Should my parents still control me (I'm 19)?
I know I'm my parents "baby" but I don't like them control me. I'd always been amazingly well behaved until I got out of high school (no drinking, drugs, parties) but I feel they still don't trust me. I'm visiting my friend in Seattle (I live in MT) and my parents are here for a medical conference. I've been here for 2 days and now they want me to come home tomorrow because they found out I lied to them about where I was last night (at my friend's friend's house). I'd be paying my own way home if I stayed. I just think it's time for them to let me make my own decisions since I'm going far away to college next year. It almost makes me feel like I need them to make my decisions because they make me feel I'm incapable of it.
Controlling parents?! im 19?
it pisses me the eff off when im out with my friends they will call a million times to check up on me if its past 12 my dad has to come pick me up they don't let me date!! i just ugh i can't take it anymore i love my mom and dad sooo much but they are always so worried about everything my moms excuse is she doesn't want me walking home late all alone what do i do? NONE of my friends parents do this i am home from college for 2 more months and really want to go out
I'm 19 why do my parents still control me?
I live at home with my 2 parents I give them £50 every week (yes I know it's not much but it's half of what I earn every week) and I'm not allowed to stay out later than 9 pm. It causes a lot of problems for my social life my friends have stopped inviting me to parties and to go out for a drink because I have to be home early. I don't drink or do drugs and I honestly feel like a child my friend's little sister who is almost 16 is allowed out until 11 pm. They also still threaten to ground me and take my phone. I don't understand why my parents are like this so if you're a parent please try to explain from a parent's point of view because I have tried calmly asking them about it and they keep saying if I don't like it I can leave but I can't afford to do that right now.
Im 19 and my parents still try to control me.?
Caring parents - can't let you go that easily. It's good... when in need you know who you can count on for sure.
I'm 19 and my parents still want to control me.?
i'm 33, the attempts at controlling never ends. one day you just have to make it clear that while you will take their advice under consideration, you are an adult and therefore not obligated to do as they say.
Do parents still have control over you when you turn 18 if you live with them?
No. Depending on where you live, once you pass a certain age, you are technically an adult. It’s 18 in most places.That having been said. If you’re still living in a house owned by another person, they can have a say over certain things. You can’t tear out the lawn, for example, and replace it with a rock garden without the owner’s permission.But that’s not what you mean by your parents having control. If you are living rent free, it’s kind of hard for you to argue against their continued interference in your life (who you should speak to, what you should do with your free time, etc). After all, it is their house, you’re their child, and they’re still paying for the roof over your head.Legally, certainly, you might have a case. My suggestion, if you can’t afford a place of your own, then offer to pay them rent, and demand an actual lease agreement. You will pay “x” per month, and they will act as landlords. Since, in all likelihood you will have to use the same kitchen and laundry facilities, include usage of these facilities as well. Basically, what you want to show your parents is that the only reason you’re still living with them is that you can’t afford your own place (incidentally, in today’s economy, that’s not a bad thing). Show them that you are willing to take an adult role in the household (dishes, laundry, maintenance, etc), and in exchange, you want them to treat you as an adult.All of that having been said - there’s nothing wrong with listening to what your parents have to say, and regardless of a lease, if you’re in the same room with them (or if they have your phone number), they’re going to tell you what they think (trust me, I’m 43, live a continent away and my mom still tells me what she thinks). And that’s fine. After all, your parents have been your age before, and they are likely to have decent advice for problems you might be facing. Just remember, you are and adult now, and you don’t have to listen to them if you don’t want to.As an addendum, my mom is still right, most of the time, even now.
How can I deal with my controlling parents? I’m 19 years old. They control everything, besides, my mom has become so toxic that I don’t even recognize her anymore, she’s so controlling!
Until you’re ready to move out, there’s nothing you can do to stop your parents from trying to control your life. Their house, their rules. You can start planning your escape, though. If you don’t have a job yet, get one and begin saving money, because moving out is not cheap. I don’t think it will do you any good to try to stop them from controlling you while you live in their house, eat their food, and use their utilities. You have to get out of their home as soon as you can.
I'm 19 years old almost 20 parents are OVER CONTROLLING? Am I wrong to resent them?
I'm 19 years old and I feel like my parents (specifically my mom) try to control every aspect of my life. From what I wear, to my curfew (which is 10:30), down to my EYEBROWS..If I do my eyebrows in a different way than SHE wants them to be she will curse and scream at me, she won't leave a single cussword in the dictionary out. This really frustrates me and makes me want to kill myself. She always curses the fact that she ended up with a daughter who was a girly girl rather than someone who pays no attention to their appearance at all. She hates that I want to do my eyebrows, do my hair, and dress up nicely etc.. She calls me "sick" because of it. I'm also extremely flat chested and this affects my self-esteem immensely. She claims that I'm "sick" for that as well and blames me for pretty much everything. She practically DOESNT BELIEVE in going out and enjoying yourself thats why she HATES it when I go out and has imposed a 10:30 curfew on me. I have worked all year in university and my grades are NO less than A's and B's and i feel that I deserve to enjoy my summer by spending time with my friends etc. But I can't help but feel GUILTY everytime I go out and CONFINED everytime i have to come back at 10:30 on the dot while the rest of my adult friends do as they please. Also, I have a 3 year old baby brother and I assume the responsibility of taking care of him most of the time. I find that I am taking care of him a great portion of every day, this can be a big burden and i feel the NEED to go out once he finally goes to sleep. I feel like I am an Adult and i can't STAND it when my mom controls my every move and treats me like a 12 year old. My mom should have NOTHING against me other than the fact that she doesn't think i'm the cleanest person (which i will admit to) although she blows that WAY out of proportion as well. but ANYWAY, she should have NOTHING against me? I do what is asked of me ALWAYS, i'm very obedient, I take care of my baby brother so much, i get good grades, i stay out of trouble...and yet I'm treated like a caged animal and with such disrespect always being cursed at and screamed at... so basically my question is WHO is wrong in this situation? Don't i have every right to resent what my parents are doing? I am asking this because It seems that my mom hates me SO much that I can't possibly be doing ANYTHING right? This is the way she treats me.
I'm 21. My parents still control every single detail in my life. What should I do?
Controlling parents are hard. First things first. As hard as this may be I truly hope your not trying to get there " Approval ". Even me, someone who has extremely lenient parents will never be up to my parents expectations. At some point you just need to decide that you are who you are. And whatever limitations, beliefs your parents have do NOT have to be yours. For example, my boyfriends parents are idiotically strict. I have known him since he was a teenager. And this is a little tid bit of life through his eyes, at 20 his brother is currently allowed to sit on the back of the families porch and smoke tons of weed. But my boyfriend, 23 is not aloud to have me (his girlfriend) sleepover! Now I'm all for the ones of the world who say " free marijuana ", but there not that kind of family. Here's another example. My boyfriend has had a curfew of 11 since he was 18 when living under his parents roof. Now he has moved out an lives with me and finally has received the freedom he deserves. His parents do not like anyone, tolerate me, and barely like there own sons. Never listen nor hear anything they have to say. My advice to you is your 21. Find yourself a hard working job. Find some roomies and move out. If you want the freedom you deserve, your old enough to work for it an get out of there. It's your decision.