Why are adult woman reading these young adult novels?
I'm 44 and have read the first book of the Twilight Saga and the entire Hunger Games Trilogy. I've also read most of the other YA dystopian fiction that's out right now. I haven't read any other YA vampire stuff besides Vampire Academy (that was at the insistence of my then 16 year daughter). I browse through the young adult (and kids) section of the library and bookstore to find books that my kids might enjoy. I read tons of stuff so that I can answer parents honestly when they come in my library and ask if a book is suitable for a certain age. A young adult book is something I can read in an evening. It's easy and doesn't require much effort or thought. After I've read something by a deeper adult author, I like to take a break and read a little fluff. I'm one of those people who reads almost all the time. I'm not going to refuse to read something intended for kids simply because of the author's intention. Besides, most of those authors are my age. I like to see what other authors think young people should be reading. Most of the women I hang out with either read those types of books because they have kids, or read them because I've recommended them as a good light read. There's a big difference between an adult reading and enjoying a young adult novel and and adult running around asking people if they're Team Peeta or Team Gale. It's nice to ocassionally have an intelligent conversation with a 15 year old about a good book we've both enjoyed instead of highlighting the differences in our ages.
Do parents want their adult children to live at home?
1. How old are they? 19, almost 20 2. Are they in college or do they have a job or do they just sit around? In school, trade school. No job but there is much more to that then at first glance. Prior to his surgery about a year ago he did work. 3. Do you make them pay for anything? Not at this point but we also don't buy his wants. 4. Do you give them a curfew? 11:00 on school nights, midnight or a call before 9:00 to let us know he won't be home. 5. Do they have a boyfriend or girlfriend? And if so, do you allow them to sleep over? Yes and no, he has had a few of them over the last year but nothing steady. No, he is not allowed to let them sleep over. 6. Why does your adult child still live at home? Series of accidents and injuries over the last three years. Keep derailing his forward advancement. He is now starting from about where he was at 16. 7. Do you find it stressful? Yes, The car accidents may have been avoided, the broken hand could have been avoided, the broken ankle couldn't have been but it took two years before the decided he needed surgery. That period of time changed the kid for the worse, depression and such. One moment you want to slap him upside the head and the next you're telling yourself that at least he is moving forward. 8. Does your adult child have any learning or physical difficulties e.g. dyslexia, disabled Nothing permanent but the hand got broken in January and he wasn't allowed to even remove the splint until mid august. It's a bit difficult to work a trade with only one hand, . He had been in a boot for the ankle until Dec.
Why do parents make their children eat things they don't like?
Decorum. Manners. ONE bite shows respect to the cook. If you don't like the bite, you do not have to take another. The cook cannot make you eat what you don't like, but one bite means you've made an effort.I had an only child with a fierce will of her own. Only once did she put something in her mouth and then promptly yak it right back on her plate. It was faster than a blink. I can't even remember now what it was other than I couldn't disguise my dropped jaw of astonishment. She had embraced so many foods like broccoli and cauliflower very easily so this happening at about 5 years old caught me by surprise. This was this moment where I had to deliver the full "table manners" speech I had heard from my grandmother. "Never ever chew with your mouth open as no one wants to see the yuk churning in your mouth; never violently spit a mouthful as it is quite rude if you're eating as a guest; no lip-smacking, mouth-noises or open-mouth belching. It is at home we practice this by taking only a small serving spoonful of a new food and try ONE bite. Try not to make a face and swallow behind a napkin if you absolutely must. If far too awful to manage, do a careful tongue wipe onto a napkin with no craziness."My daughter initially looked at me as if I'd grown two extra heads and I had to agree she didn't need to eat any more of that yucky food. She was a sharp cookie and seemed to get quickly that embarrassing any family or friend that had invited her to dinner wasn't very nice and might hurt feelings. ONE bite was okay. Maybe. She'd have to think about this. Did I mention a little fierce?I have fleeting memories of when she looked at what was for dinner and announced "Just a spoonful. No more!" This was an immediate contract that was unbreakable by either of us (although I did have to remind her a couple of times about ONE bite of some foods) ... and yet one which she accepted and, thank goodness, it worked. I watched her preach the practice to friends when in her teens. Kinda nice when you hear your words come out of your own offspring as helpful advice. Damn, she really did listen! She readily tries most everything now and taps her toe a bit if her young man hesitates.
Why do teens want to be adults when they should enjoy being a kid?
Because being a teenager is so damn confusing.Here we are, having just turned 13. Flaunting our newfound status as a teenager and we're told to shut up, sit down and keep working on our homework because we're still in elementary school.We've just turned 14. We’re excited because now's a new chapter. Go to high school and be big kids. Have adults treat us with respect. Have them listen to our opinions. We're wrong. We're upset, so we go behind their backs, growing up in a way that only our closest friends see, then putting on our baby faces for home.We're now 15. 10th grade, and halfway through high school. We spend our days obsessing about schoolwork, hoping for the day we can leave home and become our own people. We marvel at the speed with which we grow. Adults just turn their cheeks, scoffing at our attempts to be heard.16, and we know how to drive. We passed the test with flying colours and got our very own awful drivers license picture. We ask our parents to borrow the car for a while, just to drive our friends around the block, to show off, to have some independence. They laugh and ask us why we're in such a hurry to grow up.We just turned 17 and high school is coming to a close. We sift through college brochures having our heart set on one, and then having everyone tell us that we're wrong. We have no choice but to listen, to obey, to follow the tracks that were already set out for us by the adults.Finally we're 18 years old, and we've moved out. We look around our one bedroom apartment and note how perfect it is. We rejoice in unpacking our things because our unpacking signifies our being our in the world alone, headstrong and happy. We go out and take a deep breath. The smell of self sufficiency. An older man walks over and bumps into us. He tells us to watch where we're going. “Little kids… they need to watch where they’re going. Show some respect,” he mutters.Suddenly, you're 13 again and being told that you're wrong, you're stupid, that you can't possibly be correct because you're just a child. And it hurts.We want to grow up faster because growing up means that we matter. Growing up means independence, self-sufficiency and opinions that won't be ignored. Growing up means we’re people. It means we aren't always wrong. Growing up means we’re free.
Phenomenon movie questions?
1. Lace was a single mother with two kids and new to the town, if I remember correctly. I forget if her background is made known but she may have had a troubled marriage and was hesitate to get involved with a new man in their lives. Too, George made her mad, I think, when she learned that he was the one who was buying all her willow chairs, not the townspeople whom she hoped would continue to buy her handmade products. 2. Lace, like the other townsfolk, became fascinated by George's newly-acquired abilities. Too, the kids liked him. He was a good-looking guy, about her age, never been married, friendly, an auto mechanic with his own business, had his own home, etc. 3. George suddenly could read books, from cover to cover, in a very short time. He could speak different languages, fluently. He had the ability of telekinesis. He had a genius I.Q. All these things frightened the townspeople since it could not be explained logically. People fear the unknown and people who are "different". 4. He tried to share his new-found knowledge at the fair but was overcome by the crowd's bombardment. He helped to find the missing Portuguese boy when no one else could locate him. He helped his friend, Nate, romance the woman he adored but there was a language barrier to overcome. 5. I can't think of anything else that George could have done to get his message across. He helped Lace's children accept his death by using an apple as a metaphor. He tells them that no matter what, an apple will rot and decay if thrown on the ground, but if they were to take a bite out of it, the apple would become a part of them, and they would carry it with them forever. By doing this, he expresses the last wishes of a terminally ill man - that he hopes to leave those around him with some of his love and wisdom.
Adults who enjoy Harry Potter, why? Are you just mentally undeveloped?
I'm an adult & I love them. So does my mom & older brother. I actually find, that it takes a stronger mental acuteness to be able to appreciate written fantasy, for it takes a great imagination to enter a place unlike your own & be able to empathize with it & the people that live there. J.K. Rowling actually doesn't read a lot of fantasy herself -she prefers mystery etc. which is why there's a great component of mystery in the Harry Potter books. They are also quite witty. Have you actually read the books? Perhaps empathizing with anybody is beyond you; It would explain a lot.
P/S: how do you explain the phenomenon of Michael Jackson?
MJ was different. He was something that people couldn't understand and handle because he was so loving and caring and because he always was doing so much good for people. If you ever had a chance to hear the tapes of the boy who accused MJ of molesting him after MJ had paid him off and how he admitted that he had been "coaxed" into saying what he said and how all the lies had been concocted it was just further proof that Michael was innocent. People wanted to tear him down because he was an African American who was making millions of dollars in a time when it really wasn't happening...he was the first black singer to ever get a huge endorsement deal...he did a lot of firsts. He gave up his childhood so that we could enjoy him on the stage for what became his entire life...and then people around him got so greedy that they plotted and actually murdered him. It wasn't just Dr. Murray...he was a scapegoat, a cog in the wheel....there were people who didn't want MJ to come back to fame and rise to the top again...they had worked too hard to try to drag him through the mud with the false accusations of child molestation and didn't win at that. BUT..MJ is with God now...our angel has gone home. It's a shame that people didn't realize what they had while he was here. He was a gift from God and everyone ate him alive until he could no longer take it. He knew he was going to be killed, he was watching his every step and had told everyone around him. RIP MJ....I pray you finally have found peace. Peace, Love & Happiness
"Women seem wicked when you're unwanted"?
why would being free spirited and independent make women seem more wicked to men? the article isn't saying that women don't enjoy the company of male friends or that they don't sleep with men. surely men would be happy > isn't the stereotype that women want commitment, men don't? or are they secretly worried? anyway, all the best men seem to be more attracted to happy successful women than clingy desperate ones :-) edit iranian - don't worry, i don't think they'd want you either! :-) why don't you go back and live in iran if that's how you feel? you obviously don't appreciate living in a free country da - i think you're over analysing this. i certainly wasn't interested in looking for a long term boyfriend for most of my life. i was too busy with other things (and very happily). actually, i wasn't even looking when i found my current partner, he just popped up out of nowhere :-) just because some people aren't capable of being happy when single doesn't mean all people are the same way. undertaker - sorry i have to disagree with your statement that ALL women need a man. (and vice versa) that's simply not true and is quite simplistic. some women are very happy being single, some are happily in lesbian relationships; this doesn't even necessarily apply just to young women - i know some older women who get all the companionship they need from their female friends. i'm of the personal view that most people do tend to want to 'settle down' eventually, but not EVERYONE. and most 'freemales' aren't celebrities > there are probably thousands in my city, but they're certainly not all rich and famous, just ordinary people.
It's not rape if the person enjoys it?
The orgasm isn't caused because the person is at the height of sexual pleasure. Orgasms can occur simply due to stimulating the correct part. Mentally the person does not enjoy the orgasm as you do when having sex with someone voluntarily. Heterosexual men can orgasm when their male doctor feels their prostate up their butt. That doesn't mean they are sexually enjoying this experience. Most men would be mortified by this occurence in front of their doctor. Its simply a physical reaction to a stimuli like your knee jumps when the doctor gently hits it. Some women have a disorder which causes them to continually orgasm 20 or 30 times a day. They have to be medicated to stop it and certainly don't enjoy it. You are taking a very simplistic attitude towards orgasm. Just because a body responds to a stimulus doesn't mean that the owner of the body is enjoying the experience mentally or emotionally. Men can have erections in bizarre circumstances. It doesn't mean they are wanting sex. Mentally that may be the very last thing they want. No one enjoys having their body violated against their will. No one sane enjoys been forced to perform sex acts or to have sex in a situation where they have zero control. No one enjoys having their body used against their wishes. To enjoy sex you need to want it mentally as well as experience physical responses. If either is missing then you don't enjoy it. For example, a woman may want sex mentally but her body tenses up and refuses to allow pain free penetration. No one enjoys been raped. @FAKHINA.... If its role play with your partner then its something you have agreed to do and want to happen, and its happening with your consent, you are 'playing' at not consenting. Both parties know that therefore that is not rape!
How are you coping with old age?
when I was young I always wanted to be the invisible man. When you become an old person you pretty much become invisible to anyone under 40. If it doesn’t bother you too much then you’ll cope with being old just fine. I can remember taking a bicycle to an old guy who lived on my block when I was a kid and he was having a conversation with another old guy. The guy looked at me and said “ son, you can have the world because there’s nothing in I want.” I thought it was an interesting thing to say but now getting old I can understand what he was saying to me. People who think they want to live to 150 are fools. My generation doesn’t have much in common with young folks and that’s ok. Young people always think that they will change the world and are sadly right. If are 20 or 30 now the world will look a lot different to you when you are 70 and the odds are you’re not going to be pleased but that’s just nature taking its course. we always think that we will be valued human beings to others but that isn’t really true anymore. Everything today is predicated on who’s making the news today and regular folks don’t mean much in the scheme of things. People used to enjoy a lot of the same things on a daily basis but now everyone just wants to be a square peg in a round hole. Having five thousand friends on facebook or twitter isn’t the same as having two or three really good friends who are willing to drop everything to hear you out. I think best friends in 50 years will be robots or AI assistants because no one will have conversation skills to actually talk to another human being. I don’t see this being a bad thing, because humans are becoming less and less interesting (especially to older folks) because of there addiction to their cell phones and all their social media accounts. I won’t live to see it but that won’t be much of a loss to me anyway. I do hope (even though I won’t survive) to see the day of the humongous solar flare that takes out all world communication at once. It will be interesting to see what new form of communication will come about. There might be some real talking being done at that time. Until then, just work in my shop and enjoy my retirement and let everyone else battle with what the future brings. I’m sure the younger generations will do just fine as they are so well prepared to fix anything that goes wrong in the future.