I feel like I'm just not cut out for college?
I've been attending a community college for about two months now. I don't know why, but I've just been feeling so overwhelmed lately. I've broken down and cried a few times, even contemplated suicide. School has never really helped me. I never learned much in school and have found that it just makes me feel worthless -- like I'm a complete and utter failure. I have never really passed my classes even though I don't consider myself stupid at all. Due to stress and anxiety, I actually dropped out of high school. Sometimes I regret it, but other times, I just feel like it is something that had to be done. However, I did obtain my GED; I passed most of the GED tests with flying colors (except for the Math, which I just barely passed) and scored the highest levels of reading and writing for the community college compass test. But I'm taking an English comp class and feel like I'm just not cut out for it. I'm not sure if it's because I am very hard on myself and a perfectionist; If I feel like I'm not doing something totally right the first time around, it just feels wrong to me. I've been working on a comparative film analysis paper for this class and haven't even finished it, though it is due (rough draft) tomorrow. So I'll basically be taking in a half finished rough draft for evaluation tomorrow. Sometimes I just feel like a complete failure and idiot. Is there something wrong with me? Am I just not fit for college? I can tell that I am just not happy in this environment... Are there any alternatives? Must I obtain a college degree if I want to be successful and live comfortably? Am I not worthy of love and happiness unless I prove to the world that I can obtain a college degree???
Feeling Like Im Not Cut Out For College? I Don't Want to Be Here Anymore.?
Im 19 and I'm halfway into my first semester as a college student. My classes are Chemistry 1050 (Slower Class), Precalculus (Slower Class), English Comp 1010, Psychology 1000, and Cultural Anthropology 1100. In particular my chem and pre-calc classes are giving me a hard time. Ill start off saying i was a total slacker throughout high school, and still got great grades. My final average was 85 after four years with some honors classes. I never studied. Now I'm feeling so overwhelmed. I feel like i just go to class and go home like a robot. Because i need to. I hate chemistry and math. I want to become a physical therapist, and i need these classes for the prerequisites to get into PT school. I constantly feel like quitting. Im afraid ill torture myself here for 6-7 years and in the end won't even be able to find a job. It scares me because i know older cousins and family members going through that right now.. Im faced with this dilemma because i want to live a successful life. I don't need to be rich, but i want to be okay and give my kids the things they need and want. I once heard "the only thing stopping you from achieving your goals are the bulls*** excuses you make up". Is this what I'm doing or is it really possible that i am not cut out for college.
A2A I was enrolled in a medical program a few years ago and about to start, when my boyfriend at the time, helped me realize I was settling for a mainstream career and ignoring the sewing talent I loved and could easily do for a living.He was absolutely right. We're not together any more, but I still send him photos from my growing list of celebrity projects with a big THANK YOU for talking me out of a stupid job training program and work I would have eventually hated and was only doing for the money.It's hard for me to read. I am dyslexic and have ADHD. I struggled with high school and had to focus 100% of my energy on passing some technical school courses I've taken over the years, so I'm with you on not being cut out for college. I excel at hands on activities like Sewing, Music, Photography, Painting, etc.I've listened to some audiobooks that have changed my already unconventional life by inspiring my to pursue ways to make money that are outside the box, doing things I love.I highly recommend you find something you love to do, and then figure how to make a living with it.Some of the audio books that helped me create a niche career without an education were the 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss and Unlimited Abundance by Christie Marie Sheldon
Remember,many things that are taught in college are practically worthless.Employers don't find the skills attractive. Rather, one should focus on learning practical stuffs that can be useful in real life. You can self teach Yourself with enormous amount of materials and courses available online. So why are you worried about scoring less in college? There are many top scorers whho are unemployed after completion while so called average students are enjoying good jobs.because the scorers focused on getting marks than learning skills. LIFE TEACHES YOU MORE THAN SCHOOL.Becoming a drop out is recommended1.If you feel you don't belong to the college or course.if it makes you depressed. 2.you hate the way they teach which you feel is time waste and yoi can learn more in that time. 3.if you are passionate about learning and achieving something, so that you can be disciplined in learning the thing. 4.if temporary failure and obstacles dont discourage you from achieving the dream. Etc.What you need to do after dropping out:1.create a list of skills that you wanna achieve during the year. 2.create a schedule..an useful schedule according to which you'll learn and practice skills. And strictly follow that 3.dont let other discourage you... Fck em up.. 4.read books as much as u can and on various topics.. Read blogs.. 5.meet people of similar interests. Use social media to broadcast you.. Write blogs.. Upload YouTube Videos.. They ll reach you. 6.do exercise, watch motivational videos,learn new hobbies. 7.keep track of your progress.Now ill try to answer your main question, should you drop out? Id say, definitely drop out, if you later regret of dropping out, you can always go back.but if you don't drop out, you'll regret rest of your life and can't forgive yourself. Dont wait for the perfect time to be 100% ready , because it'll never come you'll never be 100% ready.DO IT, HERE AND NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am not cut out for school.?
What are your hobbies? Are you passionate about anything? These could be cues to what you want to be. Vocational testing is always encouraged. The Marines or another branch of the military is also a good option. They can certainly provide discipline and your motivation for study will likely increase. All the best to you!
The worst way to figure out what to do with your life is to think about what to do with your life. That forces you to unnaturally frame the complex, messy process of living into a pithy statement, and even if this was possible or useful, how is a young person, with little experience of the world, supposed to do it intelligently?The best way to figure out what to do with your life is simply to LIVE and see what happens. But make sure that you're living with ardor. If you just dip your toe into experiences, you'll never learn from them.What I'm suggesting is that figuring out your entire life, right now, is way too big a goal. Whatever you figure our now will likely change anyway. You'll feel differently in your 30s, 40s and 50s. (I have met a few people for whom this is false. One of my best friends, growing up, wanted to be a writer from the time she was ten. She worked at it continually and now, in her mid 40s, she's a famous author. But people like her are exceptions.)So just throw yourself, body and soul, into something. If you can't think of anything you'd like to jump into, try volunteering or travel (or both). Those activities broaden most people's minds. But note the body-and-soul part. Going to Paris as a tourist doesn't count as "travel." Go someplace outside your comfort zone and live there for a couple of years, without support from your parents. Work and live there, supporting yourself in a strange place.
So it's not clear cut for me. I don't regret not going to college, but I definitely have college related regrets.When I was 16 I moved, (got kicked out) of my parents house. At the time I thought it was a blessing, and as I got my first job answering the phone at a pizza place, I thought I had it all figured out. After dropping out of high school, I almost immediately got my GED. It's not like it was hard, I've read some answers here on quora making fun of how easy the GED test is and those people couldn't be more right. It was a joke.Now having my GED, I began to take classes at my local community college. Fast forward to age 19, and I'm taking classes at a different community college. at this point I've been running this rope for a few years and I've hardly made any progress in my college career. Professionally though, I was moving up. I was no longer the phone boy (as the owner of the pizza place would call me.)I regret rebelling to the point of no return, when I got kicked out of my parents house I will never forget the hurtful words that were said (on both sides) or the pain in my moms eyes.I regret not being sent to college with the rest of my friends and when they came home from school, being so busy with work that I had to play around it.I regret cheating myself out of simpler teenage years and not having to focus primarily on school.I regret hurting those close to me and forcing them to watch me make life so much harder than it needed to be.So, all that said there's also a ton of benefits.While my friends were playing around in college (not all but most) I was working my ass off professionally. I'm lightyears ahead of my friends when it comes to career and business knowledge, life experiences and general know-how.I'm not in anyway even attempting to say that I know everything, who does. I'm saying though, that as a result of the decisions I made I grew up much faster than my peers.What other 16 year old do you know that is worried about shift hours and rent payments. Or grocery shopping, or obtaining financial independence at that.I regret dropping out/not going to college, but not nearly as much as accept the decisions I have made.Looking back I wouldn't do it any other way. I am who I am because of my actions.I love who I am.
OK you say you graduated from an engineering program and then went to work doing software. Do you actually have the skills to do software development? It would help to know what your skill set is and what the expectations on you are.You were hoping for guidance, but what kind? Did you want them to tell you how to solve problems? This is a very different thing than being guided through the way a particular company handles development which you most certainly should have gotten. Companies should help you to learn their process but they cant help you to do your work.As for your problem solving technique, you definitely need to learn to focus better. Start small. Build on pieces that you have already solved.As for design well, that happens to all of use at one point or another. And I am guessing that all the pressure you are under is contributing to that. So for now I would not worry about this. Once you get everything else settled this will come.Should you leave software development? Probably not. You said that you enjoy it, you got a degree in engineering so you are more then capable of learning what needs to be learned. Given your current struggles though some adjustments do need to be made. First you need to make sure that you actually have the skills that you need. Do you have basic fluency in the language that you are using? If not then spend some time at home doing tutorials. Do you have actual software development skills? If not then this one is harder. Find a book on algorithms, look into taking course in a MOOC or even back at a school. Also learn to be calm even in the face of stress. Like I said before, break big problems into little ones and solve the little ones. That should get you most of the way to solving the big one.Good luck.