Is it normal to feel jealous for your sibling?
How old are you? If you are over 20 then no, it is not normal.If you are a child or a teenager, then yes, it’s normal for most (although not all, some don’t feel jealous), as a teenager you should feel that it is less than it used to be when you were a child, that’s because it goes away as you get older.However, if it is a slight feeling of ‘I wish I can do that’ or ‘I wish it happened to me’, without wishing you could bash his nose in and without it preventing you from feeling happy for your brother, then I would say it’s normal.It’s normal for humans to feel that they want to have the same good things that other have, and when it comes to siblings you would feel that things are the same so it should happen to both of you equally. What is not normal is feeling that ‘they don’t deserve this, you do’ or wishing that they get hurt for the good things that happen to them. The normal thing is “I want this too” not “I want it instead of him”.
4yr old jealous of newborn brother?
Since we brought our newborn son home one week ago our 4 year old daughter has totally changed. She's become very quiet and very distant from me. Before her brother came along she would come into our bedroom for cuddles every morning but the last few days I've found her in the living room watching TV by herself instead. Whenever I am with the baby, she is always somewhere else. I asked her why this is and she said she wanted to have time with just me. I am trying hard to fit in as much one-on-one time with her as I can but with a baby wanting to nurse every hour it's not easy!! I've tried to get her involved with things like choosing the babies clothes, dressing him, bathing him and so on, in the hopes she would start to bond with him but she's just not interested. My husband and her grandparents have been taking her out to the movies, the zoo, painting classes, the playground etc so she's definitely not attention/fun deprived! I am thinking it's probably a jealousy issue... Any ideas/suggestions would be amazing!
Preempting sibling jealousy in teenager over new baby? Ideas?
I'm not really sure I understand your question but see if this is the jist of it, Ch is jealous he doesn't have his mother's undivided attention due to the fact she has two younger kids to take care of, and he's holding a grudge against the fact he'll never know what their marriage would look like? And now you want to prepare him for your and your husbands new baby, right? Obviously this kid doesn't feel like he has a solid support system anywhere, thus why he is acting up (this is all IMHO BTW) What teenagers crave the most is consistency and order, I think if you slowly introduce him to the idea of you having a baby by including him in your preparation plans (i.e. asking him to come help you pick out stuff for the baby, decorate the room, and such) he'll be more well-adjusted to having a sibling. I know you're trying to be a good mom, but I can't help but understand where this kid is coming from, he's been through his parents divorce and both mother and father starting new families, I can imagine how he would be confused as to where he fit. You just have to be consistently there for him in the same way you would take care of your own child so he feels like he has somewhere to turn to.
Did your 3 year old get very jealous of his/her new sibling?
some form of jealousy is inevitable no matter WHAT you do. there are things to make it an easier transition for everyone, but a toddler is going to react to such a big change. so far my 3-year-old has directed his jealousy more towards myself than the baby (6 days old) so he acts up a little bit more, i assume for attention (even though we give him MORE attention now--he still sees some attention being shown to the baby...) he talks back a bit more, definitely more of a "no" kid now...but we're all adjusting alright. my SIL has a 2 year old and another baby that was born in september and she said that her daughter was fine for the first 6 weeks and as soon as 6 weeks hit she started showing jealousy. partly because at first its all such a shock that it takes a while for the actual jealousy to really come out and also because for the first month or so the baby only needs to eat and be changed pretty much...they sleep so much, ya know...so once they need more attention and stimulation the older kid starts feeling the loss of attention a bit more. i'm really sensitive to my son being jealous because that was a central problem in my childhood (i was the oldest and the youngest was DEF. spoiled to the max) so i've been trying to take a lot of precautions... make sure when baby gets new gifts, at first, like babies often do--that the older kid gets one too. stress how fun it is to be a "big kid" as opposed to how NOT fun it is to be a "baby" make sure you give the older one lots of opportunities to "help" even if you don't see it as much help its fun for the older kid to feel like they are taking care of the baby a little bit too...and it fosters a lot of protective feelings toward the baby...and of course the older one will feel included. when my newborn sleeps, which is a lot, i do fun things with my son like bake cookies and play with his playdough...and def. take advantage of relatives offers of helping and offers of taking the older one to do fun stuff so they feel like they are getting a lot of attention and are still really important and loved by everyone. just play it by ear...its a little challenging, but as long as you stay connected to the situation and monitor very closely you will be able to nip any possible issues in the bud. congrats!!! and good luck! it all works out okay, i'm sure you'll do fabulous!
How can I ensure that my toddler doesn't become jealous of her newborn sister?
Sibling rivalry is as old as dirt. It is the basis of all envy and jealousy. All children have it. It is up to the parent to ensure that each child knows they will be loved and provided for no matter what, that any new children do not pose a threat to them. This is hard because the child is definitely going to see that they are now getting less attention and especially that since the new child is getting attention, that is obviouly attention that might have gone to them. They may not want to share.It is important that the older child understand that the new child is younger and a baby and therefore needs more care. Don't be surprised if the older child starts acting like a baby again, wanting a bottle or even to nurse after being weaned, longing for that attention they used to get that the new baby is now getting. When they act jealous or envious, this should not be an effective way of getting more attention. They need to understand this is inappropriate as their new role as older sibling. They must be given responsibilities to "help mommy" and benefit mommy in a way that the baby can not. When they act appropriately, they get more attention. In this way, they have now become special to mommy in a new way that they can cherish and feel mommy needs them more and loves them more for taking on that new role. Of course, don't make the older one feel he or she has now lost forever being simply "the baby". I myself was the first born and really lost my childhood too early for all the responsibilities put on me to be a third parent to my younger siblings.They must also get lots of attention just by themselves with the baby not there all the time being the primary attention getter. This is not easy and requires daddy to take turns being the attention giver.Never do as my parents did, comparing one child to the other. Why can't you act better, do better, like your brother/sister? Instead, always insist that each child be a good brother/sister and help the others. Reward this behavior most of all, above individual performance. Never encourage direct competition! Establish a policy and philosophy in the family that every member of the family is appreciated and loved for their unique gifts, but none is better or worse than any else no matter how talented they may be.
Sibling jealousy & increased naughtiness in my 3 year old, is it just a stage?
I have a 3 years 9 month old boy, and a 12 month old boy. When the baby first came along my eldest was fine, apart from being a little bit more clingy sometimes he wasnt jealous and loved his brother. Now though, he has started being really horrible to him. He will just push him over, kick him over, hit him, throw things at him, but not in an aggressive way he is really sneaky about it. When I tell him off he just smirks, I have tried the naughty step, putting him to bed, smacking him, taking things away but he just doesn't care. The thing is, when he is on his own or goes to someones house he is a really really lovely little boy. I just feel like he is getting out of control and I dont know what to do with him anymore. Has anyone else gone through this? is it just another age and stage that most kids go through? or do you think there is something I could do better? I should also add, I do feel like he may feel left out sometimes, not because he is but just because his brother sometimes needs more attention than he does for certain things. But I try not to leave him out of things, and include both of them in any games and things that I play.
My daughter jealous of unborn Baby?
I'm a 24yo single father of a 5yo daughter. I was 19 when I had her. My daughters mom committed suicide after she had her. So I've raised her by myself since. I have a fiancé of 13mo and I love her really much. My daughter loves her too. When I introduced them, they clicked really fast. They will do everything together. My fiancé loves her like her own. We're getting married in 2mo. Well my fiancé is 4mo pregnant and ever since my daughter found out, she been acting out. When ever we mention the baby, my daughter will stick out her tongue and roll her eyes. We were thinking of some girl names for the baby (we have a feeling its a girl) and my daughter said lets name her Stupid. I told her that's not nice and told her if she have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. One day my fiancé was at her moms house and me and my daughter was at home watching a movie together, having a father-daughter date. Then my fiancé mom called saying she was at the hospital because she had some serious stomach pain. So I had to cut father and daughter date short and my daughter was really mad. After we left the hospital, I told my daughter that I will make it up to her and ill take her wherever she want but she said he don't want to hang out with me anymore. Which kind of hurt. My fiancé apologized to her about interrupting the date but my daughter just ignored her. And ever since then she don't want to talk to me, wont let me hug or kiss her, don't want to sit by me. Wont hang out with my fiancé anymore. I don't know what to do. She know I love her and she will always be my little princess and baby girl. What should I do? HELP I want this to stop before the baby gets here.
When will my 2 year old stop being jealous of the new baby? HELP!?
While I know it can be really tough to do with so much going on at this point in time, try to give your daughter some time with just her, free from distraction--especially having to tend to the new baby. This will obviously be easiest with the help of your husband or another adult. I taught parent-child classes for 2 years (for kids 2months-5years) and saw this situation all the time: parent is playing with older child and older child is having the best time. Then new baby starts crying, and parent leaves older child to play alone while they tend to the new baby. The older child doesn't understand that the new baby might need something, he/she sees it as I'm being left alone so mommy or daddy can play with new baby--new baby is more important. Again, I know you're probably exhausted at this point, but try to find ways to spend alone time with your daughter to show she's still important (your husband needs to do this too). This can be as simple as taking her to the park for a while without the new baby. Your daughter is probably not liking the fact that she has to share you now. She is old enough to entertain herself somewhat, but she still prefers to have fun with you.
How do you introduce your child to their new infant sibling?
First of all, if you are adding on to your family- congratulations! Children are such blessings! ♥️Here are a few ideas to help introduce a new infant to their sibling successfully.Purchase small gifts and present them gift wrapped them from the new baby to the older sibling.Write encouraging notes from baby to the sibling- “ I love being your new baby sister/ brother.” “ I can't wait to meet you.” (Before birth)Have a coming home party- maybe purchase a cute decorated cake with the words, “Big Brother/ Sister, insert child’s name here, Welcomes Baby Brother/Sister, insert the new baby’s name here.If the sibling is younger, purchase a baby doll with a stroller and accessories. The sibling can take her new baby on walks and feed and change her new baby just like Mama. : )Be sure to praise the older child. The baby will be getting a lot of special attention. Make sure the older child does not feel neglected. Allow your child to help with cuddles and holding the baby as you feel comfortable.When others ask about the new addition, allow the older sibling to make all the announcements. Including him/her in the conversations will help your child feel a part and embrace the change.I am praying some of these suggestions may be helpful. We have three beautiful children. Each one adjusted a little differently. : )