Was I Wrong to Blast My Friend for Not Inviting Me to her Wedding?
I've known my friend since first grade. Although we didn't keep in touch after grammar school, we had a long history together. So you can imagine my shock when I saw her post on her Facebook page that she was getting engaged, and the wedding was to be in California. As I waited for an invitation, it never arrived. I later saw pictures of the wedding on her page, including with people she JUST met. I was so enraged I tagged her in a status update, saying "Thanks for not inviting me to your wedding. I look forward to going to your funeral." Thinking this was going to get me some sympathy, instead I got loads of comments saying I was jealous, a hater and immature. The woman in question even private messaged me saying she was unfriending me, and that she was not required to invite everyone she went to school with. Was I wrong to do this? Apparently my facebook blast caused a minor rift in her marriage; they're not divorced or anything, but he apparently partially sided with me and thinks she's not sincere with the people she grew up with. Any advice would be appreciated, I am very hurt by this.
Is it wrong to invite your best friend's ex to your birthday?
If this girl, (you're best friend ) has been your best friend for years and this guy the ex is just a recent friend, then yes, I think it is wrong, if the guy however has been a good friend as well for years he should not be left out, there's nothing worse then losing your girlfriend or boyfriend and because your circle of friends is so tight that people side and you end up losing all your friends too, that really sucks. But you stated the best friend "just became friendly with that ex", if that's the case, she should be loyal to her best friend and honor her friendship over a guy. Guys will come and go, girlfriends may be with you for a lifetime...chose your girlfriends well, they should over all have respect for your feelings and support the friendship with positive actions not just empty words.
My best friend is angry at me because I didn't invite her to a trip?! (FRIEND TROUBLE!!!! HELP!!)?
I told my bff Tonya that I was going to Florida with my other three friends, Mariah, Nikki and Sarah this summer to see our other friend who's going to school there. She asked me if I was gonna invite her to come. She was like, "You're gonna ask me if I want to come, right?" and "You inviting me, RIGHT? I'm your best friend, we're suppose to go to places and hangout together!" I told her it was only gonna me us four girls and she got upset with me and she was like, "So You're NOT inviting me to come to you guys's trip?! How could you NOT invite me?! I'M YOUR BEST FRIEND!" I did ask Sarah if we can invite other people. She said we would, but the plane tickets are SO expensive so it's just gonna be the four of us. Tonya got really upset because I didn't invite her. She asked me if I was still going WITHOUT HER. We've been BFFS for 14 years; even though last year we reunited after five years of no keeping in touch. But anyways, I would love her to come, but it's just gonna be the four of us girls. She told me if I was a REAL friend, I wouldn't go on the trip without her. I don't wanna lose Tonya as my best friend! What should I do???
Controlling best friend's mom?
My best friend comes from a religious family. Her mother and I DID NOT get along, and one day we had a pretty bad blow-out. So when the time came for my friend to get married, her mother absolutely refused to allow her to invite me. I was best friends with this girl for about 8 years, and hadn't seen her mom since the blow-out about 5-6 years ago. My friend has since moved to Utah with her husband (can you guess their religion?!) but I can't get over this. Her mother was in the wrong, and my best friend agrees, but decided to not have her own best friend at her own wedding so as not to not upset mommy... am I over-reacting for still holding a grudge?
Both best friends didn't invite me to their weddings......?
I honestly don't know why this is bothering me so much but for the last month or so its been nagging me. Two of my best friends both have known for the better part of ten years grew up together, graduated from the same high school went to the same church exct exct. One we always go together to baseball games and football games and play video games together rather regularly. Well he got married in October big wedding 200+ people. But i never got a an invite. Well friend #2 got married last week same deal we always hang out together went to the mall went fishing together that sort of thing. I wasn't just expecting an invite i thought i would of been one of the groomsmen in this one big wedding same as friend #1. One of his Groomsmen he has only known for the better of a few months which has me rather peeved honestly. I hadn't realized it was bothering me this badly until my girlfriend brought it up as she noticed i had been acting different i guess is the word she chose. I don't know i thought we were closer then we are i suppose we honestly haven't been avoiding each other or anything like that. I want to ask them both about it but i don't want to make things awkward. I guess what i am asking is if i am making something out of nothing? I mean i guess it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. Just been eating at me.
Writing letter for missing out to invite friends?
do you mean you are trying to write a letter to apologize for not inviting some of your friends to a party or something? well, first, there is no rule that says you have to invite all of your friends to everything anyway, and if they are mature,they should understand that. but if they have been offended, what ever you should say should be brief and sincere... there is an old adage that says 'least said, soonest mended' and it can be very true. if you only think they may have been offended, you may be better off leaving it alone unless they say something...they may really have no idea they weren't invited to something, or have thought nothing of it, and if you suddenly start apologizing, now they Will be thinking about it, and thinking you must have a guilty conscience, if you are apologizing.
If I don't invite my best friend to come along this trip, does it count as betrayal?
I have a bit of a problem and I am needing some help and advice on what I should do. I have a friend who is driving from pittsburgh down to georgia to see me. He is staying for 6 days and on one of those days he wants to take a trip with me to go see the coca cola factory but he told me that he doesn't want my best friend steven to come along and steven actually knows my friend from philadelphia. I was ok with the plan at first until I told my counselor and she told me that what I am doing is betraying my best friend by doing this. She says that I am gonna cause tension and problems between me and steven by doing this. I am frustrated and I don't know what to do. What should I do ? Is it really betrayal if I don't invite him to come along ?
Am I allowed to be mad for my friends not inviting me on a weekend trip to another state?
This is a tough one. It's understandable to be hurt that you've been left out but it might not be because they don't love you to pieces. Maybe there are other reasons why. Have you asked them why you weren't included? You can ask in a way that doesn't make it a big deal (which is always the best way if you want to get information and not blow your friendships apart). You could say something like Awww have fun guys, it sounds like an amazing trip... I wish I could be with you.. why didn't you ask me to come? It would have been a blast!They may answer you straightaway or they may not but that leaves it open for you to ask them when they come back. You could pick your closest friend in the group and ask her gently... " y'know.. it kind of stung that I wasn't included. Did I do something wrong? "Friends are as valuable as family... sometimes more. Don't judge them before you find out the reason as it might be nothing really much at all and losing a friendship is a much bigger deal.
Is it wrong to invite my ex to my wedding?
My ex and I were friends before we started dating, and we still remain good friends after splitting up almost four years ago. My fiancee and I are planning on getting married next summer, and it would feel wrong not to invite a good friend to my wedding just because he is also my ex. I worry that my fiancee would think it strange because he doesn't quite understand why I would be friends with my ex. What should I do?
I think my best friend is having a birthday party, and she invited everyone except me. How can I be sure, and confront her?
I Know How You Feel There are a lot of different ways you can go here — some of the other answers have suggested several possibilities. But one other question I’d ask is, what makes you think this? And if she’s your best friend, why do you think she would leave you out? The very fact that you’ve got the question says to me that you have some concerns about your friendship, so I’d start there — has something gone on recently that makes you think that the friendship isn’t as solid as it once was?There can be a lot of reasons for your concern. For instance, did you do something that might have made her angry at you? Or are you upset with her about something? Once you’ve thought about some of the possibilities, I’d check back with her — not about the party, but about your relationship. You could start by just checking in about how she’s doing. That’s always a good friendship move.But eventually you’re going to want to ask her about what’s going on between you. You can ask if you’ve done something that’s upset her. And if you’re open and honest with one another, the party question will resolve itself.