My best friend loves me. I don't love him. What should I do?
“Love and Friendship”, both the words have their own importance. Love gives us pain and frienship gives us peace. Love is unconditional but it's a need. Friendship is forever but it's a Joy. Love is eternal and friendship too. But in love you think about the other person and forget youself, but in frienship you love the other person not by forgetting youself. Frienship makes you stronger and loves makes you weaker(Exception are always there). There is a very thin line between love and friendship.Both the words are very powerful. If u say , “you love him as a friend” , that means you love yourself first and then your friend.If u say , “ you have fallen in love with him”, that means you love him first by forgetting yourself. He’s more important than your life.You got to understand this, “Everything that falls, get broken”. Without a heartbreak you can't say , that you have been in love ever.Now just take time, and think. Do you love him or not.??Is he your friend??OrIs he your lover??OrIs he your soulmate??As of now. By looking at your question. I think you are puzzled in your own thoughts.Solution to this is : Get distinct from your Bestfriend. Stop texting him for few days. You would get to know the real truth of yours. Just listen to your heart. Imagine that he is not your friend anymore. You would get to know , the feeling you are going through is love or it's just a friendship.If you are clear on this, that he is just your Bestfriend! Nothing more than that. Then why are you so much concerned about him.If you think , that he is your Bestfriend than just go to him and tell everything straight forward.Why are you hesitating ??If he is your Bestfriend , he would totally understand your situation. Because friendship is more important that love. If he is your true friend, he would choose friendship over love.Don't get conscious. Be brave enough to face it. Wether it's a breakup or rejection. (In terms of frienship).P.S - Friendship and love are like worshipping a god. Needs more devotion and patience. Don't destroy it. It takes million of days to build it and a second to destroy it.All the best.
I wrote my boyfriend a letter explaining how I'm feeling and now hes speaking to me. what to do?
I got half way through the first big paragraph before rolling my eyes and clicking 'answer' I wonder how far your boyfriend got... Two things would cross almost any guys mind after receiving a letter like that. 'Hmm I think I'd better distance myself from her asap' 'Hmm looks like she's desperate for me. I wonder how many dirty things I can do to her before I distance myself from her' Next time save your self respect and try not to tell him every tiny thing that goes through your mind.
Accidentally hurt a girl's feelings and don't know what to do?
She hurt, but its reasonable to think that she can forgive you. Honestly, the best results will come from saying exactly what u told us to her somehow. Get your friend to get her number and call her, because after she is cooled off from being offended, she is just hurt. A heartfelt apology including the details that you have in your question will probably restart your friendship, but if not, you need to move on. Dont beat yourself up over it. We have all made similar mistakes.
Should i tell his wife her husband is cheating?
I detest cheaters. I'd call her to let her know, but a letter is always an option. But the wife would want to know details of this other relationship in order to believe. The husband might make up a lie and try to convince her that it was YOU who wanted him. Tell her and good luck to you. Just be careful, some men can be dangerous.
How long should you ask forgiveness from someone you hurt? (this is kind of long... bear with me)?
To make a long story short, I was dating this guy for close to a year and a half, he broke up with me back in October, we tried to be friends subsequent to that, it was a bad idea, both of us were still hurting quite a bit, I did and said some mean things out of hurt feelings because he would ignore me and treat me badly, then he cut contact with me... he hasn't talked to me since December, but I don't know if I'm just obsessive or desperate, but I contact him off and on, writing letters periodically and mailing them to him imploring forgiveness, yet I do not talk about the relationship... I don't pressure him or tell him I love him or anything like that... I honestly believe that aspect of our relationship is over; I don't think we will ever get back together... but I guess I just want forgiveness, even though I can't force it... Should I simply move on? I tell myself that I don't deserve this even though I screwed up, everyone deserves to be forgiven, that if he wanted to forgive me he would have done so already... I try to move on but I always find myself feeling bad about the way that I acted, and that's what compels me... any advice? Anyone been in a similar position? How did it work out? Do you think he continues to not respond because he's simply not over it yet and doesn't want to talk to me out of fear of re-opening old wounds, or he doesn't respond because he's simply over it altogether? He did mention right before he stopped talking to me that he was going to need a lot of time... maybe that's my answer right there, but I guess I don't know how to silence my conscience. Please, if you are going to respond... give me some constructive feedback... I've heard the "exes are exes for a reason" tidbit an innumerable amount of times, I've heard people just say "he's just not that into you" or whatever (and you may be right)... but I'm mainly looking for experiences where people have been through something similar. Your responses are greatly appreciated... thanks.
How can I console my best friend who has lost his mother, father and only sibling brother in the last 12 months?
Words are a powerful thing, both written and spoken, across the miles, they may be all that you can offer.None of us, whatever loss we have endured, can truly know how your friend feels. His loss is profound, it is overwhelming and it is 'his'.Loss is a deeply personal thing. Your friend has lost elements of his past and present in the loss of his parents. He has lost both of those, and elements of his future in the loss of his brother. They would have been old men together. How can anyone find the words to sympathise with that?You can't. No-one can.But you offer your words. You let him know that you are thinking about him:'I can't begin to understand how you feel, there are no words which I can say that will soothe your pain. But I wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you, that I am here for you.'If you offer your hand of friendship, if you offer him your support, you need to be sure that you are able to do it.A friend, 'Lucy' lost her brother a few years ago. I pondered long and hard about whether or, in fact, what to write.I included the words of Henry Scott Holland:Death is nothing at allDeath is nothing at all,I have only slipped awayinto the next room.I am I, and you are you;whatever we were to each other, that, we still are.Call me by my old familiar name,speak to me in the easy waywhich you always used,put no difference in your tone,wear no forced airof solemnity or sorrow.Laugh as we always laughedat the little jokes we shared together.Let my name ever bethe household word that it always was.Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of a shadow on it.Life means allthat it ever meant.It is the same as it ever was.There is unbroken continuity.Why should I be out of mindbecause I am out of sight?I am waiting for you,for an interval, somewhere very near,just around the corner.All is well.Henry Scott Holland1847 -1918She told me a while later that she had carried my letter with her for a long time.Your words will be different, there is no template for grief or sympathy. Merely finding some words which show that you know how massive this is in his life is important.Be his friend, be a true friend, that is all that you can do. And that is huge.