Am I being abused by my sister?
You are definitely being verbally abused and the physical is abuse or unnecessary roughness taken too far. You could probably beat her at the physical but then your parents would take the younger, smaller child's position. You are really showing grown up behavior by not repaying wrong with wrong. You have taken the high road and your sister sounds spoiled or mean and has taken the swamp path. Keep calmly telling your parents to intervene because she is leaving emotional scars. Surely one of your parents can see that.
Am I just being a teenage brat if I am still angry at my Dad for calling me worthless and ect. after nearly two months?
Is it an ongoing theme? As you feel it is not correct it really stings. We all make mistakes and sometimes even an attitude or our normal response needs to be corrected. The point is a parent is there to guide and direct us into useful appropriate behaviour not name call. If your father is angry is it because of a single action or a long standing behaviour or pattern of activities he is upset over? Maybe ask him what is it he wants you to change or improve? What would make him happy? Ask in a calm logical way so that he must think about it and answer. If you ask in an emotional way he may see it as a whinge and attack again. Ask him how he would do it and listen. Even if you see a problem let him finish the thought respectfully then explain the different factor and ask him if he would still do it the same way if that were his circumstance.Explain it hurts your feelings when he calls you names but doesn’t explain what he would like you to change or do better after your conversation and leave it at that. Hope you have a peaceful resolution.
Am i a spoiled rotten brat?
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I have been verbally abused, and have been called names such as “a selfish brat”. I am now such a motherly figure that I put others way before myself. Should I resent those people for bullying me?
Don't resent. It's a destructive emotion that hurts yourself and those around you. Rather move on.Being an overbearing parent is a natural feeling for most of us, but it's important to let children learn most of life's lessons for themselves. They'll be alright. Just be attentive and supportive. You can't sheild anyone from the craziness of existence.
I HATE being a MILITARY BRAT...?
I MOVE ALOT AND I HATEHOWS MY MOM IS IN THE NAVY..I HAVE BEEN TO OVER 8 SCHOOLS AND I AM CURRENTLY IN 11TH GRADE. I AM CURRENTLY GETTING READY TO MOVE OVERSEAS......AND I JUST DONT WANT TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS AGAIN I AM A 17 YR OLD AFRICAN AMERICAN MALE I WISH I DIDN'T HAVE A LIFE LIKE THIS...HOW CAN I COPE THROUGH THIS, HOW CAN I ADJUST TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS....EVERYTIME I TRY TO ADJUST..WE MOVE...I 'M JUST TIRED OF IT.....
Am I in an abusive family?
From what you wrote it most certainly looks like a variety of abuses are going on.You don’t state your age so it is hard to really understand the dynamic there but hitting, bullying, all of what you are talking about especially with mother is pretty clearly abusive. I might suggest she has narcissistic behavior.living in So Cal lately I see your need for AC as well. However understand using it is very expensive on owner and a lot of people don’t even have it. About your aunt, consider her financial position.I also have been married into Asian families and I know there are major cultural differences between original immigrants from Asian countries to USA and holding onto their harsh traditions and cultural customs can present great challenges to their children born in the USA. I have seen this dichotomous interaction play out over several years with my second wife from China with strong Vietnamese ties as well. She definitely crossed that cultural line into abuses against both myself and her daughter.You say at the end you are a spoiled child, a brat, who doesn’t help around the house. I will question your motivations for your brattiness and unwillingness to help. What came first? Brattiness or this abusive reaction? Analyze deeply on this.Regardless, if you are being hit, especially with broom handles or other instruments you are being abused and the can get immediately arrested.if you are under 18, you could be removed from your family and place into foster care.I wish you well and wish I could be more help to you, if nothing else than to listen. You may reach out to me via my Facebook ministry page if you like Seeking Real Truth Ministries if you wish to talk off line.
My little brother is a brat, what can I do?
Let me start by saying, as there older sister, I love my little brother, I would kill anyone who hurt him. He's 9 I'm almost 17 (28 days) and he is an absolute brat. I'm not talking annoying or just because he's 9, I'm talking full-fledged brat. My other little brother was never like this. He refuses to do anything he's told, never does his chores (and screams at the older brother and I when we say anything). It's mainly just me he picks on. He addresses my mom and I as "woman" or sometimes even calls my mom by her first name (a big no-no in our house). With me, he call me fat all the time (I'm already really insecure about my weight) and laughs when I get upset and tells me to grow up. He is always yelling at me and belittling me about everything. When I get a poor grade he calls me stupid, when I had to stay home for 3 days from school (almost landed in the ER) he whined about how I was lazy and didn't do anything. But the verbal stuff isnt what get to me, he physically hurts me. He will hit me, claw me, kick me, stamp on my feet, pull my hair etc. when I broke my foot and was in an air cast he walked right up to me and stamped as hard as he could on it for no f*ucking reason. And when I retaliated my parents got made at me. Whenever I try to fight back my parents always tell me to let it go, and he NEVER gets in trouble first. He sees me get in trouble first and takes tht as a green light to ignore everything they say to him. (and the hi get in trouble for being pissed, I can't win). It's not just playing either, he has literally hurt me pretty bad. For example, we were out to eat one night when he just starts kicking me, stamping on my feet and clawing me. I was wearing flip flops so it obviously hurt. I go to "fight back" (it can't even be considered "fighting" I just push him away and occasionally claw at him). This only makes him attack me more and he eventually stamps in my foot so hard it broke my toes. But when I go to "fight back" my parents tell at me!
How should act toward my wife the brat?
I know how to deal with brat kids: if they throw temper tantrums, don't give in. Show them and tell them you love them, hang with them, play with them, stand against their tricks. Show them you're serious: seriously cut all benefits if they act a fool; seriously desire to give them your all. This is what my parents did. And they even spanked me! But I never felt resentful or hateful toward them; because they made it clear that they loved me. My wife throws temper tantrums, cries, whines, shouts, gets physical, etcetera, a lot like a brat kid, when she doesn't get her way with me. We are newly married (9 months now) and she has gotten away with it up until recently. Like her family, I used to concede. I have now told her that I won't put up with it any more. Now she claims that I hate her; to hate me; that I'm mean and heartless; that I should change, not her; that I should apologize for being mean; etc. Kids see adults' stance as mean. She's not a kid: she can divorce me. Any advice?