What to do --my boyfriend is lazy!!?
You can't polish a turd and no matter how much perfume you put on it, it will never smell as a rose.When are people going to learn that you can't change people. If he doesn't want to change and he's been like this since you've known him, then dump him because it's not going to change ever.
What do I do about my boyfriend's laziness?
My boyfriend is extremely lazy. Not just lazy but very unmotivated. He's unemployed but that's not the problem, I know it's a tough market out there. But he's not even trying. I keep telling him to apply and he doesn't? He just loves his video games. A month ago he got a job through a temp agency but he got fired after a couple weeks for being...you guessed it, lazy! And he's not motivated to study. He's resitting his GCSE English and maths to get into uni but he doesn't study. He failed them twice, once in school and once in sixth form college while he was studying a course. And is he motivated to actually apply to go to uni? Nope! Hasn't applied yet and the January deadline will probably arrive before he's able to lift a finger. He did apply to this uni last year (it's one of the few unis in the UK that offer the course he wants to do) but he got rejected due to lack of GCSEs. He keeps saying he wants to do this and that, but it's all talk and no action. I graduated from uni in July and work in a law firm so I have tried to get some connections for him. I've tried to support him. I have for months. I have told him about alternative options besides university, like apprenticeships. I have even looked into some for him. But he doesn't want to do that. This side of him is now causing me to feel indifferent. I feel like he ignores me. Everything else is fine b/w us though, I still love him and don't want to leave him.
Boyfriend is lazy!! What should I do?
He has no ambition. Hes content on living in the video game world it sounds and he dosnt have any drive to change that.Iam guessing hes a very nice guy. The typical nice guys finish last type of person. He will always be this until he see's you can be a good guy while still being nice. It just means you have to grow a back bone instead of a wishbone.Now weather you kick him out or he stays with you it wont changehim, he will remain the same person. Even if he finds a job and a pplace. When he gets home hes likly to just sit infront of the TV or computer all over again till hes goes to bed.Now on your part you have two options well 3 but...1. Dump him and throw him to the world.2. Sit down with him and be a "good" person and flat out ask him, "do you consider yourself a man?" "would a man sit at home and have no drive" playing video games is not responsable or does it accumulate money. Think Bill gates spends more than an hour a month on games if at all lol yet hes Microsoft. Be blunt with him. Backbone or wishbone. What hes hoping for is the big break to fall on his lap. Nothing comes for free. Anyways my personal hero, John Wayne so if your not half of him, you cant say your a man.3. tough it out be a nice girl and do more harm to him in he long run.Your going to have to shake him up if you wish. Dumping him wont, it will only depress him and send him farther into gamming. Nice girl, wont you'll enforce the weakness. My only sight is to confront him.Good luck
My boyfriend is very lazy. What should I do?
Work harder to make up for his ineptitude. Fill in all the gaps you see in his personality. By showing him your superiority, it will hopefully result in him seeing your example and improving himself.Throw him parties to show how wonderfully excited you are about life. Bring your girlfriends over to help cheer him up. Bake him cakes and rub his feet (not to mention bedroom "services"). Make the world a better place.(I am being facetious, of course. This describes what females have been trained to do.)
My boyfriend is getting lazy.. what do i do?
it could be countless issues yet I assure if he didn't want then you definately he does not be able to get it up. you're what you eat, if he eats junk foodstuff all day then why are not you cooking him some good foodstuff. it really is the time he needs help because he's definitely in a minimum of a mini melancholy. it could be his job yet regardless of this if he replaced into satisfied jointly with his existence then he should be at liberty jointly with his job so it ought to have not something to do with it. it could be an age aspect as well and also you've not factor out a at the same time as. and obviously he received't go away you adore notes and all a majority of those issues anymore, human beings try too difficult interior the starting up of relationships and lose who they truly are by technique of putting on a coach for his or her better half and then get burnt out at the same time as they comprehend they ought to save it going. per chance he's in simple terms showing his genuine colorings as he can not save up what he began. enable's placed it this type, any relationship that has sex 3 situations an afternoon is questionable as to what type of relationship it truly is. the position do get to spend high quality relationship time if all you're doing is having sex. and three situations per week isn't something to ***** about, that is probable an truly good quantity truly as you've your sexual relationship and then the different situations for different issues. per chance you do not comprehend how a lot you ***** and it truly is getting him down. I say this because I had a lady friend communicate about once how a lot I ***** and that i heavily did not comprehend on the time so i chanced on that the precedence interior the relationship replaced into me taking issues with none interest and by no skill being waiting to income from the straightforward issues. per chance you're too severe and also you boyfriend needs some down time. Relationships go in waves and that is continuously on both 12 months era that oxytocin, the affection chemical interior the mind, wears off and the relationship takes a clean direction. you're literally heading into yet another financial ruin of the relationship and also you want to safeguard your man or woman needs as in case your boyfriend wasn't there and make confident you do not lose your individuality as living as couple can get draining if existence is all about the relationship. he needs his storage time
How do I get my boyfriend to stop being so lazy?
My boyfriend lost his job recently. He stays at home with his mother and she is a complete slob. She won't get off of the couch and clean up the house at all. There are like dirty dishes every where and dog crap all over the floor in the house and on top of that she treats my boyfriend like crap. His back bothers him a lot and he's a little over weight but, back problems run in his family so I asked him to go and apply for disability. He won't get up and do anything. He just lays in bed and sleeps all day and stays up on night playing on his computer. He'll complain about his life and say that he's sick of living in this filth of a house he stays at but, he won't make an effort to do anything. We have even talked about having a place together once I get out of college but, sometimes I feel like he's way too comfortable laying in bed in his mother's house and not doing anything. He won't even get up and wash his clothes sometimes. How can I get him to at least try to make the steps he needs to get to the future we planned? I really want us to work but, I can't keep dealing with his depression and his laziness.
My boyfriend is really lazy. What can I do?
my boyfriend is incredebly lazy. He has told me that he has been planning on going back to college for the past 2 years. He tells me he's going to do something one night and it's still not done 3 days later. He never pays his bills on time and its not even because he doesnt have the money.. he's just lazy and doesnt feel like doing them. because of that, he has really bad credit. i love him, but i am worried that if we do end up together, these bad habits will continue on in our marriage. I try talking to him about it but he just says, "ill take care of it... stop nagging me... etc etc". but we've been together for 2.5 years and nothing has changed. is this something that could make or break a relationship?
How do I motivate my lazy boyfriend to help me?
My solution for you is fairly easy for anyone to apply, but if you are the type who cannot support living in disorder and loves organized, clean-looking spaces, it will be a little bit of a tough pill to swallow.You know what you gotta do?Nothing!Just let the trash bags pile on, let the sink be filled to the borders with dirty plates and food remains, until it cannot hold anymore. Leave the bed sheets and blankets completely undone and crumbled-looking. Let the floor collect dust and...well, you get the idea.I guess any normal human being will be uncomfortable in this environment and they will probably start asking questions. When he asks why is the house disorderly, lately, it is your chance to strike with: "Help me or get used to it."He will go with "get used to it" if you cave in yourself, and start working around the house once he refuses.Stand your ground even if it means living in filth for a while. Eventually, he will have to help you.After you get past this situation, sit down with him and agree that the house chores have to be split in half. Determine who does what and consider your tasks a serious thing to be done, and a duty.Good luck.
Is my boyfriend lazy or do I expect too much?
You have been living as a married couple not engaged couple. You must realize that you are in a new stage of your relationship and it takes more work. Remember when you both started dating and the things you used to do. If sex was the only thing then you may be getting married for the wrong reason. Think about it. One thing to remember is that though you get married, the date nights do not stop. Make it a point to do something on a friday or saturday night. Go to dinner, a movie, take a picnic in the park, or something that you enjoy doing together. This is a way to build a better stronger communication in you life. As far as the desire for sex, it comes and goes. There are things that you can try and do to increase your sex drive. Foods, foreplay, etc. Keep life fun and exciting. If your life gets boring, your sex life gets boring. Good Luck
My boyfriend is lazy, unmotivated, and has no ambition. Should I end the relationship? He and I are on obviously different paths.
I'm curious about why you were attracted to him.Let me elaborate.The beginning of a relationship is forgotten. It is the meeting of two people for the purpose of learning, understanding, loving, sharing yourself and or complementing your weaknesses and strengths,like a backdrop or a perfect foil to enable your personality to unfold.Even if one doesn't know at the start, it will become fairly obvious the character of a person as you get involved.In other words, this is not a new discovery. And you have known this for sometime now.As this is becoming a focal point for you. The feeling that he and you are on different pages seems to be becoming very clear and unmistakable.You needed his easy going manner when you started but you don't need it any more? Was that the deal to start with?If you feel that you absolutely cannot go on with a person your polar opposite (specific at this point in time, everyone has their own drumbeat and it is not necessary that yours and his will match or be playing at the exact same time)Acquaint yourself with personality types everyone is different.Another very subtle dynamic playing here could be that he feels he's sitting in the shadow of your Ambition.Pride,ego and a sense of being lesser than his golden glorious girlfriend who's worked her butt off and is a high achiever.Incase, it is a matter of hurt pride (that's not gender specific btw a woman is as much disposed to jealousy of the man's capabilities and accomplishments) you can open this up in one of those deep conversations which couples usually shy away from. He might be here to learn your brilliant focus. But if you are too strident and set in your judgments then there's likelihood of resentment. (check the labeling)I'd say..Take a break.Let him realize, in the space of that break, that even though- it feels as if he is doing the accomplishing, (because of the enmeshment of the relationship, which almost always does have heavy projections at any point.)It is not him hustling and moving and making things happen. So bedazzled he might be of you, whether you flaunt it or not. That he forgot he's got his own dazzling to do. :)If that's a bingo for you… hey! <3