Is it wrong that I can't cry about my mother's death?
My mom died on October 31, 2002. She committed suicide by hanging herself, she was only 25 years old and I was 3 years old at the time, now I am 20 and I feel like I don't miss her or even know her, other people cry when I even talk about her but I can't cry. I don't have any memories with her, my grandmother died when I was 14 and I always cry when I think about that, but not my mom. Is this wrong?
Help, whats wrong with my mother?
hi, i believe my mother is a sociopath. She lies a Alot. im only 16 and the older i get, the worst she treats me. She verbally abuses her kids and constantly (I MEAN CONSTANTLY) lies on me too my family. im staying with my family for the summer. After she kicked me out because i confronted her about verbally abusing my 12 year old sister. i came to my family and she lied to my family and said that she didnt kick me out. My own amily doesnt even believe her anymore. and now she says i cant work but wont say why, she wont give me my social security card number. My mother treats me the worst, im the oldest and she treats her youngest child named after her the best. I feel as though she wants me miserable. she has a new boyreind that shes only known for about 1month and shes already bringing him around her 4 kids. shes brought home 3 guys this year already and i feel as though a mother shouldnt do that.She never mentioned him until she said my friend coming over tonight be on your best behavior. Since that night shes been a totally worst person. Shes only known the dude for a month but she hopped into bed with him at 2 weeks. She treats me even worst now hat she got a new man. She isnt even divoriced yet. sHE LIVES IN A FANTASY WORLD . She lies so much that it will make your head spin. IVE BEEN PLANNING MY 16TH BIRTHDAY SINCE 7TH GRADE AND THEN SHE'LL THINK O THE LITTLEST THING TO TAKE IT AWAY. She liied to my family and said that i came on to her boyfriend and she told my dad that lie. All my family tells me what she says. MY Mother trys to talk bad about me to the whole family but no one believes her. she calls my family just to talk bad about me. WHat kind of mother would want to talk about her child to random people? i really want to get my mother some help because its getting to the point when i hate my own mother? i personally believe she has a narcissistic personality disorder or shes sociopathic p.s:: ive tried to commit sucide before but im thinking more clearly now
"Am I wrong to avoid my Mother-in-law?"?
I talk to my mil sometimes. Then I don't. I try to avoid her because she always is finding something silly to say when she is around me. The silly things are very mean and nasty. Why would she spend so much time trying to bring me down? Also, when she does these mean things to me they are done when no one is around or either they are out of earshot.
Is it wrong to leave my mom?
I am 20 years old by the way and live with my parents, I work and attend college. I am the only child, and my dad tends to work a lot. This year my mother’s mom, dad and brother all passed away so it has been hard on all of us especially my mom. I have been considering doing this special school abroad experience that I am very very interested in that would start in February, something I have been considering for a long time. Would it be wrong to leave my mom to do this? She does not really have any family here where we live in the US considering her family is from the Philippines. Just a cousin, and a lot of filipino friends here. She seemed upset when I first mentioned it to her saying something along the lines, “my parents left, my brother and now you would be leaving me.” I don’t know what to do, I mean ofcourse the loss of the family is hard on me too but I know its apart of life and we have to move on. What should I do?
Do you think it's wrong if my mother tell me that she want to choke me just because she don't want me to talk to her?
Yes. I do think it's wrong. PEOPLE often do and say stupid things. And parents [even our parents! haha] are people! It's a disappointing reality!
What is wrong with me? My mother is telling me that a year grieving for my fiancé is too much, that I should’ve moved on by now.
Nadeen, I am sorry for your sad loss.You were engaged to be married, and that tells me you were moving into an adult relationship and life, no longer a child. Do not look back to the time when your parents had a say.Find supportive people that add to your life, at your school, your job, wherever you hang out. People who do not challenge your right to grieve.You suffered a trauma and there is no way around that.If you look back at yourself a year ago when your fiancé died, and then to who you are now, I am certain that the tragedy in your life has changed you, and that you have moved in your journey. You will find strength and courage along the way.But these changes are deep and internal, not always obvious to the outside world. Others in our lives—perhaps your mother—may not understand or respect this, but instead, impose their own external standards, and judge you.This is a sad fact in our modern society that is “result-oriented”—even when it comes to grief. I find this appalling.I hope these thoughts will help you. I speak from my heart to yours.