How do i deal with my grandma dying of cancer?
My grandma was such a happy person. Just to give you guys a quick image of her, she was very skinny and had normal "grandma" hair. She also had more gold of a hair color, not grey she was in her early 70's. 3 months ago she was diagnoses with a brain tumor and lung cancer. they got the tumor out and she was receiving treatment for her cancer. She was actually almost done with it and was doing very good, when she got pneumonia from being out so much. It got bad and she was in the ICU, but she began to get better. Then her body began to get "tired" and she was shutting down. By this point they was not even conscious, just laying there on the hospital bed. I remember going to see her. You almost couldn't recognize her. She was so skinny and bald and bad-looking. It never truly hit me until now. So she was becoming very bad, and her body was tiring. The doctors said she had at most 3 days left. I had school, went to my baseball, game, and then immediately i asked my mom how she was. her answer was that she's dead. I just can't seem to get over it. The whole thing is just starting to hit me. This all happened today. Now every time i think about the image of her on that hospital bed, and the image of her when she was just fine i bust out in tears. How am i going to make it through school? i know it's going to go through my mind. It would be so embarrassing to cry during class, especially since im looked at as one of the more "manly" people in my grade... how can i deal with this? P.S. - Don't say anything about my punctuation errors, i could care less about proper grammar right now
Still grieving of the loss of my grandma?
A little over a year ago, my grandma died. We were very close. She raised me, took care of me, me and my mom lived with her and she was always there for me and we did everything together. On April 13th of last year, she went in for heart surgery. That was the last time I saw her. She was on her way to recovery after surgery but everything in her body just started to fail out of no where. It was a shock to me. I didn't show any emotion til a month after she had passed and now I cry almost everyday because I miss her so. I was goofing off in the hospital right before she went in (the day before surgery) and I was trying to keep a positive attitude. Being my normally giggly self lol, and right before I left the last thing she said to me was, "I love you, even though you do giggle all the time" and laughed and smiled, and we said our goodbyes. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to go thru. I've never had a loved one pass away before. Besides my grandpa, but I was only a baby when he died. I just want to know is this is normal to still be grieving and crying sometimes even if she's been gone a year (May 9th 2010 is when she passed) I just feel lonely now. My mom works everyday and I am homeschooled so now I am always home alone. I feel depressed because my grandma was always here and her and I would go and do things together after I finished doing my schoolwork. I just wish she would come back :( How can I deal with this? It's getting harder everyday and it's almost eating me up inside. I miss her so much ;'( Pls help.
Advice on losing my Grandmother?
I know exactly how you feel because about 2 years ago my grandma died from Alzheimer's and it was very hard for my mom and me. I never got the chance to say goodbye and when my grandfather passed about 5 months after I was devastated and felt like nothing would ever get better. It is definitely tough, especially when many things remind you of them, and I know they are definitely waiting for me when I get to heaven but that doesn't help how we feel now. I know that you don't want to break down in front of your grandfather, but after a while, I think if you do, he won't mind. Sometimes it's better to have people around that are going through it too, to get through it. Just know that someday you'll see them again in heaven and remember all the great memories you had together. It's better having all those memories, than not havin any, and that everything will get better in time. :) I always felt really awkward when my grandma and grandpa were close to passing, and I didn't want to be around them, and then ended up missing my chance to say goodbye, so cherish all the time you have with your grandpa and know that they will forever be in your heart. I'm sincerely sorry about your grandmother too. Having God with me, helped ease the pain and knowing that eventually it would be better got me through it and I know that someday it won't hurt so much. Hope I helped. Sorry if I rambled. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. :)
My Grandma is dying and I need advice on how to deal with it?
my grandmother had cancer also, and she passed away, a year exactly later my grandfather passed away from grieving. it was a very sad time for me, i was very close to them, i started changing bad, i soon realized that its better to spend what time you can with them, then to have not at all. at my grandmothers funeral my aunt whoms husband restricted her from seeing my grandmother , was very upset, along with my cousins who never spent as much time as me and my sister had with her, just try to spend as much time as you can with her, you never know, she might come through this, but even if she doesnt ,afterwards you will be glad you spent time with her, and that shes in a better place if you believe in heaven? and if you dont just think of the memories. i dont know? i hope this helped.
How to deal with death of grandma?
First off, I am very sorry for you loss. Secondly, there are many ways to deal with death. Is it easy, no. Is there one answer that will cure you, no. It is important to keep the memory alive, remember the good times, talk of her often to anyone who will listen, & talk to her, whatever you believe... it has to be that she is there...here.. .somewhere that she can now and will always hear you. My mom has recently passed of cancer, we too sat in shifts, as she preferred hospice care, we sat and sat and sat... and I was there when she left her body and I stopped breathing, but I was told long before by her, that our body is merely a vehicle and it will wear out LONG BEFORE OUR SPIRIT AND SOUL does... Love her, your grandmother forever.... cry whenever you feel the urge, keep photos up, and keep something of hers, it helps to not only surround yourself by loved ones, but by things that they loved and will have her energy. For the future, appreciate more time with family, because although there are friends.. .even best friends...that seem to feel like they will be there forever...they are not family.... Family is truly forever...and she will forever be your grandmother whether she is on this plain or another....Breathe, dream...meditate...and talk to her..... remember, she is no longer sick....she has no body weighing her down.....she is FREE.....and will now live forever in your memory! Shanti.
How to deal with my Grandma's death?
i know exactly how you feel hun. i was in your position just a little over a year ago (my grandma died October 8th at 12:30 am). it was the worst feeling in the world and was so unbelievably painful, one of the if not the hardest thing i have ever had to deal with in my life. i was closer to her then both of my parents combined. when she died i almost refused to believe it. i didn't really believe it until i saw her in her casket at her funeral. what i did in the beginning was not talk about it to anyone at all, i didn't want to. and just like you i am not a very emotional person. but that was a pretty bad mistake. i would blow up at people for no reason. i got into this HUGE fight with my parents about three months after her passing. so then that made them make me go to a therapist. right now i absolutely hate it but i know in the end it will help and make a difference. so talking about it will help. something else that might help is when you are at the funeral and people talk about the person you should do that. talk to witch ever one of your family members are in charge of that and tell them you want to talk about her life. it was unbelievably hard for me too do. i was really close to crying while i was up there. but i had my little sister out there sheering me up well i was talking. but even if you do cry it is not a big deal at all, you were close to her. no one will think anything bad of it. something else that might help you is writing in a journal of all the fun things that you did in life and all the good things you did with her while she was alive. keep all the good memories alive. sometimes even just a good cry by yourself can help. there is nothing you can do to make the pain go away or make it less other then time. it will take time and it will start to get better. i am really sorry for your lose. if you ever want to talk to me just email me through yahoo!answers. i am here to talk anytime. EDIT: also tomorrow i would say you shouldn't go to school in the begging, get a good nights rest then decide if you want to go to school. but being surrounded by friends will help some.
How to deal with my grandmas death?
you're dealing with the tiers of grief, that is organic once you lose a loved one. you're able to be sturdy because your grandma in all likelihood would not favor you to be so unhappy. talking about her may help. For the present, it will be extra effective to flow a quite some way so that you do not bypass the nursing domicile. imagine about what your grandma may favor you to do? may she favor you to be so unhappy? How regularly do you visit her grave? Is it extra regularly than she may favor? it may furnish you with convenience to imagine that your grandma is now gazing over you. Then, when you're unable to flow on and are nonetheless so mired in grief you may favor to judge grief counseling. couldn't damage. Sorry on your loss. Your grandma replaced into very fortunate to have this variety of loving granddaughter.
I think my grandma is dying. How do I deal with this?
Hi there.Firstly, I am sorry for your impending loss.Second, I lost both my grandad and grandma in the space of a year about 5 years ago. This also happened to be during one of the most difficult times of my life without that, so whilst the advice I can give is based on my perspective, you will know that I do know what I'm talking about.My grandad had been seriously ill and had severe dementia for some time, it was frankly heartbreaking when I realised how bad (I went to visit, and he actually tried to attack me, bear in mind they pretty much raised me). So when he passed, I just kept thinking at least his suffering is over. It was hard to see such a good man fall so far and a small mercy to see it end.My nan basically died from grief. Sure there was a medical reason, but it was no coincidence. Again, she's in a better place and no longer alone.I will also pre warn you this. If you decide to go see them at the funeral home, be ready. I've seen quite a few bodies through my life and always been OK, but when I walked in on my grandads my legs literally turned to jelly and I was not OK. At all. But I don't regret doing it, as I had things to say.What I'm trying to tell you is this, it will get easier, but you never truly get over a loss. There are times I see their portrait at my parents and I'm perfectly fine, other times I need a second. I both accept everyone has a time but I miss them too.The way to cope for me is to honour their memory, take anything they taught you that's good and apply it, make them remembered through your actions and how you speak of them when you do.Not to be cheesy or claim I believe in ghosts because it isn't that, but I feel they are always with me, even if it's just good memories of two awesome people I had the good fortune to call my grandparents.I wish you and your family all the best at this difficult time and remember its OK to cry and morn people, just don't let it become the be all when you think of them.
How to deal with my grandmother's death?
You have to let yourself grieve. And sometimes that means you will cry whenever you think of her. My mother died 2 years ago and I still cry. We were best friends and did a lot of things together. I miss her a lot. I have tears in my eyes right now thinking about her. So, let yourself grieve! It takes time, some people it takes more time then others. She knows you loved her and you will always be with her and her with you. Just keep the good memories of her close to your heart. Some day you will be together again. Hopefully a long time from now! Good luck and God bless you!
How should I deal with the death of my grandmother?
Understanding this scientific, widely accepted, rational concept, may be of some help : Eternalism (Wikipedia)Otherwise known as :《 Spacetime 》in physicsAlbert Einstein :This refers to Eternalism , which states that past, present, and future, are equally real, now. Einstein wrote that to the wife of his dear friend of more than 50 years when this one diedThis view is equivalent to the 《Block Universe》 view in physics, or simply 《Spacetime》 :It is extremely well supported by experiments and became the standard view in science since EinsteinWhen we die, are we gone? ( physicist Brian Greene, 1min youtube video )( See also : Tom Slijkerman's answer to Is there life after death? )《Eternal Now 》in spiritualityYoutbe video : “ All times take place now ”Even basic intuition can lead to Eternalism, for example : an instant is durationless, and 0s+0s+0s = 0s , so what seems to be a lot of different instants is in fact the one same instant. There is only one “date”, and it is now. So this now is eternal. [ 《eternity》 (outside of time), has nothing to do with 《sempiternity》(infinite in time) ]In spirituality it’s called the Eternal Now, in physics it’s called Spacetime, in philosophy it’s Eternalism