Opinions on black and white bedding?
I am going to change my room colors to black, white, and blue and I was thinking about doing a black and white patterned comforter with blue sheets and decorative pillows. But what I am wanting an opinion on is should the comforter be mostly white or mostly black? My furniture is white so I was wondering if I should do mostly black. But I want some opinions Here are a couple I was looking at.. http://www.walmart.com/ip/Botanica-Bed-in-a-Bag-Black-and-White-Floral-Print/14220252 http://www.walmart.com/ip/Flower-Graphic-Comforter-Set/9713716 I was thinking along those lines. What should I go with more white or more black? And if you have any suggestions please let me know!
What do you think of a white Lexus IS 250? I was thinking of a black or silver one, but...?
Color doesn't make a huge difference in resale value, unless it's something wacky. White is a good color for most cars. (By "most" I mean it looks good on most cars, but not necessarily all) It gets dirty...but generally it doesn't LOOK as dirty. This is because reflections off a glossy white surface are really low-contrast (white reflection on a white background, for example) while they're quite clearly defined on a black one. So you don't see the dirt, because you don't see the reflection. When you see a dirty looking black car, it looks dirty because the reflection is obscured by the dirt. The other advantage of white is that it keeps the car cool. In the desert, for instance, black cars almost invariably have peeling clear coat after a few years. This is because the black paint absorbs heat, which eventually breaks down the clear coat layer. White paint reflects more heat, so white paint stays intact longer. Even if you aren't in the desert, a black car can get so hot that it's painful to touch. A white car won't. Also, your A/C won't have to work as hard. So yeah, white cars are a good thing. The only problems: While white is an easy color to PAINT, it's a hard color to MATCH. Different shades and tones of white are starkly obvious next to one another, moreso than a lot of other colors. So if you have any bodywork done, there's a strong possibility it won't look right, if they mess up just a little tiny bit. In some conditions, most notably snowy or foggy conditions, white cars aren't as visible as a lot of other colors. OTOH, they're more visible at night than a black or gray car. So the safety issue kind of balances out.
What leads to black-and-white thinking?
All-or-nothing thinking is the “polarized lens” of cognitive distortions. When we engage in all-or-nothing thinking, we interpret self, others, and circumstances in a dualistic, inflexible manner. We see something as all good or all bad, all happy or all sad. All-or-nothing thinking speaks the language of absolutes. It sounds like:Always, Never, Every, Forever, All, None, Pass, Fail, Right, Wrong, Love, Hate…We could add dozens of more words to this list. This way of thinking is a common part of the human experience because the brain loves categories. Categories are efficient and help predict patterns.The brain’s ultimate job is to keep you alive, so it uses categories to help you identify what’s safe and unsafe in hopes of protecting you from pain and harm—both physical and psychological.When you’re in a situation that feels threatening or safe, the brain remembers both, and gives that experience a label to reference for future circumstances.In childhood, black-and-white thinking is our default mode; it’s a necessary part of our development, establishing our sense of right, wrong, safe and unsafe.There’s no grey area when it comes to never, ever going to the basement to check out a weird sound, especially if you’re in a horror film. We learn not to touch the stove and not to talk to strangers.As we move into adolescence, the brain gains the ability to think abstractly and move between absolutes. We learn that the stove is only hot when a burner is lit, and that in many contexts, being friendly with strangers is a way to build our capacity for connection and empathy. It’s easier for us to think about the grey area between two sides.However, when we are in situations that feel threatening or uncertain—like a big life change, political upheaval, or an argument with a coworker—the protective alarm bells go off in the brain. We look to all-or-nothing thinking to reestablish a sense of safety and predictability.We reference past experiences that we’ve sorted into categories as a guide for our behavior and decision-making. Even expert critical thinkers can slip into automatic responses when identity and stability are at stake.Feel free to check out our in-depth post on black-and-white thinking!
What is black and white thinking of a narcissist?
To think black and white is to process thoughts without (maybe, or what if).“Narcissists cannot be indifferent”.It's either Black or white.this is why they hold the grudge, this is why they love bomb and demean, this is why they hate and devalue then love bomb and after it, it's the sharp view of the world with high contrast.You have a vision of life, narcissists have two.If I am not superior, I am inferior.If I am not bigger, I am smaller.If I am not better, I am worse.If I am not haughty, I am fragileIf it's not my way, I am submissive.If you don't praise me, you hate me.If you're not feeding me, you're feeding off me.If I am not right, I am wrong.If you don't give me attention, you're ignoring me totally.If I am not epic and special, I am worthless.If I am not high, and excited, I am bored..Black and white can work against the narcissist.Narcissists devalue themselves in the black and white thinking when their sense of shame is triggered, they cover it up with selective memory, compulsive thinking, and pathological lies.Have you ever been accused of being an abuser by a narcissist? Now you know why…….Black and white are defense.The anxiety caused by the shame triggered reinforce the splitting (black and white thinking) to diffuse it.Black and white are Egoism and entitlement.In a form of False rationalizations to reduce the noise of holding contradictory and compulsive thoughts using an egoistic mindset.Black and white repair self-esteem.Black and white thinking also reinforces the sense of self as good, virtuous, flawless, and faultless, by demonizing all those who do not share in their opinions and values.Black and white are toxic.Such divisions of opposites and distorted pictures of reality and short range of thoughts and emotions that are condensed in the (now) gives the push and pull effect to the relationship because it can easily flip where your virtue will be seen as a vice.Back to the question:What is black and white thinking of a narcissist?It's a sharp rigid view of life in a high contrast filter of Black & White and nothing in between.Life isn't black and white. It's a million gray areas, don't you find?………….Bassel Chibani.