My coach has a crush on me...?
I'm on an academic team for school and I'm pretty sure the assistant coach has a crush on me. He's always looking over at me and staring at me and stuff. And sometimes during practice when he plays on my team he keeps giving me more clues than everyone else. One practice he was majorly flirting with me and everyone else was laughing (so its not just me that is noticing). Fortunately the main coach doesn't get it and all of this is going over his head. I never see the assistant coach when it it just us so i can't talk to him about it, and I really don't want to, because he isn't actually trying anything. Just what can i do to make the practices less awkward?
Academic Crush- What to do?
Last June I attended a conference and after presenting my paper was asked a question by a cute guy, who I later caught looking my way multiple times at the conference dinner. I didn't think much of it at the time, but in January I attended another conference and saw him present his research, and found him very attractive (slightly nervous in a cute way, intelligent, my perfect guy lookswise). I was too nervous to speak to him at the conference which was only 2 days long but emailed him after the conference to say I'd enjoyed his talk. After one or two emails back and forth he added me on Facebook (normal for our small, friendly field, although I noticed when he added me that he only had 3 or 4 other academic friends). So my problem, you see, is that I have a bit of a crush on what seems to be my perfect guy (looks-wise, personality wise, and a fellow academic to boot which means he appreciates the demands of the job (moving around, travelling abroad to conferences, working long hours). However since I wont likely see him for another year (and even then only if we happen to attend the same conference, and it would be a professional setting & only 2-3 days long) I don't really know what I can do about it. I did initiate a conversation (on Facebook chat) about 3 months and we had a brief, friendly chat, but since I've never spoken to him in 'real life' initiating any further conversation seems a bit stalkerish. He comments on my Facebook photos/statuses and in our earlier email conversation asked what other conferences I was going to (we were going to none the same), but I don't want to read too much into this. He just seems like such a lovely guy and I feel always wonder what might have been. Any advice appreciated! P.S I'm quite shy and socially awkward (and I have a feeling he may be too), and not particularly attractive, I'm 24 he's 30ish, we live in same country but different parts significant distances away, although I think he may soon be moving to University in another country (not too far away though)
I have a crush on 4 different guys, all with a high academic profile and really smart, whilst having a boyfriend for 3 years. Do I have to break up?
These aren’t really crushes, are they? They are men you find more attractive than your boyfriend and that’s what you really need to admit to yourself.If you no longer feel for your boyfriend or don’t want to be with him them just be honest.Don’t try and fabricate another relationship as an excuse for leaving him.You won’t be a bad person for leaving him, you know, just an honest one.It would be far better to admit now that you’ve had enough and you want to explore other relationships.As a caveat though, if your only reason for wanting to break up with him is BECAUSE he has a ‘lesser’ academic profile than these other men, rather than trophy hunting why don’t you support your current boyfriend and see if you can help him to raise his academic profile.Or better still, how about developing one of your own?
My parents, family friends, and crush are unaware of my academic failures. Should I reveal my failures to her, considering that she knows I have a crush on her?
First thing in the morning you should declare not only to her but to all to whom you are really concerned about. Not disclosing our failure puts lot of pressure on us at subconscious level. In addition to that you have to always on your toes and had to take ultimate care to manage your secret. This consumes maximum energy of ours. Once you admit your failure at least you will be free from this torturous worry. Then you will breathe freely and will have energy to fight with your so called failuers and will get chance to overcome it. Remember there is no substitute to the truth. Sooner you accept your failure and make it known to your dear one's you will get chance to amend it, surprisingly you will find most of your dear one's will be aware about this, Otherwise you will keep on spending your energy to hide Fact. Take immediatction and be out of it. All the best.
What is your high school crush doing now as an adult?
I used to like him at that time because he looked like a certain celebrity (Abhijeet Sawant- The first Indian Idol Winner)I know I was stupid. Moving on…He somehow got to know that I liked him and spread a rumour in my school that I have told him I loved him.These are his messages to me on Facebook over the last few yearsI never replied.*Translations*Dec’2015Hey why are you showing so much attitude?Feb'2016Please accept my friend request. I want to talk to you.Heres my Whatsapp number xxxxxxxxxxx please send a message.January'2017Hi You are looking goodJune'2017HieAtleast replyHow are you?I was thinking of you..I am sorry dear, please speak to me, please please pleaseDid you get married? I am sorry I am asking a personal question but??I was missing school and hence thought of youI havent forgotten you yet, please please replyHi gm (ie good morning)Please reply.(then he sent some random forwarded message that preaches what to do if one is to maintain a relation)I blocked him then.After High school, I moved to a metro city for my further education. Then moved to another metro city for a job in a Multi National Company.And he is spamming my facebook expecting a reply after 11 years of spreading rumours about a girl who he claimed “loved him”Yes, I blocked him in 2018Yes, I took my own sweet time.Yes, I am that petty.And No, I have no regrets.
How did your crush affect your grades?
This is about my friend. A goldmedalist…During my school days I have seen many ruining their grades due to their crush/relationship. May be due to this I never dared to think about all these.After I got into medical college I met this girl. She is not among the most brilliant students of our class but she is hardworking and passionate. By the end of first year we became best friends and one day she revealed me about her long time crush. She likes him from her school days. She is totally mad about him but afraid to confess about her feelings. A single like from him on her photo makes her go crazy.“Does he distract you? ” I asked.“I wouldnot have cleared PMT and wouldnot have been here if he distracts me. Instead he is a source of inspiration to me. The day I realised I like him was the best day of my life. ” she said.Now we are in second professional year of MBBS and She bagged a gold medal in the very first year.Thats how crushes affect grades…Going anonymous because my friend and probably her crush too are on Quora.Pardon for the grammatical errors.Thankyou for reading.
What should I do with my Sagittarius crush?
What should I do? I think I've fallen for my sag girl. It started as a crush. She's my classmate last sem and known her since January. I rarely talked to her at classes. But when I saw the opp., I seized it messaging her on fb re:common interests and really started talking and hang out for real by late May(as the sem was ending). We even made time to meet twice during summer class even tho she was not really enrolled and it was just me who was. Fast forward to now, one month in the first semester I got to meet her last friday and the usual friendly lunchdate. Btw, Everytime we meet we just do platonic stuffs like trade series and anime. It's really cool to be with her and I feel like we're at a right pace in our friendship. Deep down, I wanna be more than friends, court her properly and hopefully end up in a long term relationship with her. The problem is that, I won't be seeing her as often as usual. I'm currently not enrolled due to academic reasons but on the process of enrolling next sem. I want to take it slowly but don't know where to start or if the start that I/we did is right. I think(or at least I want to think) that she's also interested, otherwise she won't even bother going out of her way to meet me on sev.occasions(not sure here tho. Sag women can affirm this.) . Some Details about me: 23y/o Sun: Leo Moon: Aries About her: Turning 19 on dec.2 . P.s. I want to build a solid friendship as foundation first but lately I think she's been quite distant. I miss her.
How to keep teenage infatuation from interfering with academic focus?
So...I have recently developed intense feelings for this guy in my class. He's cute, funny, and swag (as they call it these days). He's athletic and intelligent, and a genuinely kind individual, who is also very popular. He is involved in student government, plays almost every sport offered, and is a part of the band and choir. He is well-rounded and so talented, and yet, he exhibits such a humble, down-to-earth attitude and treats others with respect. The bad thing? He's taken!!!! I don't have any intention of trying to gain his affections or getting him and his girlfriend to separate. I just want to be able to go about my business! I am shy, and have a lot of difficulty with opening up to other people. I'm very concerned with upholding my reputation but feel physically bound to my quiet, wimpish demeanor, and tend to hide behind the books most of the time, avoiding any social activities at school if I am able. Being social is very hard for me, especially as I have just entered this new school during my junior year, while everyone else already has their social circles established. Crushes tend to hit me harder than they hit a lot of people, because I can't befriend the crush very well and usually just admire from afar. Except I can't in this circumstance, because he's in all my classes, and can't exactly avoid crossing paths with him. Anyway. I'm already very tense in the classroom to begin with, but with this newfound crush, I can't concentrate and find myself thinking obsessively about him when I should be working on my homework. I can't function with this crush! I trip over myself because of all of that added pressure in the back of my mind that makes me want to display a positive image...looking smart and capable in front of him! This crush makes me look weaker and even more scatterbrained than normal! Is it possible to use this silly, impractical crush as motivation to excel in my academics? While I know it will be difficult to get rid it completely...I'm just determined to keep it from getting in the way of my studies. It's inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, AND, it's affecting me way more than a silly little teenage infatuation should. How do you suggest I deal with this situation?