Can't get along with my stepdad.?
My mom was divorced when I was a baby, so I don't remember anything about going through the divorce. I still see my dad, but obviously we don't have that bond that some kids have. My mom got remarried when I was 7. I just can't get along with my stepdad. He doesn't even feel like family. He makes fun of me all the time, once he even flat out told my entire family that I suck at singing (which I enjoy doing, thanks.) I really really try to be patient and get along with him, but he just ticks me off with the way he acts. We just don't click. He's rude to me, and the worst thing he does is when he influences my mom to get mad at me just because he is. For example, today, everything went fine. Nothing happened. Then my stepdad and I got in a little arguement but nothing major at all. So he got all pissed off and took my phone, which isn't really a big deal because I'm not on it much. But then he told my mom that I was screaming and slamming doors, which NEVER happened. So then she gets all mad at me and I can't convince her that I didn't do that stuff. I just can't deal with him. I know I could have it worse, but I can't deal with this for the 3 more years until I go to college.
My mom wants my stepdad to adopt me and I don't want that!?
So this may be long but i need help please. So my real dad is getting an atterny because of the amount of child support these agency people told my mom that he should be sending, which is 800 dollars. Now i know i dont know anything but to me thats a little high for just me (its just for me, my full brother has moved out) , buti dont know :/. Anyway, so my mom doesn't like social events and trys to avoid people as much as possible so she basically is giving up on him and wants my stepdad tk adopt me.Instead. And i DONT want him to! He is an asshole! I have no fond memiries of him at all, all i remember is him calling me names (i was known as the *****), forcing me to shoot guns and fish, making me cry and then purposely making me cry more and more. Needless to say i svoid him like the plague now, i always get terrified when i hear his door open and i always run to my room. So yeah i will NEVER consider him my father, and that whats adoption is right? I absolutly love my real fathers family, more then ill ever love my stepfather or his awful family. Even though my father hasnt been there a lot for me, i still love him. All i ever wanted was for a father like my friends all had.will my last name change? Because i will die, i love having a different last name, like my real brothers. So if he were to adopt me, me and my brother would be different, and i liked how we had the same dad and family. Sorry if this was long, idont have enough space to write it all.
My step dad treats me like crap! Talking solves nothing... How can I get back at him?
First, getting revenge will make you no better than he is. Have you tried talking to another adult (counselor, pastor, family member, etc.)? Failing that, I'd recommend trying to get some proof of his abuse. If you have a cell phone, there are many recording apps for free that you can use to record your encounters. If you can set up a web cam without him knowing, that can work as well, though it is tougher as you have to get them in the picture. Your mom may want to believe you, but she also is married to him. Remember, you will be moving out in a couple of years - she will be staying. Sometimes, this is a tough decision for a woman, as we tend to want to have someone in our lives. Also, you need to remember that we all lose our tempers from time to time. Just yelling at you is not enough to be considered abusive or grounds for "revenge" Finally, you haven't given any actual encounters for example, but it pays to remember that we often see things from a completely different point of view than that of those we come into conflict with. You might try asking him to sit down with some ground rules (no raised voices) and try to discuss your issues, either at home or with a counselor. I know I have looked at both extremes and the middle here, but without more information, it is really difficult to guide you in a good direction.
My step-dad scares me... What should I do?
keep talking to your mom, dont let him disrespect her or you and if you see him hit her or your dog, call the cops
Stepdad is mean to me, and now wants me to pay rent??
i've been fighting with my step dad for years from him telling my mom that i needed a curfew i couldnt have friends over past 10 they couldnt stay the night i had to be home at 10 even when i was comming home to an empty house. hes very immature and rude to me we get in big fights and he calls me a mooch and a little ***** always stares me down every time i walk by or he walks by he told me i'll be out of this house real fast because i wont pay him rent my mom doesnt agree with anything he says she wants me here at home but he never had kids so he doesnt know what its like hes trying to charge my boyfriend rent too even though im the one that makes him stay here hes got his own house i just dont like being there so we stay here my boyfriend buys our food he buys me everything i need that i cant get on my own we even paid one of my parents bills cause it was months late and they shut it off and now they wont keep paying it they want him to pay it every month, he shovels the driveway,
Do I have to call him my stepdad 'dad' when he doesn't feel like a dad to me?
My mom told my step siblings this to them:You don’t have to like him, but you have to respect him.If this man does everything he is supposed to be doing, give him the honor.Their bio-logical father didn’t didn’t pay child support anything.My dad paid for everything for them. Treated them as if they were his own kids! He gave them allowances, fed them, put a roof over their heads, made sure they didn’t go without! He did everything a father a father figure figure was supposed to do.So did they call him dad, yes. It was why, because he did more than their biological did.Also Mom would say respect is earned not given. So if he has earned it give it to him.Today on Father’s Day everyone one of those 3 kid’s called or texted him to wish him a Happy Father’s Day!That made him smile more than anything else in his life!
I hate my step dad. What should I do?
Short answer: There's nothing you can do.Long answer: Dealing with parents can be extremely hard. Personally, I lost my father two years ago and my mom almost instantly (two months later) met another man online. My father died in April, my mother met my stepdad in late May, and he lived with us by September. My mother abandoned me for two months with my brother to go stay with my stepdad in Arizona, while I was still grieving. Basically, I have a lot of anger and resentment left over from this. Either way, my new soon-to-be stepdad isn't the best person, to say the least. He treats me much differently (worse) than he treats his own daughter, and says very cruel things to win an argument. He constantly blames me for things I haven't done and my mom believes him, and it's extremely frustrating. Because I broke my phone last month, and currently am unable to pay for my own (my mother is also unable to pay for a nice phone for me), my stepdad pays for it, which is kind, but he uses it as leverage against me. Anything I say wrong turns into me losing my phone for however long he’d like. Usually a few hours. He once gave me a list of things to do in order to get my phone back, so I completed the list and he still wouldn't give it back because he “"doesn't make deals with children.”Our relationship is awful, and he thinks that I like him more than I would admit. I don't, and likely never will.I’m explaining all of this to easily answer your question. No matter how much you hate someone, there is likely no quick, rational solution besides waiting it out. Unless your mother decides to leave him, you'll always be stuck with him. Just try to cope for now.
How do I tell my mom I don't like my stepdad?
Your mother decided to marry this man and apparently she is not having a problem with the marriage. If she is, she is probably not going to share this information with you.What would the result if you told her that you dislike the actions of her new husband? You already suspect that it would hurt her feelings. And I believe there will be more tension among the household members if she tells your stepdad.There are times when we don't get to choose what we want. It is best to keep your feelings to yourself. You can be polite and respectful in his company and try to get along. I doubt he is going to change and that means that you must change. You ignore his comments (that is sending a silent message) and walk away when he makes fun of your family members.There may be an opportunity in the future to discuss your feelings with him but not as long as your mother is not complaining. I do understand that this is going to be difficult but your mom's happiness and your future relationship with him has to be considered.Thank you for asking.