Is my wife damaged goods?
I've been married 7 years now and gained two stepchildren and nephew who's mom is in jail, and I've made some unfortunate discoveries concerning my wife and her screwed up family,my wife has a history of abusive relationships,molestation,out to lunch on drugs dad,dead baby's daddy etc.,first off she is a hoarder and keeps a dirty nasty house and passed her scumbag style on to her kids,she was hiding this behavior before we married, back then her roomate tried to hint to me that she was a slob normally except when I came over but I didnt catch the hint because it was kinda clean when I went over,I bring my stepkids to my dads on weekends durring the summer,I recently was alerted that my stepkids left garbage and old food in the drawers and under the bed and filth all over the house giving my dad an ant infestation and mice,and that they have been stealing expensive things out of his house,,I told my wife and she regressed , got defensive and reacted like a child about the matter and now she's undermining my authority with the kids and saying my biological kids are just so perfect because they behave,dont steal,flush the toilet , get good grades and have manners and things of that nature,Is there any hope with this nut job.? she already had counciling and takes meds for sleep and depression,the kids are also on adhd drugs , diabetes and psych meds.she resents me and my ex for raising are kids well and wont see eye to eye on raising hers properly.and it's not just my personal observation,her mom and stepdad said they didnt raise her this way and try to show her the errors in her way,friends,her family ,my family all see this but she seems to be the only one oblivious to it and it's resulting in some screwed up kids
Are you damaged goods?
Pretty much.The VA just this month rated me as 100% T&P SC. I may have those acronyms out of order. Basically, I am Totally and Permanently disabled due to Service Connected conditions. In this case, PTSD although my counselors are telling me the I may have CPTSD due to childhood trauma as well (long story).On top of that, I am a svelte 150 lbs overweight Does almost 11 stone sound better? How about if I say it with a brogue?Anxiety attacks? One or two per day. Cannot complete a phone call with my bank or stand in line long enough to order a sandwich. And did I mention the wheelchair? Yep. Anything more than 5–10 feet is an ordeal even with a cane. Plus, the ordeal is guaranteed to have my friend Petey Estes (PTSD - get it?) come sit on my lap and whisper panicked nothings into my ear. The wheelie extends my range to where a quiet mid-day moment at Costco with full flanking escort means I probably only have to lay down in a cool, quiet place for an hour or two when I get home (used to be days and before that weeks).Still got my keyboard, my family, and now — finally — some support from the VA.But yeah, I’m pretty much a hot Southern mess with Boston roots and a lifetime Golden State transplant.Oh, yeah…gender-queer or, as the kids are calling it these days, gender-fluid non-binary with a splash of lime.Thanks for asking.You?
How do I deal with the fact that I’m damaged goods?
A human being is not an object to use and to discard. Human beings are not goods.No humans can be damaged goods as they are not objects. It is a primitive concept that should not live in a progressive mind or society and if anyone is suggesting that that person is evil and should be cut off from contact.Have respect for yourself and live the life you have been given.Your body is no one’s property, do not let words and phrases control your mind and body. It is 2018 and we do not believe in such criminal cultural concepts.For centuries male cultures have oppressed women by using these words and phrases and they have used religion and politics to convince women they are goods for exchange, not living things.There is no excuse in modern time to believe in such things. Go to your local library and start learning about male politics and emancipate yourself from such awful concept.Remember, you do not have to leave your faith (if you have one and do not want to leave) to find self worth. Speak to educated preachers to learn how you can love yourself.If you are scared of leaving your community know that human beings are all equal and you will find love and friendship anywhere if you seek for it.You are important and your body and soul is loved. You are a human being with dignity and majesty. Do not disrespect yourself by giving a prise tag to your body.
Am I "damaged goods" (guys appreiciated)?
I'm 19 and I'm an attractive,funny, intellegent,understanding and sweet young woman and that's what the guys usually tell me too when they break up with me. my longest relationship was 5 mos. and I had alot of boyfriends, but I can't seem to keep them, and I don't even do the crazy gf things like call alot,be over jelous,hate him going out,not want to have sex,"go' with the door open,stay up his ***....just like a dog at first I'm like "down" then after a while I'm like "stay" :( I'm not looking to settle down but I see these guys get serious with these ugly girls,dumb blondes,crazy bitches and trash, but never me, I don't know what it is that makes me worse? I know I'm bipolar I'm getting it under control, could that be it? or something else I can't see? but they say that it has something to do with the girls' dad, and I met my dad when I was 15 and haven't spoken with him since I was 17 and don't plan on ever and I have every reason to. am I bound to be damaged goods forever?
Do you ever feel like 'damaged goods'?
A year ago I became permanently disabiled and it has hindered me from working or ever having a relationship again. Whenever I start feeling I have no purpose anymore, I tell myself I have to create new purposes for myself now. But to reflect on how I once was, and how I am now, always makes me feel a little down. How do you get past these blues?
Am i damaged goods to white guys?
I don't think that's a ridiculous question at all. Personally you'd be a persona non grata for me - but not for the reasons that you might first assume. Did you ever go on vacation and leave your dog in the kennel and when you came back - the dog seemed to sulk and resent you ? Yeah, like that. A white guy wasn't good enough for you in the first place ? Fine. Went in search of the infamous big d*ck ? Fine. Stay there. Got a kid (black or white - no difference) that some other guy spawned and doesn't want to take care of ? Wanted that "bad dude" but now you need the boring, stable guy to pay the way for your wild times ? Nope . Too late. White guys weren't good enough for you ? Ok. You aren't good enough for them now. Bye. And before I get harassed for that statement, better go ask the sisters if they don't feel the same way about the brothers that preferred the naive white chicks over them. Why did you think the sisters all rejoiced over O.J. getting away with chopping up his white chick ? Nobody likes feeling like someone's second choice. Why do you think that the sisters are reluctant to be with white guys ? Cuz they worry that the brothers won't welcome them back should they want to return - that they'll be "damaged goods". What guy do you know of that would want to be in a relationship with you and in the middle of some argument have you say something like, "Take your tiny thing and get the hell outta here." Nah, you made your bed - sleep in it.
Do you feel like you're "damaged goods" in some way?
According to me none of us are damaged , we are all just different.But if you believe you are damaged ,you are ..only because you believe that ..whats the worse anyone can do to you? Rape ?bully? torture?play with your emotions?kill all you love ?But one thing they can never do is take a true part of your soul …even if you give it to them, your soul will always fix back till you find as people say ‘the one’ .believe in yourself …consider this…. your alive …your breathing …you feel the wind around you…you feel happiness sadness…anger…your human ….you have a good thing …that is life…don’t hope for false things but hope that you understand the joy either reading books …or singing terribly…or good …or dancing…or seeing the beauty of life ..or even being able to understand it ….if you have none of these …if you have issues remember hope is found in the darkest of places ….if you think nobody likes you …talk to at least five random people on the street and i bet that one of them will become your best friendLove…we all know what it means cause we learn if not now we will all learn it later in life …my own sister hates me…shes 4 years elder to me … but hate does not exist without some love…but she is indifferent towards me that doesn’t make me damaged or the fact I was bullied in my childhood does not make me damaged..or the fact that my high school classmates with whom i was classmates with for 8 years called me terrible things or disliked me completely for no reason does not make me damaged …the fact that many people have left me before because I was a little weird and ‘annoying’ does not make me damaged ..the fact that I’m alive…I can enjoy life..I’m HAPPY …makes my life so amazing …that is why i’m not damaged…actually my life couldn’t be better …I read all the books I love…I watch all the shows I want …I listen to my favorite songs…I dance …I act weird because I am weird ..I talk dark because I am sarcastic …I think of chocolates and icecream and I go buy them…I work hard cause that is how you know your living…change your perspective and you will understand exactly what I mean …how did i change mine …easy I believed in myself!
What does it mean when a person says you are damaged goods?
It means that person would rather stick a label on you and not bother taking the time to get to understand you and your feelings, why you made the choices you have. Literally, referring to you as 'damaged goods' usually means you have been used by someone else and are no longer worthwhile. It is not a label I have ever used myself, and I've always felt that any one who uses that term is more interested in their own narrow view of the world than in another person's feelings. I've also found, over the years, that people who use that term are often hypocrites. Anyone who calls you that isn't worth your time or effort.