Can i think of my crush during ramadan?
The person i really like crosses my mind a lot while i fast. Is it forbidden to keep talking about him...or say write about him in my diary while i fast. because i can't help but think of him throughout the day. WHAT DO I DO.Is this ok to do while fasting?
Ramadan is coming. What do you want to tell non-Muslims?
I’m going to write this answer to the non-Muslims that don’t know a whole lot about Ramadan, although I am very aware that there are many non-Muslims who know a ton about it. Thank you to both kinds of people who take the time out of their day to listen or read to try to understand what Ramadan is.The most common comment I get during this time is, “but you can drink water… right?” I’m sorry to dissapoint, but no. I had to explain this concept to most of my teachers every year. Yes, I do get thirsty, especially during the hot, summer days. I won’t die, though. I don’t even come 50% close to that point. Seriously, I’m totally fine.This leads me to my second point: people always tell me that if I eat something in front of them, they won’t tell, or ask me if I secretly eat behind my parents back. Sigh. I mean this with absolute certainty, my parents could stop fasting for Ramadan at any point and I would continue. I don’t do anything I do for my parents in regards for religion. I love them, but all this hard work isn’t for them, which is exactly why it doesn't make sense to secretly break a fast in Ramadan.Now that all that is settled, my last point: don’t feel bad about eating in front of me. I’m used to being around people that are eating. I started fasting all of Ramadan years ago! Year after year, people apologize for eating food when I’m fasting and I kind of appreciate that since I know they’re just being respectful but please don’t stop yourself from eating because I’m around!Once, my close friend was mad at me during Ramadan so she FaceTimed me in the middle of the day. As soon as I picked up, she took a long, cold sip of water from a clear glass, not breaking eye contact the whole time, and then hung up. Now that’s just mean, don’t do that. Just be nice and respectful towards your fellow Muslims. You can even try out fasting for a day (it won’t magically make you Muslim, only eating Shawarma can do that!) if you want, just to see what it’s like.
Ramadan: I have a serious problem and suicidal thoughts are plaguing me?
Salaam, everybody. I'm a 23-year-old Muslim girl who lives for Islam. I wear hijab, pray five times a day, read Quran, and am planning to go to Makkah soon insha'Allah. I love my deen. I come from a difficult background. My father was always abusive and till this day, he threatens to beat me with a shoe if I dare talk back. He's mean and nasty, spit in my face, called me a mistake, says girls are a curse to the family, etc. My mom says I'm supposed to forget, but I can't. I know it's wrong of me to yell back at him, but he makes me so mad and I'm full of anger towards him. This morning, my mom said he was crying because apparently "I don't love him." It's all an act. My mom sides with him constantly and always makes me out to be the problem. He even says that he never laid a finger on me, but I have bruises and horrible memories where I almost died. I decided that I'm moving out in a few months insha'Allah. I feel like I'm happiest when I'm away from my family. I feel like I don't love them anymore, that I simply resent them. I'm stuck living here for three more months before I leave for Europe insha'Allah, and then I'll always keep in touch via email and phone. I won't abandon my family, but I don't want to live with them anymore. Lately, I've been suicidal because I'm on anti-depressants, but my family just doesn't understand me. The three of them are always against me, and I feel alone most of the time. I can never win with them, and I'm so sick of having to choose between being a good Muslim and being a doormat to my family's constant emotional abuse. Ramadan, I feel awful. I feel like there's nothing left to live for, and I'm sad because I wonder if Allah (SWT) hates me too. I feel that the world hates me and living has become unbearable. What can I do? Should I stay in my room more often? Should I run away? How can I still be a good Muslim when I'm miserable?
Someone I know is practicing Ramadan, how can I make it easier for them?
Hello,While a lot of people say “don't eat or drink in front of them” I say, just be yourself. You don't have to change yourself or your daily habits to make it easier for them.I'm a Muslim and I fast to the best of my abilities. I wouldn't want anyone who is hungry to not eat in front of me just because I'm fasting. Sure you maybe be trying to show appreciation but you also don't know if that's what really bothers us (Muslims who fast). I have several coworkers who eat in front of me, I'd never stop them or let them stop themselves just because of me.The person fasting is responsible for being steadfast no matter what the situation is (unless it's a medical situation, then they should eat and get help when needed). You want to help the person, ask them why they fast or how even they go about fasting, take interest in what they do but please don't change your natural instinct just because of us (Muslims who fast), some people will take that as pity and that may not be a good thing. Remember in the Quran fasting is a blessing not a burden.
My Muslim boyfriend just broke up with me during Ramadan and I'm devastated.?
'm Christian, he's Muslim. We were really serious and absolutely in love, I mean he became my best friend. Before him, I really didn't believe that love existed. Cut to the point, he went to see his very religious family during Ramadan and decided that he needs to reevaluate his life. He broke up with me and is going to really try to lead a more pious Muslim life, meaning no girls whatsoever. It was 3 weeks ago.. I'm just devastated. I love him and respect him and understand that he really is serious about this. I know I need to respect his decision because I care about him so much, and even though I don't understand his beliefs, I need to respect them because I love him. We just talked last night for the first time and he told me how much he loves me and how miserable he is. His friends had told me the same thing. He's still trying so hard to lead this religious lifestyle and it's CLEAR that there is no way I can change his mind, which I don't intend on doing. I just want to know, how on earth can you get over a break up when you are still in love with your ex and your ex is still in love with you? He cares about me more than anyone in the world and made it clear that he would do absolutely anything for me, and is miserable thinking about how much he hurt me and how much he misses me. The fact is, we aren't getting back together but we are both still in love. I know the first step is to cut off contact, last night was the first time we talked and we agreed not to talk for awhile.. I just miss him and love him with all my heart and every day seems worse as opposed to better. I can't even look at another guy. Please give me advice as to what I can do... will I always love him? I don't think it's possible to find this kind of love more than once in a lifetime.