Need Help Convincing Mother

Should I convince my mother to leave her husband?

I am very sorry for whatever have happened , and I can understand how you feel.Having said that are you sure he had those relationships, omg with daughter aunt, like, if that is true that clearly shows he doesn't value any relation, or for that matter doesn't respect himself enough .Coming from typical Telugu family, I seriously understand what you are speaking and what your mother might be thinking.There can be 2 approaches for this:1 is divorce , which is the fair and right thing to do. Marriage needs love, commitment and ur father doesn't have it. He cheated her not once but many times. Thant includes his distant daughter too. Sorry but disgusting .2 is traditional Orthodox way. It's your mother who needs to decide this. or you can Ask these questions for yourself.-Does she really not know about ur dad? I am asking this cuz in India many women even after knowing about their husbands stay for their kids/society. They simply doesnt bother/disconnect themselves from their husbands, give a blind eye, and have their own world.-You told you want to leave for MS and get settled over threre. and u dont have support from ur maternal side. so who is going to support her all this while? I am not saying your father will love her but atleast he will be there for something or other-At this age is she ready to get divorced. How does her relatives and friends going to take this. This might not be important to many but might be important to few. If u r in US , and there is no one to support her it's going to be tough for her.-Is your mother earning?And coming to last thing how to inherit your father's propertyyou have mentioned that you don't want his property but to do MS you need money.Let me say you something, you have complete right to inherit what your father have, but why do you want thatAlso it is good for your resume/learning to have work experience before applying to good universities,Why don't you work for few years, save and take loan for remaining amount and fly to do MS :)Coming to your mom, you can do a mix of both things,wait till you do your MS, get a job, take your mom with you to there. Even if she have any inhibitions for divorce, she can avoid that at the same time stay away from your father. And you get a chance to show your love nd make her happy :)

How do I help convince my mom to let me dye my hair? My hair color is rather boring and I can't control it. I have body issues and my hair just adds to it because it sucks. I'm in 7th grade and want to dye it for fun.

You need to address several issues. If you wish to change your allover color to a shade much different from your natural color, especially changing a dark shade to blonde, you can do a lot of damage to your hair. It will look terrible if you try to bleach it on your own. A professional color job can be quite expensive, and require follow-up treatment to maintain it. Do not go this route. If you want to do an unconventional color, as many young prople do, you need to consider the color and the placement of the color. My daughter has long, dark hair and she wanted to color the lower tier purple. I knew an at-home kit would not “take” very well. I took her to a colorist at the salon where I get my hair done, and she stripped the color on the bottom several inches and colored it. It was pretty expensive, bur looked beautiful, and the color blended well with her natural color. The color did not look “freakish.” When the color faded, she redid it once at home, and eventually decided to have the processed part trimmed off. You could do a portion of your hair, and doing a strip at the bottom allows you to cut that part off if it doesn’t work. She might be agreeable to you just doing a strip of color. As a mother, I would rather my daughters express themselves with hair color, which is temporary, rather than permanent body alteration. It has to be done the right way, however, to avoid hair damage, and with thought to appropriate appearance at school and other places.

How do I convince my mother to divorce my father?

I don’t know your age, but this little piece of advice will help you have a peace of mind. Never give anyone any relationship advice. People will suffer but won’t see their own mistakes. They will have hope deep inside that something will magically change even though it has been miserable for years. Some stay because they don’t know better. They are used to the bad and are afraid to starting over. They are just addicted to the drama and the toxic environment. Some also stay for financial reason. They don’t believe they can survive on their own. They are too broken inside to have the confidence to walk away. And some stay for the kids, commitment, religion or society. In other words, unless your mother wants to leave, no one can convince her to do so.Here’s one thing you can do to help yourself. Your parents’ marriage has affected you deep inside. You don’t know how much it has damaged you. It is going to hurt your own relationship and trust in the unhealthiest way. You’ll feel helpless because of some triggers associated with these damage and can’t do anything about it. Therefore find a good therapist who can help you drop the baggage you are carrying from your parents’ marriage so that you can find the right love and have an emotionally healthy relationship.

Family: How can I help convince my mom to stop signing up for "get-rich-quick" seminars?

How much will these adventures cost? Are you able to agree on a budget and let her try?Here's why I think it's important for her to try this ASAP:I sense your mother has some education and potential, but she hasn't lived up to it. Now she's looking for a way to make up for lost time, and time is of the essence. So she needs this for her personal growth, more than therapy once every 2 weeks.People preventing her from doing this will not resolve her inner need; only by trying and failing will she succeeds.Who says she's sure to fail? We're all assuming she doesn't have the acumen for success, but all I have is your experience and your assumption than an MBA and a business degree make you and your Dad more apt to judge business opportunities. That's probably true, but a lot of successful businesses were also started by fools.TL;DR: you and your father will never convince your mother to abandon her ideas, and she will transfer her frustrations to something else. Better give her the support she needs to get started on her ambitions. This is an opportunity for you to give your mother a chance at doing something she wants and fulfilling some of her personal ambitions. Rather than convincing her not to do it, give her the tools, and use your business education, to support her in navigating the early stage of starting her business.Now I understand the odds of success are low and there is a lot of risk. The experiment needs to be controlled: agree on a budget to get started, and a time frame to measure success. Be strict about managing this and firm with her in understanding how she manages her resources.This is a chance for you to help your parents in their relationship, their financial means and their personal growth. Seize it!

How can I convince my mom to get help for her mental illness?

In a situation like yours, the people around the person often have to go to therapy to cope when the person that is mentally hurting others around them. However, if she is raising you she owes it to you to work on things that can cause harm to her children.Until someone can get her to go in the right direction, try spending time with supportive friends and family. It might be more easy to frame her illness as stress and have another adult have her see a family doctor about it. If she is anxious, she has a possibility of causing you anxiety problems. Also anxiety has a genetic component in many cases. It is your mom’s responsibility to seek treatment to be a good parent. If you can enlist the help of an adult that she is influenced by (a father?) perhaps they/he could convince her. If she won’t listen to reason, it is not a sure thing you will have problems, but it is probably not great for your mental health. Parents have a responsibility to look after your physical and mental health to the best of their ability. Your mother, unwilling to look at herself and grow, is doing the exact opposite of what most parents want for their children.Life With An Anxious MotherParentingP.S. If she complains that therapy is too expensive in the U.S.A there are county community mental health centers that work on a sliding scale.