I just read my son's diary and found out he is gay. I'm worried about this?
Yes, I know I was wrong to read my son's secret diary. In my defense, it was just lying there out in the open for me to find, and I didn't know what it was at first, so I read the first paragraph... and I couldn't put it down until I finished it. My son is 12 years old, and there wasn't even a whisper of a thought of him being gay; so naturally it was a huge surprise to me. Its a non-issue with me; I'm okay with who he is and I love him all the same. The problem is, now this might sound a bit pedantic, is how he wants to be in a relationship. What I mean is, most of his diary entries are strangely addressed to his, err... 'future husband,' for a lack of a better word. Obviously, he didn't blatantly write that down, but it was definitely alluded to! For example, his first entry was "I promised my mother I would wait for you..." He's a good son, but now I know why he seems almost enthusiastic about helping out with the household chores and the kitchen; this abstract figure in his diary is the source of his motivation. eg "Mum just taught me how to make the best chocolate cake ever! I hope you like sweet stuff." What I'm trying to say I have a problem with, if you haven't figured it out already, is that he writes his diary entries, and therefore he thinks, from a position of effemininity. Okay, I admit that problem stems from the fact that I feel somewhat remorseful for 'allowing' him to turn out this way as his father... I hope you understand what I mean. I just want to do the best for him; I'll take any advice you could give me. I'm worried about this, and I'm not even sure if I should be?
I found my 7 year old son wearing girls underwear? Is he transgender?
I just came home from work and found him in the bathroom wearing his sisters underwear. I asked him why and he said they were soft and they feel better than his underwear. I told him that he is a boy and should not be wearing that. I just don't want him getting in the habit of wearing woman's clothes and then ending up transgender or something. I really hope he isn't trans because that would be extremely disappointing
I saw a woman in the middle of WalMart breastfeeding and talking on a cell phone at the same time...?
I found this rather distasteful. What is proper breastfeeding etiquette? I'm fine with breastfeeding in public, but why would you not use those cool, colorful cover ups they make these days? At least a blanket. Why would you talk on a cell phone where if the baby pops off the nipple, you have no way to cover yourself up? I feel that women who breastfeed in public with no attempt to use a cover up, have serious attention issues. It's like "Hey look at me. I don't care if you see my breast because I'm a breastfeeding woman, and it's my right to expose my breast". In my opinion, if you can avoid exposing the breast, why wouldn't you do that? If your a woman who breastfeeds without a cover up, why do you not care who sees your breast? Why do you not use a blanket or cover? Do you have attention issues?
How do you feel about "pleasurable" childbirth?
I had 3 children between 1979 and 1983. All were large babies 8lb 2oz, 8lb 8oz, and the last one was 10 lbs and 24 inches long. (I am a petite person) I did not have an epidural with any of them because I think they are playing with fire, using them, I don't want back problems the rest of my life. Anyway, childbirth was not orgasmic for me, but it wasn't the horrible nightmare that a lot of people make it out to be. I was given small amounts of Demerol when the labor got bad, (all my babies were posterior, meaning back labor for me) It was painfull, but I had taken Lamaze classes, and therefore was educated about childbirth, and all the stages of labor, so I knew what to expect, so I had no fear of the pain. It was very empowering to know I carried those babies for 9 months, and gave birth to them, however painfull it may have been, without a lot of interferance from, being forced to lie on my back, and being told "you can't handle it you need an epidural." or being told I couldn't get out of bed and walk around. I was encouraged by the nurses, in the hospital I gave birth at, to do whatever made me comfortable, the pain meds were there if I needed them, which in small amounts take the edge off, and do not affect the babies, that's a bunch of bullcrap used to get women to opt for the epidural instead. (They make a heck of a lot of money on those epidurals believe me, that's why they are almost routinely done now) They respected all of my wishes, and did not try to force anything on me, like they seem to be getting in to the habit of these days. The funny thing, is once that baby is in your arms, you forget the pain. Back in the 70's and 80's natural childbirth was the wave of the day. Everybody wanted to have natural childbirth, and took Lamaze classes, and breastfed their babies. (At least in the community I grew up in) . I think medicine is going backwards to the opposite end of the spectrum, where childbirth is treated as a pathology, rather than something that is normal. I think sometimes, too much medical intervention can be a bad thing, especially in childbirth. I don't think Dr.s give us mom's enough credit for our strength and ability to give birth, because a lot of them are men, and would never be able to take what it takes, to carry and give birth to a child.
Jehovah's Witnesses: head covering?
my friend was telling a group of us that she called on a Muslim man and he refused to listen to her because of a scripture in the Bible which states that women must cover their head if they are going to teach, something to that effect. i can't find the scripture but i've seen it on many occasions. so my question is this, do we consider the first time when we call on them to be preaching or teaching? if we consider it to be teaching, then wouldn't we need to cover our heads? also too, my friend's mom asked this hypothetical question which still needs an answer. you are in a basement having a bible study with a woman, and her husband comes in the house and goes up to the third floor. do you still cover your head if he is up on the third floor and you are in the basement? everyone is stumped on it, and she said that once you can answer that you have the answer for all questions related with the head coverings. so the questions are again: do we consider the first time when we call on them to be preaching or teaching? if we consider it to be teaching, then wouldn't we need to cover our heads? do you still cover your head if he is up on the third floor and you are in the basement?