Do dogs "forgive" their abusers?
Well dogs don't have the emotional intelligence to be able to hold grudges against people, so any negative reactions will be due to fear and not anger or retaliation. It depends how long the dog has been separated from the abuser and will also depend, to an extent, on the age and personality of the dog, but it's very likely that the dog will remember the person's scent or voice and associate it with fear, so will always stay afraid. A wooden board fell on my dogs paw and hurt it when he was young (he was fine though) but now he's very nervous of things falling on the floor around him. But like I said, it does depend on the dog.
Why do people forgive abusers?
I'm answering, "Why do people forgive abusers?" In the comments, it states, "I never get why people can just forgive those who’ve hurt them physically, emotionally, verbally or psychologically. It’s something that just doesn’t make sense to me. Why forgive an abusive spouse or parent or family member? People like that don’t deserve it. They’ll just do it again anyways."You're right, they don't deserve it. They will more than likely do it again. But, there's one huge thing that some people don't remember: Forgiving doesn't always mean forgetting. I have never, ever forgotten what my abusive ex did to me, and I never will. But I did forgive him. Repeatedly.I forgave him, because I loved him.I forgave him, because I thought it would never happen again.I forgave him, because I thought it was better for me to let it go.I forgave him, not because he deserved it but because I deserved it. I was holding onto so much hatred, pain and resentment, that I was forgetting to live. I spent COUNTLESS days wondering if Karma would ever get him, or if I would ever feel like he got what he deserved. I finally realized a few months ago, that holding onto that hatred is never going to do anything but push me into my grave a little quicker.My ex not only caused me harm, in a physical, mental and emotional sense, but also put my daughter at danger more than once. I will NEVER forget any of those times, and I haven't completely forgiven him for involving our innocent child, but I have forgiven him for what he did to me.It is not worth letting the world feel fifty thousand pounds heavier by carrying around the hatred I feel for him, because I have enough to worry about... such as raising our daughter alone. My bills, holding down an entire house that I bought, working, trying to keep schooling up, getting my life started for my daughter.So no, they do not deserve it. But you deserve it to forgive yourself, and in turn an abuser, because it's better to forgive and know that you are stronger and past that moment and will never let them hurt you again, than it is to hate and fill your heart with the wrong kind of love. Love for hatred is overwhelming. It is suffocating.Don't suffocate yourself. Fill your heart with light & love and you will succeed much further in life than if you held hatred towards your former abuser.
How can you forgive your abuser if they are your mother?
It's a long process. I tend to go back and forth a bit.Part of who you are is now something you are questioning, I'll bet. Can you trust the principles with which you were raised as being genuine or one of your mother’s rationalisations?My advice is to treat each new situation as it arises and to have an open mind about your own beliefs and behaviours.One of the hardest challenges for me was understanding that being raised by an abuser means the examples I learned to follow were also abusive.It’s vital to realise that you can't trust your mother’s advice on this matter. However willing she may be to help, she is biased. Find a counsellor or therapist for this part of your recovery.Please understand that forgiveness doesn't require contact, condonement or compromise.Forgiveness is about you resisting the urge to be resentful. It's an emotional matter between you and you. You don't even have to tell her she is forgiven.If you are not offended by the notion a Christian writer, I'd recommend an author called Joyce Meyer. Her advice is very practical, humorous, intelligent and relatable. Disregard the god stuff if it's irrelevant to you. Joyce Meyer has survived abuse and knows what you're going through.“Do Yourself A Favour FORGIVE” is the book of hers that helped me the most.She has a You Tube channel as well.I wish you all the best. Take care of yourself.
Should I forgive my sexual abuser?
I know this is dumb, but I've been torturing myself so long..I was raised to think that pedophilia isn't bad and that I should love my step-dad (the guy who abused me). It was only until I got older when I realized that it was wrong and disgusting, BUT sometimes I still think that maybe I should give my abuser another chance?Overall, he's a "nice" person...He did financially provide for us and he's usually nice to me..My mom and ex bf said that's a very good thing, and that I should respect him for putting a roof over my head? Is that true? My mom also says that my sexual abuser is good in a lot of ways. My ex boyfriend also said "He's not a bad guy..give him another chance." My mom, my step-dad (the abuser) and my ex said I'm selfish and have no sympathy for holding a grudge towards my step-dad..Are they right? My mom, my step-dad and my ex were the three primary people in my life...I don't have anybody else Is it common for abusive people to care about their victims?
Can and or do cats forgive abuse by their owner or do they hold grudges?
Sleep safely. Cats are forgiving, unless it is repetitive abuse. Then there will be avoidance. You might get a cold shoulder at a one time happening, but it doesn't usually last too long. I have stubbed my toes on a cat on the floor in a dark room, and was forgiven. Of course when that happened, I quickly gave her comforting.
Would you forgive your partner for physical abuse?
Physical abuse is not an incident that could be forgiven so easily. Let it be anybody, never tolerate physical abuse and saying just sorry is not enough. This is bound to happen again that will destroy one's self confidence. As you say this is the first time, take a written undertaking wherein let your husband acknowledge the choking incident, apologize with a promise that he will never attempt any physical abuse in future. This forgiveness also do it only if you are fully satisfied.
Do christians expect me to forgive my abuser?
I don't know how religious either of you are. The christian ability to "easily" forgive others is not so easy as anyone would think. It's to be done by faith before God in prayer first, then daily receive healing from him. But the actions of forgiveness toward the offending person is a process that cannot be rushed and certainly not merely to accommodate that other person. He has his own guilt to deal with. You are a reminder of it. You know that. He knows that. He is making his feelings of guilt your fault. And he's trying to place that guilt on you and make your forgiveness of him the release of his guilt. But that isn't how it's supposed to work. Forgiving someone is supposed to be voluntary, not by coercion. He is sinning by trying to get you to forgive him on his schedule. If he has truly repented to God. Then what he did to you should not be causing him to feel guilty. That is the way true repentance works in it's finished work. He must continuously receive that forgiveness from God at every reminder and sense of guilt. He is supposed to be apologizing to you and treating you with respect. Not compounding his sin by trying to put spiritual blame and punishment on you if you don't forgive him. You have your own personal trauma to deal with because of what was done to you. He cannot force your ability to forgive him. Nobody can. To try would be in my opinion psychological rape. I would hope that you've had professional counciling regarding your traumatic experience. And would pray that you eventually are healed and able voluntarily to come to a place of forgiving him.