Going to my first concert and i'm scared?
OK, some tips for a first-time concert goer: 1) Wear earplugs. You can get inexpensive ones at the store for a few dollars. You'll still be able to hear everything, just at a tolerable level. 2) Only drink from a drinking fountain. You are correct to be concerned about someone spiking your drink. Also, when you first get in to the place, ask one of the ushers or security people to point out a drinking fountain, so you will know where they put them (if one of them is 20 yards to the left of the hot dog stand, they will all probably be 20 yards to the left of the hot dog stand, etc.) 3) Go with someone to where the concert will be, at least a few days before the show. Don't try to go in or anything, just drive around, so that you will know in advance what the place is like, and won't get lost easily. Because on the night of the concert, your brain might be in sensory overload. Also try to find a good place to get food that will be open after the show. But a place a few miles away, as the ones nearby will be *crowded*. 4) Assuming that you are female, then wear pants, not a skirt or dress. Not just pants, but pants that can get dirty. Just in case you bump into someone clumsy or stupid. 5) Also assuming that you are female, then don't bring a purse or bag. Many places don't allow them, and for those that do, concerts are a target-rich environment for purse snatchers and thieves. So just use a small, thin wallet. And keep in in your FRONT POCKET. I cannot stress that enough. You will be in a crowd of people all night, and 99% of people who have their wallet stolen kept it in a loose back pocket. I went to a concert once with a friend, we were within talking distance pretty much the whole evening, and somewhere in there he had his wallet lifted. I still have no idea how they did it, but I had to buy gas on the way home with all of my cash. Take these precautions, and you should have a great time. I hope you do.
What are some good melodic death metal bands?
Melodic Death Metal is a pretty expansive genre. Most of the bands who perform in it have some external influence from another genre. I'll list the biggest bands I know off the top of my head, and I'll also put down their influence(s):In Flames (Alt Metal) Pioneers of the Genre, not so much Melodeath in their more recent stuff.Dark Tranquillity (Gothic/Prog Metal) Also Pioneers of the genre. one of the longest standing bands there is. Still writing good quality MelodeathAt The Gates (Straight up death metal) Also Pioneers of the genre, took a twenty year hiatus, then made a comeback on their latest album, At War With Reality.Arch Enemy (Thrash Metal) Long standing band, known for their female vocalists.Children of Bodom (Power Metal, Black Metal) Helped push Power Metal into the extreme metal region, one of the most popular bands out there.Be'Lakor: Straight up Melodeath, one of the most recent, and best bands out there. Great Australian sounds, with amazing vocalsAmon Amarth: Powerful band from Sweden known for their awesome melodies, and gut churning vocals, and Norse Mythology themed songs (Not that crap from Marvel, the real deal)Carcass (Grindcore/Goregrind) One of the pioneers of the genre, sat on the fence between Melodeath, and Grindcore. Recently made a comeback album Surgical Steel.Kalmah: Popular Finnish act very similar to Children of Bodom or Norther.Wintersun (Folk/Symphonic Metal): A quite recent, but upbeat and interesting group mixing Symphonic metal, folk metal, and Melodeath.Insomnium (Doom Metal): A Melodeath Act with very dark, powerful songs.Deadlock (Metalcore): A German band combining Groove/Metalcore influences with soaring female cleans and smooth electronic work. Rolling Thunder (Gotta push our stuff) (Symphonic, Grindcore, Alt Metal): My band, a relatively new, unheard of group from Australia with a thing for experimentation. We use as many as four vocalists, including the most terrifying Growls I've ever heard (And I've heard a lot). Also, I do the cleans for them. Hope this helps! :)
How did I become such a nihilistic sociopath...? (messed up person)?
Dude I know you probably don't expect this, but I am a girl and I actually know how you feel somewhat to a much smaller degree. But I have also given up in humanity, also love black metal, also don't understand why I can't find guys, and also have only had terrible encounters with friends and lovers. My friends are mainly retards, it's very sad. I've been treated so rudely since I was little and bullied for stupid reasons like my puffy hair relentlessly. All you need to know is that it doesn't seem like there is much hope or many people like us, but there are more than you think. I've also felt like a reject from society but I know a few people like me and maybe you'll feel different once you begin to encounter some people who don't fit in the norm. I would recommend going to a metal concert because many people there would give you a nice surprise. Also, try living somewhere else whenever possible because America is a terribly shallow country influenced by the media and religion insanely. I'm from Canada which slightly better, but I don't even think it's good enough. Although we do have quite a big metal and rock influence in our media's music. Whatever, that's not what this is about. I think that people like us also tend to overexaggerate the badness of the things that happen to us slightly more than we should. If you look at it, it is possible to find something positive. At least one thing. It's hard for people like us, but I strongly respect someone who isn't afraid to stand out and not be a follower. Don't change yourself for anybody. You may create something great one day. Just don't let your anger consume you to the point of depression or complete hatred in humanity. There are many nihilists, but we need to make sure that our negative emotions don't get too out of hand. Trust me, you just haven't met the right people yet. It's depressing, yes, but they do exist. Good luck.
Which metal bands have the most violent mosh pits?
I've only ever been to two concerts, and one of them was a rock band called the Blackout. I don't really like them that much but I went along with friends. I didn't expect there to be a mosh pit there but it was and it was surprisingly violent. Tolerable, but violent. I got swept into it and lost my friends but decided that I liked moshing. I would like to do some more. So, I'm just wondering which metal bands have the most violent mosh pits? In your experience or what you've heard or witnessed. Just because I'm am a 5'1'' female who weighs 105lb and I don't want my gravestone to read, "Died after being trampled on in a mosh pit." :D If it helps, bands that I like are Iron Maiden, Sepultura, Blue Oyster Cult, Pantera, old Metallica, Slayer, Skid Row, Judas Priest, Megadeth, Black Sabbath, aaaaand that's all I can think of from the top of my head.
I can't take being single anymore!!!! Advice?
I've read your post with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. It's a lot more refreshing that the 'I like him, what do I do?' questions that we normally see at the Q&A.II offer the following analysis of your predicament. You seem confident enough. You know you're attractive, intelligent, and funny. Those attributes are plenty to attract an average Joe, but you need to be something 'Greater Than' to attract someone who is willing to engage in a meaningful relationship. 'Meaningful' being the operative word. If you're just looking for a temporary sexual fling, by all means... well, I won't get into that, as you seem (hopefully) to be a more respectable individual. The best relationships (in my experience) flourish from long-standing friendships. If you have a friend you are interested in, let him know. You don't necessarily have to tell him directly, but let him know through increased physical contact, words of affirmation, quality time, and random gifts. If you don't have a friend you are interested in, well then, you can't rush things. If you do, you'll end up making the same mistake so many young girls do; you'll date guys who really don't care about you as an individual, only what you hold between your legs. You'll be nothing but a trophy. I hate to sound so derogatory, but I've seen it happen to many respectable young women. Then, when they are young single mothers, they have an even harder time finding a mate. Good luck. If you just open up a bit, let people know who you are, I'm sure you'll have a vast pool of potential suitors. Be sure to pick one that will devote themselves to your happiness, and not his own.