Why is my mom being so freaking mean to me?
What your mother is doing is verbal and emotional abuse. Verbal and emotional abuse is defined as belittling or shaming a child by; Name-calling Making negative comparisons to others Telling the child he or she is “no good," "worthless," "a Mistake." Blaming the child that everything is his or her fault. The effects of verbal & emotional abuse; Low self-esteem Depression and anxiety Aggressive behavior/anger issues Relationship difficulties Alienation and withdrawal Personality disorders Clinginess, neediness Flashbacks and nightmares Crying Even if you were being naughty and had an attitude, NO parent has the right to tell their child, they are a "piece shi*t", "a bit*h" "your a horrible kid", that "they never wanted you" or they "hated having you" etc, that is emotional abuse. Nor should they make comparisons of other siblings, or yell and scream at you. Please contact the youth support service, or kids/teen help line for support and help. I am not sure where you are, but I assume your in USA, the link below has a phone number you can ring it you can.
My mom is really stressed out Help Immediately!!!!!!!!!!?
i know how it feels trust me ive been through that . my mum walked out of my house ,couple of times.. i felt realy guilty and sad .even if it was not my fault . by the way ive been through alot but things do get better when time passes by trust me.. i feel sorry for u though .cos my life is sorted out .well nearly . just try talking to your mum and try to understand where shes coming from. do u know wot i mean ? be there for her . i was there for mine and my sister .ive saved my sister becus she was suicidal . i was only young ..i was like 8 years old . i care for my family alot even though they can get really annoying . try to sort things out with your mum . and hope fully things will go well. my dad use to bee abusive but its ok now though i'll be there if u need anything , just talk to me on msn or fb if u want i dont like to see people suffering like this COS I KNOW HOW IT FEELS i'm 14 by the way . take care and i hope this helps a little... also if your mum is arguing with u all the time .ignore her. thats the only thing u can do or try to understand her :(.. heres my email if u want to add me .: wigan96@hotmail.co.uk dont listen to JR.......... ADDITONAL HELP : well sit down with your sis and talk about it ,tell her whats she wants . etc . tell her U could help i dont know what to say really cos i didnt go through this .. this is abit different . just be there for your sis ,Thats all i can say really . Just focus on your mum aswell try to support her.just help her out with washing etc . help out . do somthing if u can . i dont know wot to say . i bet other people will explain it alot better then i can . good luck mate , u need it like i sed u can add me on msn. and if somthing happens u can talk to me, and i'll try to help . i will do my best .
Why do I keep messing up all the time?
It is only because you think that you'll meSs up ..Mentally weak people think that they are worth for nothing and they underestimate themselves . Whatever they do goes in vain because they were expecting that kind of resultBecauseWhatever you think or feel, the universe says YesIt is the general law of universe . There is no strong force than your will .Let's come to my story …I'm a middle class guy from a rural background. I'm not that intelligent or good-looking . I didn't go to any private school . Even in intermediate i was in the last section of my institute . I didn't get the marks i deserved even though I studied my ass off . I had a crush who eventually ditched me 1 week before the JEE . I had nothing to live at that time . I was on the verge of giving up .Then I called my mom crying she was so kind on me . She listened everything and then told me to not to loose faith on yourself .She also quoted sri sri ravi shankar ji's statementNo one can give you unpleasant experience that is not due to you.. then she told me you fail because you think that you'll fail ..Feeling low is the first step of your failureAfter 2hrs of her continuos counselling , I was somewhat persuaded . Then I thought of it in my mind for sometime and it sounded me great .. i recovered from everything pretty quickly.With that positive attitude i went to write the exam of my life (at that time) jee . And to everyone's surprise i came fourth in my campus . Even i didn't got that rank in college conducted examinations .Now I'm Happy with what I'm . I now think that there no failure but it is success postponed .. life don't wants me to be satisfied with these small things but planning to give me even more .When you do have this positive attitude there's no stopping to you .. even if you mess up things it won't bother you …All the best
How messed up is your life?
I'm 25 y/o guy from our very own India. This is my first answer on Quora please be kind fellow quoransBorn in a lower middle class family always short on money. My father was (still is) a drunkard. I'll always remember how my mom would make ends meet managing our shop with my dad. I got my education through a convent school, my mom would apply for concession form ( a lady who was working in the school knew of what we're going through) . I would get the fee card signed by the principal and hide it in my bag before anyone could have their eyes on it. Constant fights at home all thanks to my alcoholic father, with all the commotion clearly being heard to othe building wallas. But I believe I have made my name with all the hard work that I have put in. With great difficulties I completed my education . Since childhood it was quite clear to me that it was only me who could do something about it. I secured a distinction in 10th , in diploma (engg) , and in B.Tech as well. But still I'm here jobless. Studied 2 yrs for competitive exams with coaching (coz I can't afford one) with no results. Its been 3 yrs since graduation and now I stand here with no proper footing in my career working in company here for 1 year term with absolutely no idea what would I do when my term ends here.Ooh and another thing , I'm balding as well. It started when I was just 16 now i look much older for my age. This has killed my confidence and I have absolutely lost my game with girls. Lonely as f@@@ ,broke as hell i see nothing at the end of the tunnel. My friends here working good salaries and I'm here making mere wages. Not sure what's more messier this answer or my life. It's just that if could improve somehow. We've been working very hard here but seem to barely move an inch from square on.Couldn't really arrange the answer but was just pouring my heart out here. Much more of my pathetic life to come but seem to be hiding some where,Stay tuned!!!
Why is my mom so mean to me?
So sad to hear this. Some moms are jealous of their children because they think the child is better than them or they have a better life than they did. Some moms resent having to take care of their children because they want time to themselves. Others feel bad about themselves so they take it out on their children.Can you ask her, “What am I doing wrong? Why are you so mean to me? What did I do to you? Why did you have me? Can you stop being so mean to me?” Let her know that she is being mean. Sometimes people are mean but don’t realize it.Know that it’s your mom’s issue and you will someday find a spouse who loves and appreciates you. Don’t let her B.S. bring you down.
I,m fed up with my mother-in law,what to do ?she has really make my life hell?
Hi Pooja never be fed up.almost 85% of the mother-in-laws are like that.Just never give any back answers to her.Never get into arguments with her.Try to avoid such situations.Do your duty well and never give her any chance to complain.One more important thing is if u seem to be sad with her she will try to harse u more.Try to show her that you are quiet happy and she can never take it from you how hard she may try.Have patience.She will come to ur way.Good Luck.I am also travelling in the same boat.
I have messed up my life big time, and I regret many decisions and am unable to make up for it. What do I do?
Lot of great answers here.I have nothing new to say. Just this.Most children think that their current "problems" are too much to handle. Once they grow up they will do better.This changes when they grow up. They ponder about three things. What if they could still be kids and enjoy. How kids do not have to worry at all.What if "that" would not have happened earlier. I would have been in a better position now. I wish I could go back to the time and change that. Oh! that stupid decision of mine. God knows what I was thinking then! I should have done that..........If I do this will I achieve that? God knows. Too risky. What if it happens again? I am an all time loser. I am born to lose. It happened last time. It will happen again. I am screwed. There is nothing called real happiness in this world for me. See him. How he is enjoying his life.............In all the above situations we are either in past or future. Present is the only thing which doesn't matter. We have life. Doesn't matter, so does a dog right?We have job. Doesn't matter, it is not that great.We have a family. Doesn't matter, they are the reason for all the problems.We have money. Doesn't matter, it is not enough.We have partner. Doesn't matter, he or she is not an ideal mate.We might have a partner soon. Doesn't matter, he or she will be worse than previous one.Am I right in thinking all the above things. Doesn't matter, I am stupid and most around me are too.Simple solution to most problems in life is to accept what is controllable and what is not controllable. Please be easy on yourself for what is not controllable (past and future). Please focus on what is controllable (present).Some learn a bicycle without falling even once. Other do fall few times.The experience of falling is precious. It teaches a lot. I would advise you to understand this.That's it. No more. I will only ruin it if I write further. (As if I have not done already ;)Thanks for A2A Anonymous. Nice to know you. All the best.
Why am I so mean to my mom?
I don t know what it is. My mom is the sweetest person in the world, but for some reason she just really irritates me. I ll catch myself being snappy or rude or just outright uninterested in what she s saying. I try to "sound" nice with her but every time she talks I just want the conversation to be over and all she wants to know about is how my day went. When I was a child she had a pill problem, and I saw her messed up a lot, and for a while I was resentful, but I grew out of that. There s just some twisted part of me that can t be nice to her.. today my dad called me and he said that my mother called him today crying and said "I don t know what it is, but he s just so mean to me, and he tries really hard to be nice but he just can t and I don t understand why". I can t stress enough about how I m over the whole drug problem. I don t care about it anymore, but I think there s some subconscious part of me that hates her for it still. And I m not some jerk teenager, I m a grown up and I m in the military, which is another reason why it bothers me because I don t see her often. The phone call from my dad today opened my eyes. It needs to end and I think maybe some insight or advice from you all maybe could help. Thanks
Its my birthday and my mum and dad are being really mean please help?
tell them to man up its your birthday have your friend come over anyway =]
So my mom just told me she was sick of me and that I’ve taken up too much of her life, she says she is ready to send me to a foster home. What do I do?
I admit I have said this to my son. He had shut off his life, opting to spend all of his time playing video games, friending gangbangers on the computer.I had discovered that he charged $500.00to my account through his video game account.He was enticed to watch anime porn .He was home schooled, he assured me he was doing his work , online.Here I was, giving up many things I wanted to do, in order to stay in a place I hated, to help him get through school. He had been asked to leave school, the teachers all agreed he needed to be taught one to one.I purchased a new computer for him, with the understanding it would be utilized for his schoolwork.He had always taken a lot of time to complete assignments.I had informed him, over and over again, that his delinquent attitude would land him in a juvenile facility if he did not pull out of the direction he was taking.It took time, a lot of time. Here we are now, years later. He suffered from anxiety, I cannot believe it would have been my threat which would have brought it on. We had gone beyond those days. In recent times had fallen back into he video game trap.I suspect the computer and video games are enough to cause complicated problems in him, including anxiety.He would stay up all night playing video games.I would say goodnight to him at 10 pm, find him awake and online plying video games at 4am.He was wasting away.Growing taller, not ingesting enough calories to put weight on. Wiry, thin,sunken eyes from lack of sleep and strung out from the computer.A prescription for a sleep aid, with a doctor who ordered tests for thyroid.He has put on ten lbs and is sleeping.Still aggistated, and having difficulties, I believe he may always have some struggles.So, it happens parents get to a point where we see the defiant child, headlong into disaster.Not knowing how to deal with it, and feeling exhausted, things are said we never meant to say.I did not retract it , because I knew in some ways it was true, The consequences of his actions would led him into significant trouble in the future.His actions would divide us as well,The only time he improved, was when he saw the futility in what he was doing.