How do you deal with a close friend who avoids answering questions you ask them?
I had a three year relationship with a man who could not directly answer a question. If I really needed to know something as simple as, “are you coming over tonight?” He would answer, “how late you up?” Or “I want to.” Or just no response at all! I would have to wait about an hour or so and ask again, “so are you coming?” And then he would answer. But for more personal questions such as “Do you like that (specific thing)”, instead of yes or no, he would say, “well, it was hairy” or “it was higher than I thought it would be” or “it was far away” or just nothing. When it came to timekeeping, he was never ever on time if asked to be somewhere at a specific time, and would never ever, not even one time tell you when he was on his way or what time he would come. The issue is DEEP and habitual and exhausting. I learned I would never get a straight answer or even the truth. I had to accept it and pay attention to the nuances of his Spencer-speak… and interpret accordingly. I did not realize the profundity of his evasion from truth, habitual lying, natural deceitful methods until I stopped loving him. I always knew it… kinda… but now I’m OMG I KNOWWWWW it…. The bottom line is that those who evade are hiding a lot. They are overall and thoroughly dishonest and cowardly people. As a friend this may be okay to a certain extent, but in a relationship, run away!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It’s completely unacceptable behavior that will never change. I accept him and care for him as a friend but never ever more. I have realized that dishonesty is a huge indicator of a serious personality disorder, perhaps multiple personality disorders!!!
If a friend of mine didn't invite me to her birthday party but she invited everyone else in the friend group, what should I do?
It depends on the friendship that you have with that person, and on what you want to do.You can end the friendship or you can keep it - it’s entirely your choice.If you are fairly close and you perhaps have gotten that person a present, you can still continue on being friends with them.If this one instance - you not being invited to the party - is a deal-breaker (as the wording of the question makes it sound), then perhaps the friendship is not as strong as you have believed it to be.Reasons for that are numerous, such as you already sensing that it’s falling apart (and your mind is yet to catch on to it), or this friend being more of an acquaintance than a true friend, or not being friends at all with this person (and now asking strangers to provide an insight to the person whom you allegedly know).There are also purely human factors - such as forgetfulness (you not being in top 50 list of friends) or perhaps this person was assuming that you are a good friend, so you don’t need an official invitation (yes, it means you have proven to be an unreliable friend and prone to assumptions).Until you stop asking others for advice and either ask that person about it (perhaps it was a true oversight) or end this friendship because you didn’t get some cake, you won’t realize that the choice in it is yours.As you have already assumed the worst about this person, you can simply disappear from their life - you have many other friends on whom to spend your time.In terms of your comment, withholding friendship has been proven as a bullying technique in kids as young as 2 years old.When you are older, and you’re looking for a life partner or when you look for a job, absolutely no one will ask you about the number of friends you’ve had in school and what kind of quarrels you got into with them. It’s yesterday’s news.For now, if you don’t want to be with this kindergarten-level crowd, let them be: they want to leave, well, hold the door open for them; if they expect you to beg to be in that circle again, ask if you want to be with these people (by associating yourself with them, you become one of them).Being on your own and adjusting to the new environment is not easy, but this is how you build character. Since you now have some free time on your hands, you should spend it on personal development - as you need a pick-me-up, I personally recommend “The Art of War”
Not telling your friends right away that you lost your virginity?
Ok so basically im just posting this question to get other people's input...when i lost my virginity over a year ago me and my boyfriend didn't really tell anyone for a while because we felt that we didn't have to because that's such personal and private topic. His friends eventually found out but mine didn't...until about 6 months ago when one of my friends just straight out asked me if i was a virgin. I wasn't going to lie to her and tell her no so i told her i wasn't and she got all mad saying that i didn't consider them my friends for not telling them when it happened and that i didn't care about them. WTFFF?? right??? so basically the reason i didnt tell them was cause i didnt know HOW TO or when would be the right time....and besides...i wanted to tell them personally but they found out some other way. SO NOW...i feel like that friend still has a grudge against me for not telling them, even after we had a long conversation about it and she " forgave" me. AM I IN THE WRONG FOR NOT TELLING THEM RIGHT AWAY??? personally, i dont think so...but i would just like to get peoples input...
Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to stop talking to a female friend of his?
Yes, it is wrong.You find it wrong when she used to give massages to him in the office, or she used to hug him, Right? You may be right, they must not get that physical in front of you. But tell me does the guy love you? Really? How do you know? How can you judge him? Just because he said so? People these days don’t know the meaning of LOVE.Listen dear, this may sound rude and make you feel bad.. But just put 1 small, minute thing into your brain. When a guy says he loves you from the core of his heart, or he wants to spend the entire life with you or any of that mushy talk, you might feel that he loves you. But in reality a guy would show his love not by his words, but by his actions.If he would have loved you and cared for your feelings, he would never ever have let that girl behave like what she does in your presence or absence. If he pushes a girl away who makes such a move in your absence that is love.If you think they must not talk just because you are together now, so let me make it clear to you. You don’t own the person, nor would you ever. You can make a person yours just when he wants to be yours.If you find something inappropriate in a relation between your boyfriend and his female-friend, just make it clear to your boyfriend. If he actually loves you, he would take care of that girl, or any girl in that matter.You must not take matters into your hands by talking to that female-friend. You are simply destroying your relationship with her and breaking her heart by your cheap talks.**P.S.: I don’t want to be rude or arrogant, but I have been into the place of that female-friend and I know how it feels when we were not wrong but still some one teaches you how to behave with one of your best-friend, and how that silence of the guy breaks my heart till date. How my relation with of them is still in tatters. All three of us regret our words after about 3 years of that incident but there is no turning back now.**
How can I know when my crush likes me back?
2016 !!Me: HeyCrush: What up?Me: Nothing to do. Bored. What you're doing?Crush: Haha same. I'm surprised though.Me: What?Crush: You're never bored on Saturdays.Me: You know me so well.Crush: Yeah maybe because I hear from you so much.Me: Yeah thank you for listening.Crush: Haha. Shut up. There's no football match?Me: Football matches are never on a day time. I mean I never saw that.Crush: Hmm. What should we talk about then?Me: Let's talk about us.Crush: Us? Okay.Me: I like talking to you. Actually.Crush: Okay. I talk too much. I should reduce it.Me: Actually you should just talk and talk.Crush: So people start getting annoyed with me. Right?Me: I never get annoyed with you. Why you care about others.Crush: Yeah. But end of the day you need friends.Me: Am I not your friend?Crush: Nope.Me: Haww you don't consider me as a friend?Crush: You're just different. I mean with friends I'm different. I am limited. With you I'm kinda blah. Every time.Me: You're not blah.Crush: Ahaan. Yes I am.Me: Anyway. So, who am I?Crush: As in?Me: As in. To you? What you think of me?Crush: Actually never gave a thought to it..Me: Yeah that's my charm. I never really let girls think of anything else apart from talking to me..Crush: And the Rahul is back. Haha.Me: I'm always on that mode.Crush: What you think of me?Me: I don't know. I just like talking to you.Crush: Even you're this clueless. So how could you expect that from me?Me: Because I find you intelligent.Crush: Hehe. Well I'm not.Me: You're full of misconceptions.Crush: And you're full of justifications.Me: Yes.Crush: To flatter anyone.Me: I do flatter you.Crush: Yeah. Why would I said it then?Me: Anyway. The question still remains. Who am I? To you?Crush: A good friend?Me: Congratulations.Crush: Hehe why?Me: You've friend zoned another better guy.Crush: Shut up. What they say about being friends before liking each other.Me: So you do like me.Crush: Maybe.Me: You've clearly mentioned of us being friends. So now maybe next step is to like each other I guess.Crush: Hehe. Idiot.Me: You do or not?Crush: You do or not?Me: I do. You tell now?Crush: Me too. Now bye. Gotta go.Me: Wait wait wait. You like me?Crush: Face palm. I do.I think she actually did.Sorry baby *wink*
How do you know if a guy finds you annoying?
Ok so I really like this guy and he likes me.The problem is,his best friend Rodney has an influence over the boy I like. Rodney kept telling the boy I like that his girlfriend was annoying and he broke up with her(he didn't like her too but I think his friend had allot to do with it) I really don't want Rodney to think I'm annoying. What are indications that he thinks I am annoying? What do males find annoying in the first place?