Are Foster Children Allowed To Use Beauty Products

Can I use bunk beds for foster children?

Do you plan on taking on more then one child at a time? And do you only have one bedroom to provide? For school aged children, they seperate boys and girls. Foster care would never allow a brother and sister (of school age) go to a foster home that shared a bedroom. They would however let you have two girls from seperate families share the room with bunk beds. Or two sisters share the room. I've spent a lot of time in foster homes, seperated from my brother and sister. So, I think I know what I'm talking about.

For what reasons are the records of a child in foster care sealed once they are adopted?

Well, it's obvious it has nothing to do with protecting the child or the natural parents, since the records remain open unless an adoption takes places and finalizes.

Records didn't always seal when an adoption took place. But, people didn't like "just anyone" being able to find out that their child was adopted. So, records began sealing from the general public, but remained open to both sets of parents and the adopted person. After a time, records began sealing from other parties, as well, since people feared natural parents coming back for the child or blackmailing the adoptive parents by saying they would "tell the neighbors" (so to speak) that the child was adopted. So, records began sealing from the natural parents. By the end of WW2, records were sealing from all parties, as adoptive parents wanted the option of not telling their child s/he was adopted, but not having to worry that they might find out via their birth record. The wanted it to truly appear to everyone, including their child, that the child was born to them. Bastardy and infertility were great stigmas to carry. Infertility was a sign in the eyes of many that God was holding back his blessing, so an infertile person must be a "bad" person. Bastards, of course, were thought to possibly come from "bad blood."

Then, there are "system" issues. People like Georgia Tann who actually kidnapped children in order to have her wealthy and celebrity clients adopt them had to cover their tracks somehow. Some organizations literally changed data on amended birth certificates such place of birth and a date of birth, even by as much as a year. There really were those (and still are some) who felt (feel) the need to hide their legal "indiscretions."

So, here we are.

My 14 year old daughter wants to go into foster care?

I have a 14 yo daughter that keeps saying she wants to go into foster care, and that foster care would be better than 'this'. I'm not sure what she means by 'this'.

In the last couple years a lot of things have changed... mostly money wise. I lost my job which paid decent money, and struggled to find a new one. I used to be able to buy her some name brand clothing although that is not where I shopped exclusively for her. I also shopped at target and kohls for things for her. That is no longer possible. I used to be able to pay for any extra curricular she was interested in, I used to have money for her to do anything she wanted with her friends.
That is no longer possible.

I am by no means neglecting her though! She has plenty of clothing, there is always food in the frig/pantry, I have been able to keep the house, although I have had to drop the cell phone plans and cable TV to be able to keep up the payments. She has everything she *needs*, I just can't buy her everything she wants lately.

I also certainly don't abuse her! I have *never* hit her or said anything I regret saying and that I feel would hurt her self esteem. I try to keep my worry and anxiety over finances to myself. In the past when I have had boyfriends, I have waited more than 6 months into the relationship to introduce them to her, so it's not like there is or ever has been a revolving door of 'uncles' for her.

Further more, unlike quite a few of the parents with teens that I know, I make sure we eat dinner together at the table, and I *try* to talk to her about her day.. not like I get a response of more than a word or two though. I don't let her run wild. I know who her friends are and where she is going and what she does online etc.

So I really don't understand why she wants to go into foster care! How can I set her straight that foster care isn't for her?

Honestly, a part of me wants to PUT HER THERE just to give her a wake up call / attitude adjustment. I honestly didn't think I raised a spoilt brat, but it is starting to look like I did after all.

Whose surname do foster/adopted children keep?

Do adopted children (children put up for adoption at a later age) keep their biological father's last name, or do they take their adopted parents'? And how does it go for foster children?
In both cases, I'd like to know whether or not their last names would ever change. I'm also curious if it's a choice then whose choice it is - the kid's versus the guardian's.

Thank you!~

Can foster child stay home alone?

The state that you live has actual age limits where a child can stay at home, although foster guidelines are often more strict, and a case by case basis might need to be established for many kids. For instance, there are 17 3/4 year old kids who should never be left alone, because they've threatened or made a suicide attempt.

Most foster kids have allowances in their funding to stay at state approved daycare or after school projects so they're not alone. There are also guidelines set up for a certain amount of time after a child is placed to be in 24/7 surveillance, because of various issues that could arise. Many, many, many times, foster kids have issues that take months and even years before they come out into the open as a problem. Many things are locked up inside, and it's sad, but these kids need a lot more help than others.

Also, kids need supervision, and cannot be left over a certain amount of hours in a day's time, which can again vary by case. For instance, a child, age 17, who is actually an orphan, who's parents are deceased for more than 3 years, and who's adjusted into a foster family could probably be not only left alone, but could probably get a part-time job as a babysitter and be perfectly safe and legal. Another child who's grown up street-wise, and who's parents have lost custody for allowing the child to use drugs might never be a productive citizen and able to be around kids or who might suffer from depression so bad, that left alone, they'd do something really stupid (extreme case here).

Because kids have histories that no one in the system has seen in person, there's a lot that could happen until they reach a maturity that comes with a safe home, structure, love, attention, and a solid foundation. It takes more time to grow these kids up from the point that abuses started in many ways. There's a lot of 16 year old in foster care who have potty-training issues, because at age 2, their parents lost custody, and their development stopped in maybe just one area of their development. Issues like this can affect other parts of their lives, and they need to make the full-circle adjustments before being left alone.

Can your foster parent take a cell phone that your parents pay for?

i have a cell phone that my parents gave me. they have paid for it since before i got into foster care.
when in trouble is my foster parent allowed to take that phone from me?