Am I A Deadbeat Loser?
Turn 22 in September Never had a gf Never kissed a girl Still a virgin Don't have a job Live with my parents No friends Not motivated to do anything Chubby Stupid Very shy and uncomfortable around people The only thing I care about are video games Anger issues Not good at anything (no joke) Dental problems I am a good Christian Never done drugs Never gotten drunk I listed a few positives there (key word, few). I'd like to save myself for marriage but only if someone else is willing to (which is impossible). I am depressed, but at the same time I just don't give a damn because i know nothing or no one can help me so I just accept it. So just let me know if I am a deadbeat loser so I can accept that as well and move on....
I only attract losers and deadbeats.?
I am 28 and watch my mates one by one get married to genuine fellas.I am attractive a model, and my personality is good, but i meet a string of losers, mummys boys, playboys, married men or just those that are emotionally unavailable.why?
Is this person a deadbeat loser ? what do you think ?
ok, this guy has a job that pays $ 95,000 a year (thats 95 thousand for those of you that are mathematically inept lol kidding) he got into debt, of $ 60,000 (60 thousand) one of the items he purchased which caused him so much debt, was a car that cost $25,000 now he already has a job paying $95,000, but instead of paying back his debts, he went and declared bankruptcy. he didnt even attempt to sell his huge family sized car, for at least $20,000 (still in great condition with low mileage) and put that money towards his debt. he doesnt even have a family and could have gotten a smaller car just for himself. is that greed ? ok, is this guy a deadbeat loser ? what do you think ? is he a deadbeat loser that took the easy coward way out ?
Is my husband a deadbeat loser?
Hi Doll, tell him he has a choice, start working or divorce. and if he does start working i highly suggest some marriage counseling to help you reconcile with him. you have a lot of unresolved anger that is pent up inside of you and his getting a job won't necessarily make you just up and love and respect him. put your foot down. go out for a drive to have the talk, sit in a remote place so you two can scream if need be, but he needs to pee or get off the pot. tell him, as kindly as you can muster, that you are losing/lost respect for him, and are working at two jobs while he just sits around. he probably doesn't even do any housework or cooking either. he needs to start pulling his weight or you need to get rid of the dead weight. you can't afford to feed and clothe and house two extra people while you are neglecting your own kids because of your jobs, and then the jobs of taking care of the household. this is not the example you want your children to learn, is it? so, give him the ultimatum. you might want to go ahead and draw up the divorce papers for him to sign when he argues about getting a job... hand him the pen and say 'sign'. you deserve so much better. at this point it doesn't really matter whether or not he has feelings of love for you, you seem to have lost yours for him. he has no respect or consideration for you, so what is love without that? Best Wishes
Am I a deadbeat dad in your opinion?
I hear this term thrown about a lot and I just wanted to know if I am considered to be a deadbeat dad or not? My ex-wife and I divorced in 2008. We have one daughter together - she was six when we got divorced and is nine now. I pay $640 a month for child support and have never missed a payment. I send my daughter gifts frequently for holidays and other events. The gifts are usually worth about a $100 and I send stuff to her about four times a year. I also have paid for summer camps and sports fees (beyond the child support). I left our home state (Massachusetts) for a new job in Arizona almost immediately after the divorce. I have seen my daughter only once in person (August 2010) since the divorce. I call her at least once a month (and usually closer to twice a month). We have talked via facetime/skype a few times as well (usually on her birthday or christmas). I mentioned something to an acquaintance about my situation with my daughter and she voiced a lot of disappointment and seemed to think I am a deadbeat. I technically have every other weekend visitation but it would be so difficult to actually use because of the distance. My ex has said that this situation right now is best for everyone involved and I don't want to cause trouble. It does trouble me a little because my daughter is clearly forgetting me. The last time I visited my ex seemed to think it was a huge inconvenience and I didn't want to screw up their routine. I have tried to talk to my ex about having my daughter visit me over the summer but she is being difficult so it doesn't look like its going to happen. Would you consider me to be a deadbeat dad?
Am i a deadbeat dad now?
It wont matter to your child if you are not a policeman. your child will look up 2 you even if your cleaning the streets as a job. You being there for him will be enough. dont forget your childs love is for life.
Am I a loser?
Your attitude is hurting you.Look at your situation from a different perspective:First off, you have very little in life to lose, right? That's good.And you have no major expenses it appears? That's good as well.I'm not sure how old you are, but at the moment you are living the life of a young person.Young people have time on their hands, a great deal of energy, but very little experience, notoriety, and especially low funds.However, we hear all too often about hot shot entrepreneurs and students dropping out of college. These people have nothing, but they create something. They build, develop, theorize, something from nothing.And that's similar to your situation.I'm not suggesting that you try to start a business, but rather that you understand that you can still make something of your life.You have no obligations, or expenses. Don't let the fact that you don't have a car or a house hold you back.Start making something of yourself, because at this point you can only move forward.Have some confidence in yourself and your abilities. Take advantages of your strengths, and learn how to master them.Find out your passions in life and what you truly want to be.Chase a dream by being proactive and giving yourself the opportunity to make it a reality.Good luck my friend.
Are stay-at-home dads losers?
No, by all means no. There is such a thing as role reversal. I see it all the time in the military. Many times a dual-military couple will have children and the husband gets out while the wife stays in the military. Why would it be wrong for dads to care for children in the home? It isn't wrong for moms to work. Don't discount that many couples find that this is the most effective way to manage their families. Update yourself to the present and stop living in the past!
Are you a deadbeat dad(Multi question)?
Excellent question. Legally, nobody can be compelled to spend time with anyone else. How do deadbeats sleep at night? Generally, by persuading themselves that in fact, THEY are the victims, and their ex, or their children, or the courts, or the world, are mistreating them. Why do kids feel compelled to chase the deadbeat and build a relationship? Hope springs eternal in the human heart. And after 15 or 20 years of no contact, Deadbeat Disney Dad, who never had to change a diaper or enforce a curfew or do any of the heavy lifting of parenthood probably looks pretty good by comparison. Single Mom was the cranky, overwhelmed grump, and poor picked-on Dad is the world's most persuasive victim. "I would've sent you money and gifts, but your mother wouldn't let me." If your kid grows up to be ungrateful and disloyal...well, you picked a bad person to provide half your kid's genetic pool. Shrug your shoulders and find a hobby that doesn't involve trying to make bratty children happy. (And to previous respondent: Big thumbs up for saving your child from death and abandonment. You're in the minority. You don't hear about deadbeat moms because statistically, they're practically non-existent. I'm quite fond of men -- in fact, I like most of them better than I like women -- but there is a sizeable group of men who really ought to just go find an iceberg to live on and stop spewing babies they have no intention of raising.)