’s no way you would ever let go of each other. And that might hinder your natural evolutionary process as you grow from a teen to an adult.Also, as you grow from a child to a teen and from a teen into an adult, you expect greater freedom and responsibility, and you want to be treated like an adult. For a parent who’s been responsible for you, from the moment of conception on through babyhood, toddler years, childhood, teenage years, etc., they can have a hard time letting go of that feeling of responsibility and that feeling that you’re their child (emphasis on child), so often that period of separation is necessary to change the relationship from parent-dependent child to something more equal.After the teen years are over, once the child is in their 20s, or sometimes later, (sometimes much later, depending on how rocky the parent-child relationship was), you’ll find that the relationship between you and your parents gets strong again, and they no longer annoy you the way they did when you were in your teens. That’s when you’ll start valuing them again. Or, at least, they’ll annoy you in a different way. LOL.