What should you do when you realize that your family doesn't care for you and don't love you?
I came to this realization when I was older and reflecting on my younger years. My family provided financially but had nothing to give emotionally. There were deliberately abusive even in later years. When I confronted them, they were defensive, and I realized they didn’t care. They did care about the image to others though. Something was missing and wrong and always was. I grieved for the family I wish I had. I accepted that I had to play the cards that were dealt.What should you do? This is what I did. I started to make myself a top priority and loved me. I know that I touched other lives in a positive way through my work and was successful. Even though my family would try to diminish my accomplishments. I became grateful for the gifts that my family did give me (health, beauty, an education, a way to make a decent living, and even through the negatives I became stronger). I didn’t need to retaliate anymore as I saw them as sad people in a way, especially when some of them aged and became sickly. I was OK with me and who I was inside.I learned to cut people from my life immediately that didn’t show me respect and genuine concern through their actions, not words-which are hot air in many cases.Even though it may mean being alone at times; it’s OK. I have self-respect and peace. Both are wonderful and priceless.
Am I a bad person if I don't care about anyone but myself?
I just don't really care for others everybody irritates me I don't enjoy the company of my family so I distance myself from them the other day my mom was was telling me how sick my grandpa is right now and that I should go see him but I don't want because I really couldn't care less what happens to him and I know that sounds bad but it's true it's the same with my friends I don't care for them either I just use them to get what I want whenever I'm around them and there telling me about there problems I just don't give a **** and feel like telling them to **** off I've never been in a relationship because I'm too selfish and could never give myself to another person I'm incapable of love all I care about is my self and my career and my money does this make me a bad person
I can't trust anyone and I don't like people.?
Hey, so I am 20 years old. I have no friends and nobody really talks to me. I try making conversation with people and put forth an effort to make friends but nobody is interested. I have no social skills and do no trust a single person. I have been stabbed in the back and screwed over so many times that I don't think anyone is a good person anymore. Whenever I discover a trait in someone new (that someone in the past who screwed me over possessed) I don't want anything to do with them because they all end up being the same. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself and it's impossible to build any up if I keep getting reminded of how shitty everyone is every time I come out of my shell to talk to people. I just don't understand anyone and I feel like an alien. I hate big crowds and I fail at engaging in the simplest of communications. One thing that makes the situation worse is that I get my hopes up and expect the world out of each new individual I meet. I refuse to befriend someone who drinks or does drugs because I have witnessed the hurtful and stupid things that can take place while under the influence of them. It seems like every girl cheats these days and if they don't then they can easily be persuaded to when they hang out with guys who try to get them drunk or high. I don't respect guys who take advantage of girls like that either. What do I do, and how do I trust anyone in this world anymore?
Anyone else ever get sick of guys b!tching about how wrong it is to kick someone in the balls?
in middle school, i would pick girl on this jamie constantly - mostly for her lack of breasts at the time. one day i guese she had enough, and planted a nice firm boot in my berries. i'd never before then - never fell on my bike and never came down when trying to jump a fence. and man - i went down like a sack of bricks. she got high fives. apparantly the look on my face on impact was quite comical. and i was bitter and i stayed bitter for quite some time, until my wife asked me why i as so biitter when somebody got hit on tv and anyone dared to laugh. i tolder her my story, and she said: jamie could have at ny point went to the office and accused me of sexual harassment. i'd probably get suspended, and maybe get moved out of any classes i had with her. my parents would have gotten involved. the child study team might have stepped in. instead, she kicked me in the balls. she felt better, and chances are i stopped picking on her. she's right. and i learned a lil respect
Signs someone doesnt care about you?
They will lack general intrest in you always talk about them selves never ask how your life is going, never call you unless it's convinient time for them and usually about them, doesn't spend time with you, too busy to even say hello back when u say hi generally means they dont care about u, because it only takes what 5seconds to say hi not willing to cater to you needs be it physical, emotional, spiritual.. keeps you from advancing in all areas in your life, if they seem like more of a distraction then someone on the same rightious path then there's always the obvious: actions speak louder than words, if they are purposly trying to hurt/upset you mentally, physically generally they don't care about you not willing to help when you need it If they don't respect you or not willing to do things 50/50 example: if you always drive 15 miles to and from your friends house but he cant ever get a ride to your house or throw you gas money generally he doesn't care enough about you
Why do some people think they don't need anyone but themselves?
Well, I'm sure there's plenty of reasons where people might prefer to be autonomous rather than with the company of others.As for myself, I've never really found anybody with whom I could fully talk with, and revel in each other's views (something I hadn't realized until I went off to college). Most people I've met do not interest me for very long (not to say that I'm life of the party material) - harsh as it may sound, but most eventually do not remain with their premise when I first meet them (I've met only one online, mind - in my entire lifetime - who comes close, I think - need more data). Others (primarily when I was younger), I found, I had to conform myself to their interest in order to fit in (yeah no, that is a complete insult to myself if I ever allow that again). I got tired of the latter, and found more interest in occupying myself with diverse material to learn from; it's immensely satisfying, and I always get a new view point to look from - I think if I had a person who could beat my affinity to solitude have got big shoes to fill. They'd have to be intelligent (to some degree - preferably something around above-average +), they'd have to be accustomed to dark humour (fluent in sarcasm), they'd have to be open-minded (and are willing to learn from their mistakes), and they'd have to learn about my boundaries and wade slowly to navigate through them. Basically, they're competing with the company of myself - something not many have ever treaded and survived enough for the long run (assuming that I've revealed my ‘true’ self to them, rather than social nicety I almost always have on in public - the number is also within the low single digits).