My parents want to adopt but I don't want them to?
My parents, 47 and 55, want to adopt an infant/young child. I'm concerned that they want to do this for a selfish reason. We have 3 rooms at our house. One for me(I'm 14), one for my sister(She's 21, in the military and hasn't gone to college. She's planning on staying at our house and going to a community college so she can stay close by), and one for my parents. There isn't any more room at my house for another person. I'm sorry, but there honestly isn't. One of my parents make $13,000 a year and we sometimes have to live from paycheck to paycheck, so what makes them think that we can possibly afford home studies, toys, clothing, new furniture,adopting, etc while sending my sister $500 worth of snacks every 2 months? My other parent makes about that much if not less. Both my parents have health issues; my mom has mitral valve prolapse, OCD, depression, and is at risk for diabetes. My dad has diabetes. My dad works 12 hours a day 4 days a week. If we DID adopt, he wouldn't be around much to help take care of it. By the time I'm going to school, he's going to bed. By the time I get home from school, he's up and getting ready for work. My dad only gets certain vacation times throughout the year. My mom works at a school and has a limited amount of days she can take off. I know they'd expect me to help take care of it because they would be my brother/sister but that's not going to happen. It's not my responsibility. Here's the reasons I think they want to adopt. Reason 1:Empty nest syndrome. I'm going to be leaving the house soon. They want to prevent from having no "kids". Reason 2:My mom has even told me that she feels unloved sometimes because her babies are growing up. Reason 3:They think they'll be Good Samaritans if they help out a child in need. Reason 4:People they know are doing it/have done it. I'm not the only one being selfish. They haven't told my sister, family members/friends. They act like my feelings don't matter and aren't considerate of anyone else.
I look nothing like my parents. Could I be adopted?
Lots of people don't look much like their parents. It could be that they are showing a dominant gene and giving you recessive ones.. Look around your extended family and see if you look like any of them. If not you could always ask to see the video of you and your mother in the hospital days after you were born or during her pregnancy.
My mom put me up for adoption when i was born... i have parents now that adopted me... but my mom want me back
i have a really nice family now!!! but i lllloooovvvveeee my mom to death!!! ive been seeing my mom for 4 hours on the weekends for my life since i was 3!!! shes a really cool mom but i love my foster mom and dad!!! in my adoption papers it says that it was an open adoption...meaning if my mom want me back all she has to do is go to court sign some papers and pick me up...but it also states that i have a choice to stay with my adoptive parents or go with my biological mother(my real mom)... my mom went to court last tuesday and signed the papers... i dont know if i should go with her and move to kentucky with her away from all of my friends and graduate with a different class... or should i stay in new york and stay at my school and graduate with my friends??? i dont know what to do i lllooovvveee my new family and my mom...
How can I find my birth parents, as I'm adopted and my parents will not tell me?
If it was a closed adoption, your parents may not know. It is entirely possible a social worker handed them a baby and said, “Congratulations, you're parents now.” In many adoptions these days the birth mother may meet the prospective adoptive parents before deciding which family to choose, but last names are not always revealed.When you're 18, you're a legal adult and you can get some information without needing permission from your parents. In fact, if you're 18 they wouldn't even have to know, if you didn't want them to.But be aware that for reasons of their own, one or both of your birth parents may decline to have information released to you. A social worker will only give you the full names and contact information of your birth parents with their written permission. Same goes for you. They don't get any info about you from the social worker without your written permission.They may be willing to pass on their family’s medical history in a non-identifying way through the social worker, though. Ask for that at least. If 70% of the women on your birth mother’s side of the family developed breast cancer in their forties, for example, that's valuable info for you and your GP.Good luck.
How do I encourage my parents to adopt a child?
Q: How do I encourage my parents to adopt a child?I am 18 years old single child, I always wanted to have sister or brother because of my social anxiety. I never had many friends and always felt alone, so is there any way to tell my parents about adopting a child?A: I am sorry you feel alone and experience anxiety. But an adopted child will not ease your anxiety. Nor will it mean that you have an instant friend. The adopted child is a person with their own likes, dislikes, anxieties, lived experiences.It would be unfair to this person to be adopted just to fix your issues. Likely, they will instead resent your heavy expectations.Instead, you need to work on yourself. Seek help with a therapist or psychologist. Don’t ever expect someone to fix your problems for you. Only you are able to do that. Sometimes that means you need medical help. Sometimes it means cognitive therapy. Others can help, but they will never be able to fix you for you.
How do adopted children typically view their biological parents?
“Typical” cannot possibly apply to adopted children, let alone having a “typical view” of their biological parents. There are so many varied scenarios and reasons that lead to children’s separation from their birthparents. The separations can be about legitimacy issues, or the bmother has died, or there were drugs involved with the pregnancy, or the bparents just couldn’t deal with a child, or child services deemed it necessary. The adopted child’s view of their bparents can be influenced (for good/bad/indifferent) by what, when and how they were told their story; by how stable/functional the adoptive home is/isn’t; and just by circumstances after the adoption during childhood…family mental/physical illness, death, job loss, etc.For example, in my own UNTYPICAL case, I was born with a health issue, my bmother had her own issues, the times for an illegitimate birth were fraught with secrecy and judgments, etc.My VIEWS (plural because they changed) were:a) I missed my bmother, immensely… I had romanticized her, made up stories to myself, questioned why she gave me up, why couldn’t she borrow money from the bank to keep me, etc. I loved a fantasy. I was also very unhappy in my adoptive home.Perhaps because my relationship with my adoptive parents was so tense, tenuous, when I reached adulthood, I still wanted my bmother back in my life. When I found her, I was a parent, 28 years old, and we began a 21 year friendship (I could never call her mom/mother, because of what I learned about/from her as to her reasons for surrendering me).b) So my view during those 21 years was “…that was who she was when I was a child, she wanted/accepted me in her life presently, we enjoyed each other’s company, we had so much in common. I loved her, as a friend AND I was angry. But I was also needy.c) My view of my bmother became fully jaded when she suddenly died 21 years after our reunion…once again I was abandoned. And THEN her lies became uncovered…serious lies/excuses. A year after she passed, I began to see a GOOD therapist; with his help, I saw how much that abandoned 9 year old child in me was still dominating this 55+ person.d) My view changed to realize what my bmother’s weaknesses were, how she was influenced by her own childhood/her own parents/the times/place she grew up in, why she was the fallible woman she was.I grew up, some.e) I still love my birthmother, miss her immensely, even with her lies and foibles.
How do you know if your parents aren't really your real parents?
You can never know for sure that you are their child, but there is a chance that you can find out that you aren’t. You can look at your genetics. For example if your parents are both blond and you are brown haired you cannot be their kid unless your mom or dad dyed their hair because two blond people cannot have a brown haired child. There are many other traits like this that you can compare, if they all check out I would just assume you are their kid. Google or your biology teacher at school should be able to tell you all these traits to look for.Hope this helps,And if it did you could help me out by subscribingYouTube: Stout Gaming
My parents won't let me get a dog?
"I'm not whining because, "I rly want a dog and it's not fair that my parents say no"...." Yes you are. "my parents have their own dog right now, and won't let me use MY OWN money to cover the adoption fees" While you are under their roof, you have to do as they say. It's not a difficult concept, so I don't understand why you can't grasp it--especially when you can "see the light at the end of the tunnel" in just a few months. "If I wait a the few months it would take to move out the same dog wouldn't be there. She's in a kill shelter. She'll be put down or adopted." And there will be lots more to take her place. If you adopted her now, that would mean that when you move out in a few months, a dog will die in the shelter because *it* was supposed to be the one you got. "Yes it is their house, but it's my card and my money they have. I've worked for that and don't appreciate them taking it from me." Maybe if you quit acting like a child, they'd quit treating you like one. Because it's obvious that if they let you have your money, you'd march right out and bring home a dog THEY TOLD YOU NOT TO. Their house, their rules. You get to make the rules when you move into your own place. BTW, another thing that is obvious is that you haven't consulted the shelter yet, because they wouldn't allow you to adopt the dog anyway without *written* permission from your parents (or a landlord once you move).